how do i handle my son?

Question

My son is 6 and half. He is very stubborn and naughty. Though i love him a lot but at times he is really irritating and drives me mad. When there is guest at home he always answers back. If he wants something then he really have to get it. Otherwise he is a very bright boy. He is very good in his studies and have never scored bad marks in his exams. How do i handle such a boy?

Answer 1

Be firm and consistant. Follow through on your promises of consequenses. Be careful what you tell him! In other words, don't say something in the heat of the moment like, "If you do that again I'm going to lock you in your room for a year!" because you know that there is no possibility of doing such a thing. Be realistic, be patient, kind but firm, and consistantly do the same thing. They are creatures of habit, and do learn with repetition. If you consistantly deny a pleasure for a room not being cleaned, then eventually the room will get cleaned.

Choose your battles, too. If something is really not such a big deal, but it is a matter of wills, then let him have that round. That saves your firepower for more important things. Let's say he wants to wear the green shirt but you have already taken out the red one. Not such a big deal, is it? But those types of things can quickly become power battles. Say to him,"Oh, I thought you could wear the red one, but if you want green that's fine. Let's find pants to match." Situation is diffused before it is a problem. Then you will have more credibility when it comes to the "time for bed, etc" battle.

Good luck. Patience and being in control of your emotions are key. Don't let him see how frustrated you are...it gives them power!

Answer 2

Your letting him treat you that way. Your the parent you know what he likes and dislikes. Take something away from him. My grandson minds me but not my daughter.She lets him get away with things and she doesn,t follow through. If you don't get control over him he wil only get worse. I bet your son behaves at school. The problem is with you. Don't let him argue with you or talk back. Take a favorite toy or TV away for a month. Make him have a time out. If he doesn't follow your rules take action right away and stick with it don't let him get away with anything. In a couple of weeks you notice a difference. He only 6 now wait until he 15 or 16 it won't be as easy to change. Your raising a spoid child. He not a bad child he has just learned how to work you. My daughter started working with her son a week ago and we can aready see inprovement. He is 3 years old. You don't have to scream or spank just be firm and let him know what to expect of him. Don't give in to him. Everytime you do you letting him know you can be worked. If you give a child everything he wants they will not apprecate anything. Teach him that in life he can always have what he wants or do everything he wants. That everybody has to follow rules in life and you even have to work to get waht you want. How far do you think he will get in life acting like this and do you think he will have many friends? It is a little harder being a firm parent, but take it from me. I have two great children who have a bright future. My son 21 works three jobs and is going to build a home next year on his own. He has 10 acreas and a new truck and is finshed with all his school.

Answer 3

Most people may say "be strict with him and show him your power". I'm sorry but I don't agree with this fully.
Children tend to get more spoilt when parents shout at them. The more you shout, the more they start doing things they want and avoid listening.
In your case, you have to train your boy. This is the right age to train them properly, because if done later, it will become too late. When your boy insists on having something that you believe is not good for him, don't give it to him! This will make him understand a very important lesson of life, that you cant get everything you want. It's important to work hard for it, and only if ou deserve it, you'll get it. Also, if you want your son to be a better, never ever bribe him. This is a very bad habit of some parents who do that. However, if he does something good, don't forget to reward him. Children feel happy when they get rewarded for good things they do. At the same time, when they do something wrong, they should be punished for it.
I would also like to add in that you should try avoid hitting your child. You know, some parents hit their children when they do something wrong. This is a very bad attitude. If you have any younger child after your son, don't be surprised if your son hits his younger sibling for taking his toy away.
Sometimes, parents think that a six to seven year old child is too young to be spoken to as an adult. Here is a misconception of parents. You'll treat your child as a baby, so he will continue doing such things. Try talking to him like an adult. Explain to him why he should do this and why he shouldn't do that. Convince him that you'll think is capable of understanding things. If you start treating him like a big boy, he will understand why answering back is wrong. If you are living with your parents/in-laws, you set a good example. Respect your parents/in-laws. He will start understanding things slowly. Do not expect results instantly. If you want immediate results, then just best him up or something, but if you want results which will be benificial in the long run, take my advice then.
Talk to him, explain to him. Set good examples yourself. Teach to to adjust with everything. Let him cry, plead you, or do anything. Do not give it to him if he is not supposed to have it.
And one more thing. If your son answers back now, let me tell you that kids in that age usually are like that at times, especially boys.
Anyway, all the best to you!

Answer 4

I too have a son that is almost six. He gets very stubborn and naughty at times. My child is also impatient and demanding at times. i always give him timeouts of 5-10minutes with no talking, playing, tv, ect{if he does talk or something his timeout is extended a minute or two for each offense.} I do this even when guests are here. Thats the hard part..He needs to know there are consciquences for his actions or he will keep pushing your buttons.

Answer 5

First of all let me ask you this, "who is the parent, did your son went through labour pain to have you?" I don't know if alot of people notice that most kids stays that way until they are eight years old and they are the smart ones in school. However, a six year old knows wrong from right and you need to break him down before it's too late. A child should always know their place. Whipping doesn't always do it but you should know what works best for your kid. You have to MAKE him respect you. Good luck.

Answer 6

Your child sounds very intelligent and can be manipulative to get his way. Next time you have a guest in your home and he acts out, excuse yourself, take him to his room and give him a couple of swats and make him stay in his room for x amount of time. I would call up a relative or friend that knows of the situation and explain what you need to do to stop his behavior. Ask them if they would be willing to come over, kind of like a dry run. That way, if you have someone important drops by, say your husbands boss, you already have the law laid down and he should behave..

Answer 7

He is in the attention seeking mode. He is craving for more attention. So, explain to him that you love him and at the same time wish his best, so he has to behave. No threats please. If he continues like that, ignore him and lock him in his room. Don't shout (that is yielding!).

If you still need help, look at homeopathy as a good option. No modern medicines pl. (too many side effects). Reiki is another good option.

Answer 8

The first thing you have to do is quite giving in. You are the boss and not him. If he acts up...don't give in....don't always give him what he want. You might have to avoid company for a while...but your have to take a stand know while you still can....the older he gets the harder it will be to get your point across.

Answer 9

He does that because he can. You allow it by not punishing him when he acts up in front of company. The next time he tries it punish him right in front of everybody. Or, if you prefer, take him out of the room and punish him in private. Whatever you do, do it right then and there, without exception.

Answer 10

Take away his toys, video games, tv, etc... (anything fun for him)! Make him earn them back gradually with good behavior. Don't give in to tantrums and yelling; in fact put him in time out for 6 minutes every time he is bad and has nothing you can take away!