What went wrong?

Question

I met this georgeous girl in a bar last weekend, we got chattin, hit it off and exchanged phone numbers. 2 days later we went out on a date and it was great, we really got on, i rang her that night to make sure she got home safely and i mentioned i would call her later in the week to see how she was and if she wanted to go out again sometime. I txted her 3 days after the date to see how she was, there was no response, i then rang her the following night to see how things were, still no respnse, then again twice over a 3 hour period and still just ringing away. She was 5 years younger than me and she did mention she had'nt been in a relationship for a year and a half,and that her previous relationship was a bit messy. I get the impression she had second thoughts and is probaly not interested in me. Ive decided not to get in contact with her again, i'll let her decide if she wants to get in touch with me. I really liked her though so im a bit gutted.
what went wrong? Help pleaze guys???

Answer 1

Sometimes woman (hard to believe I know..hehe) have second thoughts. A messy relationship can really mess with someone's head - it is hard to get over something sometimes. You sound like a really sweet guy though, you called her to make sure she got home safely and you called to check up on the second date. I believe calling her so many times in a 3 hour course is a little stalk'ish though. I agree, just leave her alone for a while. If she isn't ready to date just yet, you don't want to date her either. That wasn't an evil comment, just you don't want to get involved with someone that doesn't want to be with you at that time. I would text her one more time though. Explain that you were delighted to have the chance to get to know her a little that one date. Mention also that it is in her court, she can call you if she ever gets ready to go out again. As for now, let her heal.

Don't worry, you will find another person that is ready to date. If she was the one, then she will contact you sometime. Things happen in strange ways - just ride the ups and downs of life. Good Luck! Don't get discouraged - it wasn't you!

Answer 2

That is the kind of rude and inconsiderate behavior that some women seem to think they can get away with.

Then they are all flustered when they get hit and run on!

You did nothing wrong bro just handle your sh i t.

But next time have some self respect and only call back once or twice.

My gut tells me that you helped her feel good enough about herself that she projected that confidence to the other guy that was more hotter to her than you.

Therefore you got dissed!

edit:

She is probably a basket case dealing with her messy baggage that she has yet to come to terms with.

She needs some major self improvement before she goes back on the market as a person worth being in a long term relationship with.

In the mean time there are plenty of other single women, with a healthy mindset and outlook on life who are probably more considerate and respectful to a gentlemen like you so don't sweat it.

Also, be careful to avoid projecting desperation visa vi stalkerish 3 times in a row calls!

Answer 3

You are doing the right thing by letting her decide. Some people jump straight into relationships only to find that they made a big b*lls-up of thing and then bugger off leaving their other half high and dry and without a clue.

Hope you hear back from her soon, otherwise start enjoying being single...It never lasts forever!

Answer 4

I dont really see that you did anything wrong ...but you can never gauge what a woman is thinking sometimes...maybe she thought you waited too long to call her maybe shes actually seeing someone else...im pretty sure what happened has nothing to do with you and everything to do with her. Good Luck :P

Answer 5

Ah nobody knows, i've had this happen to me a once it goes great you get on great there is all talk of another date you text when you get home etc etc and then nothing just nothing, i dont know what happens but i think its just damn rude to not answer at all at least if they answered and explained you'd feel respected. people like that arent worth wasting your time on. i'd just leave her be now and as you said she knows how to contact you if she wants.

Answer 6

nothing go wrong. she just not interested. dont call or text her everyday. call her again in 2 weeks and see if you get a response. sometimes, you cant keep calling when you just meet up with a person. do it slow and easy. be cool.

Answer 7

Its possible that she didnt get out of the date what you did, which is fair enough but it's bad of her to not return or answer your calls. I would suggest not calling her anymore. This one isn't for you.

Theres a nice girl waiting elsewhere.

Answer 8

Who knows, women are complex beings (i know, i am one) so you wouldnt know what was going on in her head. You're doing the right thing by taking a step back. Its up to her then if she wants to get in touch and you wont look desperate.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

maybe is she is scared of gettin hurt and does want to give any signals out until she is sure herself what she wants. woman are confusing i know.,.... but take it slow give her time n just ask her 2 the movies r sumin.. remember she is a lot younger than you!