How to deal with the pain of loosing a parent?

Answer 1

My Dad passed away last July. He had lived a long and productive life and my sister and I were privileged to be with him at the end. Not everyone has that opportunity.
Grieving I'm told is a different experience for each person. Initially the numbness of feeling and the need to organise the funeral service occupied me. People were very kind but after a certain point, I just needed to not talk about it any more. I just needed to be left alone with my own feelings. Work is a distraction and gradually the pressing needs of one's own life take over and you are forced to get back into your routine. I still think if my Dad and often will comment out loud to him about something or other. He is still such an integral part of my life. Sometimes I still can't believe he is really gone but then his essence ir spirit is part of me forever.
Having said all this, I can't imagine how hard it is for a young person to lose their parent. To lose the security blanket of one of your loving parents, to have to fill the void in your life, to have to take on more adult responsibilities if one has younger siblings, to try to comfort other family members. It must be so overwhelming.
I hope that you have lots of good people to talk to whenyou need to and always keep your parent's memory alive.
My condolences to you and your family !

Answer 2

This is very difficult. My mother died exactly 3 and a half years ago today and I'm still grieving. I'm 36, married with two children and still it was very hard. Try to take it day by day, go out a lot in the sunshine, it helps when you're sad and be with friends and family you love. The pain will never go completely, our parents are a part of us. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 3

My wife lost her father to cancer the first year we were together and it devastated her. She still has days now, almost 5 yrs later that it really gets to her. I don't know if you ever really get over losing a parent, you just learn to deal with it a bit better. Try to remember all the good times you had together and enjoy the good memories. I hate to say it, but only time will help to ease the pain.

Answer 4

It can take a life time, but its an effort, it is very hard, no advice is a good advice, it is very very hard. My dad died and i still cry, you are lucky your parent must be really wonderful hence the pain. Thank your stars you had someone so wonderful, But believe me, parents can be kept alive within us by taking in some of the best qualities within us, this way we can keep them alive everyday. We become them, perhaps you could be a good parent too, because of the role model you had, you are giving the gift of your parents to your own children by imbibing the best qualities within you.
Sometimes to cry is ok, it helps, because the tears are saying how much you miss them, and they are physically not near you, but believe me their energy is around you, sometimes we can smell them, and when i smell i say hi papa, do you think your parent will like to see you in misery?? Cheer up i know how you feel.

Answer 5

I found a terrific webiste - Sympathy Solutions, that will be a great resource for you. The site has a library of stories that others who have lost a loved one share about their grief experience.

There is a great selection of books that will help you in your path to recovery - I think I'm going to order one for my stepchildren whose mother passed away the day after Christmas.

Besides using the Internet to access resources, please know how important it is to get counseling. Try to have at least one person you know and trust who you can confide in also. You'll need a support system to help you cope with your loss.

My prayers are with you at this time and please know that there are others who are dealing with the pain of losing a parent. Hang in there, and I wish you all the best as you begin your healing journey.

Hope this helps.

Answer 6

That's a hard one. It's a day at a time thing. I lost my Mom a few years back. The pain does lessen and is replaced by the good memories you have, but your life is never quite the same. If you go a few months and haven't been able to cope at all, you may want to try grief counseling.

Answer 7

I lost my mum to cancer 8 months ago and I am finding it so difficult to deal with her loss. She was my best friend, we were always together. What makes me feel a bit better is thinking about the happy times together and knowing that she lived life to the fullest. Eventually the pain I have for her loss will start fading away but my mum will always be with me in my heart.

Answer 8

You just have to take one day at a time. When I lost my mother I cried every day for two years. It's been 61/2 years and not a day goes by that I don't think of her. It's easier now, I talk to her often and I feel her presence around me a lot. I still cry now and again but I think that is normal. I have many great memories and that keeps me going.

Answer 9

Wow I haven't lost my parents yet, but my best advice to give to you is just to deal with it the best way you can. Realize that your parent isn't suffering anymore and is in a better place now with God. God had a reason to take him or her away and has many plans for the next life. It will be okay! Just take it in slowly. Sorry about news.

Answer 10

Many organizations such as: Hospice, religious organizations, and your local mental health organizations, offer grief counseling. Grieving the loss of a loved one is natural but not easy, time will ease the pain of the loss but not the reality. If you feel that you need help, by all means get help.