Tell me if this would bother you or get you really angry? I am asking because a few people are telling me that

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they would not let it bother them. My roomate steals our things. She looks through our drawers when we are gone and she stole $50 in my wallet. My wallet was inside my closet which was locked up. She uses our things and always wants to borrow things. When I was eating my lunch, she wanted half of my cheesburger and even my iced tea. I said no!!!!Then whenever I come back into the room she always has to ask me where did you go? or Why are you sitting? or When I want to lie down in my bed she will tell me how unhealthy that is she does not leave me alone. I told her to mind you own god damn business. She stills does it. She is always in the room and is either on my bed on my other roomates desk/eating on top of her books. Lastly, when I was studying she told me that it is too quiet. I told her that I am studying I have a classes tommorow and she said well I do not like quietness;so she rudely watches television loudly and immaturely throws empty soda bottles while I am studying

I told this to my friend and he said that I am a moody biotch and he doesn't want to hear me b i tching abut my roomates

Answer 1

Student Housing CAN be tasking at times. I had a roomate like this once, I burned his drivers liscense

Answer 2

I would not stand for the lack of Respect that the roommate has. Your things are not for public use or for her use. This roommate would be gone faster than a cat can eat a mouse. I would put a lock on my door and keep it locked. I would also let this roommate know that it was not cool to act this way or borrows things without asking.She sound like a leach and always in the room so she knows whats being said about her. And the friends who thinks you're just bitching is not much of a friend or they would be on your side and be able to see how up setting this situation is.

Answer 3

Definitely time for a meeting where the two you can calmly air out problems. And that's the key... calmy. It cannot become a name calling situation. Clearly your expectations for a living situation are different (and more mature/grown-up) than your roommate's expectations. Be clear to her that stealing is not acceptable, and establish some boundaries about personal space and property. If a calm conversation doesn't work, try to bring in an adult third party.

Not to excuse your roommate's behavior, but did she come from a large family? She may be too used to a situation where everything belonged to everybody... almost a communal type home. Just one thing to consider.

Answer 4

This is not someone you will be pursuing a friendship with in the future, so why spare hard feelings now when this is affecting both your schoolwork and other friendships? Do what you already know you should do and get her out your place. Some people just aren't respectful of others, no matter what their actions cost them, and you make no mention of her making any effort to change. If your other roommate is willing to speak up, it will not make you appear over-sensitive - but really, if it were me, i wouldn't care about that at this point anyway.

Answer 5

I'm not certain whether you live in a dormitory setting or a leased apartment/house - If in a dorm; speak to the resident 'overseer' - and request she be moved OR you be given new digs....tell why!

If in a lease situation and she is NOT named on the lease - evict her!!

If she IS on the lease, have a sit down convo with her [all of you] and lay it on the line as to what the house rules will have to be. Warn her that should she continue to steal, you will call the authorities and report her. Get a padlock or combo lock for the door of your bedroom [however, if she is sharing that room with you, find another way to secure your belongings]

If none of the above works for you, begin looking for alternative housing for yourself....and that friend that says you're a moody *****? - With friends like that who needs enemies?

Answer 6

If you are in a dorm, talk to the counselor and demand a room change, she is a phcho roommate. The fact that she has stolen money from you should be enough to get her kicked out. You are not being a b------, you have the right to expect a roommate to keep her hands off your things, I don't know you have put up with it this long.

Answer 7

Sounds like it's time for a meeting. Get the roomates together and talk about house rules, personal space, etc. No need to be miserable in your own home.

Answer 8

I'll tell you, I sure wouldn't put up with it. If she doesn't have the integrity not to steal or "borrow" little things, she will take the big things too. If she doesn't have the common courtesy to be quiet when you are studying, then get rid of her asap. If your other roomate doesn't agree with you, maybe you should be looking to move.

Answer 9

Theft is unacceptable, period. All the other things you named are annoyances, pretty bad ones but still annoyances. Theft however is a crime, whether it's from a roommate or not. Kick her out NOW and tell her if she doesn't hand you the $50 within the hour you'll file a police report. Then if she doesn't, do it.

Answer 10

Everything you describe about your roommate's behavior would make me really angry. Has your roommate ever heard of boundaries? She needs to respect your space, property and privacy, as you should hers. Civility is called for, which means people should communicate politely and respectfully with each other. (Saying it's "none of your damn business" is also disrespectful. You could say that you don't appreciate having to explain your activities.)

When you or your other roommate say you don't want her using your things or getting into your things, she should respect that. Roommates need to be trustworthy. If people don't shape up they should ship out!