Recently I got a new boyfriend, I thought he loved me the way I love him altho I havent slept with him and never did I. I broke up with him coz it seems all he want is to sleep with me. I was hurt doing so coz I really loved him but I cant do it, I have my own beliefs. I'm 18 and I've never done it ever. nor will I in the future coz I believe in the sanctity of marriage. Now, I wanna ask if love is always about the sex? and is there any guys out there who can love a girl without doing it and asking for it?
2007-02-02 02:47:07 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I mean can you love a girl and wait until marriage until you do it ???
2007-02-02 03:14:37 · update #1
There are but in minority! Sex for most men is almost everything. If it is good then everything is good. If its bad then everuthing is bad. That is the reality with most men, even if we try to deny it. Its not surprising, therefore, to see a man interprating sex as a sign of love and prediction of bright future.
There are some, though, who believe otherwise, but, as I said, they are in a minority, just as you, with your beliefs, are in minority among girls.
so, probably you will meet your countepart in boys. Do not dispare!
Good luck!
2007-02-02 02:57:24 · answer #1 · answered by Ebby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Love shouldnt even be about sex in the first place. I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a month now and he has told me when I'm ready, then that will be when it happens, if it ever happens. The guy didnt really love you if thats is all he wanted from you. He was just a horny guy. Im sorry to say that, but it seems like that is how a lot of guys are today. Find the right guy and give it up to him after you get married. I wish I did that.. i regret so much from not waiting. Good luck and god bless
2007-02-02 10:54:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of good ones out there....you just gotta go through the losers and horn dogs first.
Good luck, and I'm glad there are still some very smart and respectful people out there. I waited til I was 18 and loved the guy but he wasn't really the one for me...the next one should have been the one. Oh well.
Live life and try not to regret.
2007-02-02 10:52:09 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there are guys out there who believes in the same thing. Love comes in various ways and it doesn't always have to be Sex. Know that most guys out there will ask you for it. There's no doubt about that. But there are some who will respect your wishes because they care for you and those are the ones you should really consider going out with.
2007-02-02 10:56:41 · answer #4 · answered by Derfboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your beliefs. If you are going to wait for marriage then the guy you find will wait. There is always someone out there just like you. Don't let anyone pressure you into something your not ready to handle. Think of all your consequences like STDs and babies before sex.
2007-02-02 10:54:39 · answer #5 · answered by roxanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's always about sex for guys...what else should it be about. We don't like shopping, we don't do hair and make up, yata, yata. So give us/me some suggestions. I mean we like you and everything, but other than that (sex) what other reason is there for us to "bond"? Don't get me wrong, I applaud the fact that you're a virgin. I wish that I could say that about myself. Sex is nothing more than a physical act for me...it's not "making love" or anything emotional for most guys the way it is for some girls. What's love got to do with sex?
2007-02-02 11:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a man, I can tell you this. Men do have high sex drives but if a man cannot or will not take control over these drives and respect you, your feelings and put your and wishes above his own, he does not love you enough and is not worth of your love.
Stick with a guy that is out of control or doesn't care what you want, and you are guaranteed a lousy relationship.
Find someone deserving of your love.
2007-02-02 10:56:09 · answer #7 · answered by Stan M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes there is and i want to commend you for sticking with your values and moving on as soon as you seen what kind of person he really was regardless of the fact that you loved him. And one day you're gonna find that guy that's got more on his mind than sex. Because it is some out there. Good Luck!
2007-02-02 10:53:31 · answer #8 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, there is more to love than just sex.. Hold strong to your values, because there is someone out there who will love you for you, and will be willing to wait until marriage. You go girl.
2007-02-02 10:50:49 · answer #9 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Dollxhear,
I would love to give you a detailed reply - and hopefully by citing my own example, put your mind at rest. But as you have asked a very pertinent question, I would like to reply for YOUR EYES ONLY and have no desire to share it with EVERYBODY on Yahoo Answers.
Therefore, IF you are really interested in hearing what I have to say about it, write to me directly on my email address:
( maxalikhan@yahoo.com )
MAX ( the FUNGUY )
2007-02-02 11:19:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋