I have been on about 6 or 7 dates with him (we are both in our late 20's) and for the first few dates he paid and I let him. The last 2 times we went out I offered to split the bill with him and he accepted. At first he was hesitant but then he took the money. Now I feel obligated to offer everytime. We went to dinner last night and he took my half of the money with no problem. My friends say its a little rude. I am not traditional and don't really have a problem w/ it but I do wonder if this means something negative. What do you think guys?? (and girls?)
2007-02-02 03:39:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I always offer to pay my half the first few times and if he pays great, but I like to be independent. After that many dates I normally switch on and off who pays. That way it isn't to much for just one person to always cover the cost. That is how my BF and I started when we went out on dates. Now we have been together a little over a year and practically live together. We still switch on and off when we do things. If he is still asking you out he must like you so I wouldn't worry about it to much. If it does bother you just ask him.
2007-02-02 03:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by fallenangelf99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on now you equal at all cost lady, we are living in a new era . You are self sufficient and making a decent living . You really think a man should foot the bill for your fantastic company every time you get together ? NO, of course not . You do not want to be a drag and hang on to someone Else's pocketbook . Be your own person and do your share . I am an old lady and have lived my life long before you were born. Never have I suckered from a guy . Now, when you first dated and he asked you out of course he pays . If you take him out for his birthday ..... YOU pay the whole thing and vice verse . Now he obviously likes you ( or a little more perhaps) ; now he is comfortable with you and lets you chip in . That's how a good relationship is supposed to work .
If you go out to dinner and you think it's too expensive, speak up and say WE can't afford that . You get the drift I am sure .
I am sure he will appreciate you and spoil you with attention. One hand washes the other . ( corny, I know. LOL)
2007-02-02 11:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a bit of a tricky one this because it depends what he thinks at the time of accepting and could mean different things, i don't think its rude for him to accept, its good that he feels comfortable enough with you to be able to accept your offer and it may mean he views you as more of a partner perhaps long term where you will be sharing everything, however there is a risk he is becoming complacent and feels he doesn't need to make the effort - always the start of bad things. Perhaps as an answer you could arrange your next date and be in charge of paying and see if he either offers to pay half or returns the favor next time.
Another consideration is how the dates are organized, if he invited you out, a sort of "hey I'm gonna take you out tonight and romance you" then he should definitely be paying and anything else is rude however if it was more of a joint decision then the split payment is a reasonable option.
Personally i would always offer to pay for a date and turn down the offer of the other person paying any but if they insist i wouldn't want to offend them by keep turning them down.
2007-02-02 12:03:37 · answer #3 · answered by luke28b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it very awkward taking money from a female, but I know there is nothing wrong with it. The easiest thing to do is to take turns paying for the whole thing. This way there is no money changing hands and when it is your turn and you feel generous, you might want to pick a more up-scale place without feeling the slightest guilt.
2007-02-02 11:51:30 · answer #4 · answered by boredperv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's NOT rude. it's life with independent women, and a poor economy. so dont feel bad about it. however you should start paying for the whole meals just once, and then add, the next one can be on you. take turns here and there. same goes with movies and other money spending activities.
2007-02-02 11:46:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 or 7 dates means you have been dating for some time and it is not fair for him to pay for everything every time. If you have a job, and make decent money, why not pay?
2007-02-02 11:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I think he should pay, if you offer to split the cost do not complain when he takes you up on it.
2007-02-02 13:04:26 · answer #7 · answered by big_mustache 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk about it to him and say you don't think its right and if he still does it dump him
2007-02-02 11:44:15 · answer #8 · answered by kate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not really
2007-02-02 11:43:39 · answer #9 · answered by triway hottie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋