I have been with this guy for 3 yrs now and when we first got together our relationship was wonderful but as time has went by I have been feeling there is something wrong in our relationship. We use to spend alot of time together but now he dont much less talk to me. He Ignores me alot when he is on the computer, thats all he does anymore, and sleeps. I'll ask him to go somewhere with me and he makes up excuses not to go and I'll try to talk to him and sometimes I Feel like Im talking to my slef cause he never answers me. He talks to alot of women on the internet and he will hide it, He gets mad at me if I turn on the messenger archives to see what he talks about and he gets mad. He makes me feel insecure, not wanted, not loved, hurt, and I feel like he is wanting someone else and that he doesnt love me anymore. He makes me feel like Im not good enough for him. He tells me things that keeps me thinking about it for days at a time. I want him to respect me and my feelings again .
2007-02-02 03:52:13 · 14 answers · asked by Lost_N_Lonely_N_Wv 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it is time to move on. It will be hard, but in the long run it will be better for you. You can't make him change, and while he might change, it will be temporary and things will go right back to where they were before. You only have one life, so don't live it being miserable because of a guy. And any guy who acts that shady, and doesnt want his gf of 3 years to see who he is talking to and what he is saying is not trustworthy. Move on, your friends and family will be there to support you while getting over him.
~Good Luck!
2007-02-02 03:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, you don't need or want this guy to respect and love you. You want him to let you go so you can find the person that will give you the love and respect that you deserve. Why do you want to stay with someone that has shown you that he doesn't care how you feel or what you want. If you give yourself the chance you can have love and happiness but you have to want it for yourself. Let him go, get out of this bad relationship and move on. Once you get rid of your trash, you'll be surprised at how fast you find happiness. Other men can see the misery on your face, let it go and see how fast others approach you. Tell yourself you want and deserve better. Go get what you want and deserve. Leave him right there talking on the internet talking to his fantasy females who he really doesn't know and could be men.
2007-02-02 04:02:44 · answer #2 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already have it all figured out. Love is unconditional. It's good that you've figured this all out by now before it was too late (getting married and being stuck in the situation.) If he loved you, he wouldn't see ANY other woman in the world but you (and maybe his mom). Sounds like you deserve better than that! You obviously don't trust him if you want to read his archive messages and he obviously doesn't want you to read them if he throws a fit when you try. There is someone out there that will respect you and love you unconditionally. It's just not him. Move on! You deserve better!
2007-02-02 03:59:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like your boyfriend has gotten tired of the relationship. Its not your fault, but some guys are honestly happier when they are alone. I'm really sorry that you are goin gthrough this, because I've been there. But you have to take a stand. You deserve to treated like the beautiful, smart, warm, wonderful women that you are. You don't need him to feel like you are good enough, because with or without him you are ENOUGH. You need to make a decision, to either leave or try to make it work. What I wish I did before it got crazy was to leave. Do it for yourself, you deserve the happiness.
Take care.
2007-02-02 03:59:56 · answer #4 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do in this is the best thing a woman can do and as a man i know it will work. What you need to do is get all done up from head to toe and dont bother if he notices because he will. Then make and evening out for yourself and a girlfriend dont tell him anything but dont lead him to any wild conclusions let hiom see what he's missing while he's on the computer
2007-02-02 03:58:17 · answer #5 · answered by Mike B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be up front and asking him, if he's in the relationship at all? If he's talking to other women he might not be and you don't want to waste your time on someone who doesn't love and respect you, find someone who does, he's out there!
2007-02-02 03:58:21 · answer #6 · answered by **Red** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know the feeling, i think you have to move on, dont waste anymore time trying to fix it, it is normal actually for this to happen, but it doesnt mean you have to put up with it it means you should try again with someone else and at least have a couple more wonderful years and maybe more.
2007-02-02 03:58:11 · answer #7 · answered by rand a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of this relationship while you still can!
He does not love you. He's talking to girls on the internet for crying out loud! He's probably cybering with them. He's cheating on you! Dump him!! I know it will hurt now, but there's someone out there better for you!
You are better than how he treats you. He treats you like crap!
2007-02-02 03:57:06 · answer #8 · answered by New mommy 2010! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, i think once he's lost interest thats it. If he wants to be an A** then let him, just move on with your life, its hard to do but some times you need to just cut your losses and move on. When he realizes what he's lost, he'll regret it; but you should be enjoying life not feeling bogged down by his sorry a**.
Good luck sweetie!
2007-02-02 04:29:06 · answer #9 · answered by tweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not going to. The passion can diminish but the respect must stay constant if you are to have a relationship. Sorry, time to move on.
2007-02-02 03:56:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋