He acts like he doesnt care anymore, but when we discuss breaking up he says okay i dont care, but he calls me back within a few minutes or hours...i asked him who was at his house the other day and he just laughed and said nobody baby, and i cont. to laugh everytime i asked him...but he swears up and down that there wasnt any one there just his aunt and uncle....when i ask about someone being there, he says if u cant trust me then we might as well break up, and if i say i believe him he cont. to say u dont believe me u think im cheating on u....does he want me to think he is, is he cheating on me but he doesnt have the balls to tell me so he rather me break up with him??? Please help me figure this out....its driving me crazy if u cant tell....also, if u have any suggestions on how to catch him if he is or any signs i should be aware of that could mean he is cheating on me.. let me know!!! THanks so much!
2007-02-02 02:32:39 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We've been dating for over a year and just recently he has been acting weird....i do trust him to an extent but he makes me not trust him.
2007-02-02 04:08:49 · update #1
He's immature. Move on. Do you like the situation as it is right now? Trying to figure out what's going on etc....
If you don't like it then why are you in it, move on, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Don't settle for a cheater. If he laughs he's obviously hiding something.
Read this book, it's the best book and every young woman should read it before ever dating: "He's just not that into you".
2007-02-02 02:39:58 · answer #1 · answered by Gist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but it does kind of sound like he's playing you. The fact that he doesn't seem to care anymore but still wants a relationship suggests that he wants stability-- a "backburner" girl-- while he messes around. He wants to hang on to you just in case whatever else is going on behind your back doesn't work out.
As for figuring out if he's cheating, the easiest (but most painful) way would be to show up at his house when he's not expecting you. I would only use this as a last resort, as an ugly fight could break out if he really is cheating on you. Another option could be to have a trial separation-- don't talk, don't see eachother for a week, and if you feel better about your life without him, call it quits for good.
2007-02-02 02:41:36 · answer #2 · answered by janeowyn180 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is right. If you don't trust him break up with him. Until you have any evidence on him at all, you have nothing to go on but instinct. In that case girl you have to do the next step and snoop. Yep, if you have a key to his house and hopefully you do, when he is away go through the checkbook and computer as well as his bedroom. When he is asleep check the wallet. Go through the cell for phone numbers. Call the show "cheater" and have them follow him for several days to be sure he isn't cheating on you and if he is have them throw it in his face on national televison and be able to show your power by confronting him on national televison and then show your weakness by taking him back. Now does this sound like a waste of your time? If so DUMP HIM! Otherwise you have to make the choise to TRUST HIM. Isn't dating fun?!
2007-02-02 02:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by LM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but it sounds like you are very insecure in your relationship with him and sounds like you need constant reassurance which is driving him away. If you don't trust him, which obviously you don't, you are creating a self-fulfilling prophecy and eventually he will think, heck, I am getting accused of it anyway, might as well cheat on her.
If you really don't trust him and truly in your heart of hearts think he is cheating on you, why would you want to stay in the relationship and worry about "catching him"? What would be the point? If you think he is cheating, break it off and don't waste your time on what you are deeming a dead end relationship by what you have stated above.
2007-02-02 02:39:35 · answer #4 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, he is definitely acting shady. And if his response to breaking up is ok, then I'd really be worried. The best thing for you to do is lose this guy. He seems to be very immature and enjoys hurting you. I'm sorry you are going through this. You deserve someone who isn't into playing games. If I were you I'd just walk away, and if he does start chasing you, don't take him back. You need someone who will step up and be a man for you, not a child.
Take are
2007-02-02 02:37:33 · answer #5 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's playing games with you. Guys usually do that so they'd feel more in control of the relationship, knowing that their girl would go crazy if they suspect that they're cheating. Guys use the guilt trip "if you don't trust me, we might as well break up" to boost their own ego and confidence, saying that "we got our girl wrapped around our pinky." These kind of guys are immature. Just dump him because he's not worth your time.
2007-02-02 02:39:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he's cheating, but it doesn't sound like he cares anymore. He's stringing you along by the sounds of it, just to see how much you'll take before you finally walk away. It seems he has the upper hand in this relationship, and he knows it. Don't waist your time chasing after him. Don't you deserve someone who won't gerk you around, and who you can trust? If you're doupting him, then it's already half over.
2007-02-02 02:39:07 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is probably cheating, probably lying, and probably doesn't care much anymore. Knowing all that, you may still have fun with him if you enjoy being with him, otherwise you have to decide how much BS you want to put up with. If their is just too much lying, cut the relationship, even nobody can be better than a real mess up guy. Plus you may find someone better, or may find someone worse. Good luck
2007-02-02 02:39:57 · answer #8 · answered by dumb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he sound like me. I don't want to have to beg for someones trust if I didn't do anything to lost it. And if you consitantly aske me thing you don't trust me and we shouldn't be together. But if he is very flritatous and his whole atitude changed he is probably up to something. Don't accused him just tell him why you feel this why if he really is into you he will reasure you and hopefully give you more attention
2007-02-02 02:41:16 · answer #9 · answered by candy girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing games, and whether he is or is not cheating makes no difference at all. He obviously doesn't care about you as a couple or he wouldn't say whatever when you ask him about it.
2007-02-02 02:37:06 · answer #10 · answered by melouofs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋