right so i was chattin 2 this fella from cork on the net for a month or so.... was goin over there to visit a friend anyway so we decieded to meet up. we got on really well and after the first meet met each other 3 days in a row after that. went out clubbing and had great time. ended up staying at his one night.. so we are still in contact now and he wants to pay for a ticket for me 2 come back over 2 see him. i told him i would like that but now am nervous. not sure whether i could now, dont feel confident enough and have only ever slept with two people and get nervous about sex and what men may think of me in bed or my body! what should i do? im scared 2 go on top and try new positions too! please help!
2007-02-02 03:06:23 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems quite dangerous to rely on him for accomodation - and he seems to be quite sure of what he wants from you, perhaps taking it a bit faster than you would like.
Go, but consider it a holiday - pay your own way and have a B&B to stay in local to his area so you're self-sufficient and have a fall-back plan. Make sure someone knows where you are all the time, and stay in contact with people back home as well as the friend who lives nearby to him.
Don't allow yourself to be pressured into sex - and make sure you let him know that regardless of whether he pays for things (tickets, evenings out, whatever) you DON'T OWE him anything for it. It's his choice and anything that happens between you is your choice.
Also, it seems slightly suspicious that he's offered to pay for you to visit him, without mentioning the reverse - would he take the time to visit you? would he travel to see you and take time off work etc? Make sure you're putting equal effort and energy into the budding relationship.
Lastly, keep in mind that this is long distance, and relationships over that much space are hard work.
2007-02-02 03:13:32 · answer #1 · answered by Extra_Sweetcorn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ah give him a chance he obviously likes you and not just for sex if he is willing to pay for you to go and visit him again. at the end of the day if it was sex he was after i'm sure he could go out any night he wanted and pull.
talk to him explain it all before you decide wheter to go and see what he says if he still wants you to go then hes a keeper and not just after one thing.
2007-02-02 03:11:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion, for me there's a temptation. no longer plenty to cheat, yet to do something that my spouse might discover unacceptable. Like going to a strip club. I might desire to confess, i lose interest sitting there all by potential of myself in a inn room, and together as i do no longer extremely like observing strippers (maximum are skanks), a minimum of i'm no longer on my own. My spouse does not approve of that interest.
2016-12-16 19:32:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See I don't understand why this bloke would pressure you into sex when you hardly know him. Why do you EVEN THINK you have to have sex with him before you know him? This is crazy, you don't have sex willy nilly you know. Its a very important step which MEANS SOMETHING you don't just chuck it about like a wet lettuce because everyone else does. If he really likes you he will respect that you need time. DID YOU JUST MAKE THIS UP SO YOU COULD TALK ABOUT SEX THOUGH!!!!!!!
2007-02-02 03:14:15 · answer #4 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If your not comfortable don't go. The only way your going to get more comfortable with sex is experience. Don't be afraid to try new positions - and don't worry about your body!! You have to be comfortable with who you are.
2007-02-02 03:14:15 · answer #5 · answered by lunasage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are nervous then either tell him or dont have sex
2007-02-02 03:12:25 · answer #6 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋