why do we feel guilty after we do things to get to the one we love...I have done too much for him and he does not seem to care.
why do i feel guilty even if I know everything I have done is because I love him?
(Not bad things..just a little stupid like calling him and putting songs that say what I feel for him, sending text messages even when he never answered me, giving him a birthday gift and doing whatever to get the chance to be with him at least for a minute, etc, etc...)
2007-02-02 03:41:28 · 19 answers · asked by Pringuita 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you shouldn't feel guilty just a little frustrated that you do all of this stuff for a guy and you get nothing in return. even if he just showed his appreciation by a kiss or a hug that would be great. make sure you try to stop doing that kind of stuff (i know its hard since you care about this person so much) but once he sees that you are done giving and not getting so much back maybe he will learn to appreciate you better.
2007-02-02 03:48:44 · answer #1 · answered by play hard 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You feel guilty because you dont know why you did it, cause there is no pay off from it. We as humans dont do anything without a pay out or for some reason that will benefit ourselves. This has not benefited you. Stop tryin so hard. There is nothing you can do to make a guy like you than they already do!
All the best
2007-02-02 11:45:43 · answer #2 · answered by FIT-GAL 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your looking at things way too closely. You expect certain results from every little detail and your not going to get them. Try being a little less insecure by being a lot more independant. You can still love your sqeeze and still be your own person. I read your question and it reminds me of my sister. She gets bent over the silliest smallest details. You should try not to look at every single detail so closely and let the natural flow of your relationship grow on its own. You do your part by being there and doing the extra things.....so be good with that. I wish you the very best.
2007-02-02 11:49:02 · answer #3 · answered by BudLt 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well women or girls think just because you have a bf you canmake him love you and do anything and everything you want him to. But the first time something goes wrong, you don't know what to do. And some girls love your bf more than he loves you and you will do anything for him and the reason he doesn't answer you or do anything is because to him your starting to be a nusiance. SO becaefull and don't over do it. Because you don';t want to hear this" It isn't you it's me"
2007-02-02 11:48:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why do u feel guilty...everyone is making stupid things to show some1 that he cares for him/her......for ex: when i'm not with the one i love.....i keep telling myself that i'm so angry with himmm...and that he doesn't deserve me but when he comes to me and tell me that he's sorry,i feel changed and i forgive him quickly....(i guess this is also a stupid thing)
but u shouldn't feel guilty since u haven't done anything wrong.........
just keep telling yourself that u are a star and he doesn't deserve u...coz u're someone great......(that if he doesn't care about what u're doing)
and let him go u'll find someone better...or he'll come back to u when he realises that u really love him....and at this moment u can tell him:"let me think about it"
good luck :D
2007-02-02 11:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by no care for all 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do way to much for someone that isn't acknowledging what you do. Take a step back and let it play out. He may be feeling that you are smothering him with your emotions and he may take it that you are too needy. It may be difficult for you to take that step back because you 'show' your feelings but if you want it to work out, that is the only way. Let 'him' show 'you' his emotions now. It's about time he did.
2007-02-02 11:51:40 · answer #6 · answered by Karen A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its just because you feel stupid and used by someone who didn't appreciate you. I've been there, done that. Find someone that does appreciate the little things you do for him and someone that does those things for you
2007-02-02 12:33:28 · answer #7 · answered by Jen_n_TX 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you love HIM, or the way you feel having him in your life. If he is not going to respect the skills I say you dump the chump. There are other guys and emotional baggage is never worth it.
2007-02-02 11:44:20 · answer #8 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you feel guilty about wasting our time? Couldn't you have asked the question in the subject line rather than just (why????????)
2007-02-02 11:44:26 · answer #9 · answered by Relax Guy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel guilty when I do those things. What's there to be guilty about?
2007-02-02 11:43:59 · answer #10 · answered by Scary Monster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋