My parents own a liquor store and I work for them. In the engagement annoucement in the paper I am putting that I work for my parents instead of putting the name of the liquor store. They are mad at me because I am omitting this. I don't feel comfortable with it. I have grown up with this store and it is the reason I was able to have everything I wanted. BUT...I don't like the idea of the preacher who is marrying us reading that. I am getting no support from anyone all I keep getting is a bunch of criticism and bad opinions and I am tired of it....anyone else ever felt this way...how did you handle it?
2007-02-02 03:51:23 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
WELL.........
I've never been in that situation BUT....
#1 If you're parents own it and you work for them, then any preacher who would recognize you from your announcement already KNOWS that information. There's nothing to be ashamed of, it's not like it a brothel or strip club or anything....
#2 I can see where your folks may be "bit" offended by you're not mentioning, but I also can't see where it's that big of a deal either...other than free advertisement!
#3 What's done is done. The announcement has already been in the paper as-is...and unless you plan on placing ANOTHER announcement, there's really not THAT much that can be done other than to say to them that you're sorry they feel that way and you meant no offense by it.
SOME papers will post corrections...you could always check with the paper to see if they will post a correction. It doesn't re-list the entire announcement however, its just simply a foot-note of sorts that refers back to the announcement from "such and such" day and states the correction. Not all of them will do this, but you can always call to check. And you'll just have to explain to them that's the best you'd be able to do.
OR if you post a wedding announcement afterwards, you could always try to include it in that???
2007-02-02 04:03:13 · answer #1 · answered by secret_oktober_girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the store has given you everything you ever wanted then why are you not wanting to tell it. That liquor store is a part of not only yours but your parents. However, Saying you work for your parents is what you do. You are not lying or anything. Your to be husband and their family all knows what your family does and obviously they do not care and love you either way. Your parents have their own business when most family's work for others. I would say your parents have accomplished a lot and can say they have a successful business. Be proud of your parents. They may have their feelings hurt because they may feel you are embarrassed and that's they way it sounds when your question is read. You need to do what you want. This is your day.
2007-02-02 04:06:11 · answer #2 · answered by Tim VP 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why even mention where you work? Is it relevant? Why not just put your names and towns and the fact that you're engaged? I thought that was quite normal.
I'm not sure why your parents should be angry about this anyway - why is it an issue for them? An engagement announcement is not an appropriate vehicle for a store advertisement!
Is there an aspect of the wedding you could let them organise, so they feel they have a say? Then you can make clear you are organising everything else.
2007-02-02 04:03:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do it for your parents. Look at it from their angle, b/c of this store they have been able to give you everything you have ever wanted in life. In addition, you now work for them. They are passing their family business along to you. That says alot about people and is very admirable. You should be thankful that you have been provided with such an excellent opportunity in life.
Put the name in the announcement. You shouldn't worry about what the preacher thinks. Owning a liquor store is not against the law and does not mean you are a dishonest person.
Be proud of where you came from and what your parents did for you.
2007-02-02 04:01:07 · answer #4 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would ask them why they feel this way and dont leave until you get a good concrete answer. To me it seems as if they want the free publicity, do you feel this way? If so, I think you should tell them thats the way they are making you feel.
Yes I was made to feel the way you are feeling about each and every decision that I made by my husbands family. Unfortunately, I did nothing and allowed myself to be pushed and ordered around. Because I let myself do this, I dont look back on my wedding day fondly, its a very sore spot with me. I hope that this wouldnt happen to you as well, or any other bride for that matter. Your wedding day should be a wonderful day filled with great memories. Dont allow anyone to take that from you, learn from my mistakes. Your parents will get over things about your wedding day because its isnt the most important day in their lives, but on this day if you dont do the things that make YOU happy, you never will get over it. I've been married for over 8 years, I still think about it everyday and everyday I am saddened by it.
Best wishes!
2007-02-02 05:46:53 · answer #5 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want to put that in the paper either. Even though your parents are probably very rich from owning this place, there is no way you're going to make "Employeed at Liquor Store" sound good. They should at least be happy you put down that work for them. Your parents need to understand and respect your side of this situation.
2007-02-02 04:04:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Actually, I support your decision to omit the fact that you work for a liquor store. It has a stigma and I don't think the preacher would be comfortable mentioning it, because it is an unchristian business. It would be just as awful as someone publicly admitting that they were an abortionist. It may be legal, but it has a stigma. A liquor store doesn't help the world be a better place. It says, "I help drunks flush their lives down the toilet." You can tell your relatives who disagree that I said this.
2007-02-02 04:02:51 · answer #7 · answered by FUNdie 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I agree with you.
If it were a major company, like AOL or Cingular, that had some sort of security in place, then I'd put the name of the company.
But its a liquor store. Who knows who is reading that that does not like you (not that I think you are unlikeable) and might want to do something to get you or your parents in trouble?
I think you are making a wise decision in not naming the store.
2007-02-02 04:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Of course their feelings are hurt. They feel as if you are embarrassed by them. By the way, are the profits from the liquor store paying for your wedding?
2007-02-02 03:55:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
most people already know about you and your family business...just put in the paper that you are employed in the family business
advertising in the paper the date and time of the wedding and the family business name could make the store a target for breakin during the wedding because thieves would know that the family is busy...so for security purposes no need to be specific
2007-02-02 08:15:54 · answer #10 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋