What sould i do about my sister?

Question

We are both nearly 30 and have always had a really good relationship but recently there it has dwindled to nothing apart from a 'hello' and a 'goodbye' if we just happen to see each other. Iv e-mailed her and she has replied but never e-mails me first to see how we are or any thing.
Iv got 18 month old twins and she has never made any effort to come and see them, i dont think she can even tell the difference between them! I honestly dont know why its like this, iv thought about speaking to her but i dont want it to blow up in a big row and on the other hand i think well if she is going to be like that then **** her!!! There are also lots of other things that go on e.g she takes her child to same school as mine and even though i have 2 small babies and she passes my house to go to the school, she has never offered to pick up my elder ones and take them to school with her!??

Answer 1

Very hurtful. You must feel very rejected.

Communicate your feelings to your sister!
Tell her how you feel!
Be honest with her!
Don't feel too afraid to be open i.e. wear your heart on your sleeve.

It might all be happening because she is very busy, or she thinks you snub her, or perhaps you have both got into this pattern due to some previous problem that has not been fully ironed out, which can still be smoothed?

If your sister continues to snub you without any decent explanation, you know you will have tried & done your best to affect a happier, more satisfying relationship for both your sakes and your children.

Sisters should support & help each other emotionally & it is a real shame when they squabble. But understand that some times, one sister might be colder due to resentment & jealousy.
That's hard to overcome & it might not be something you can defeat, all can do is keep trying. In that event, maybe with the passage of time... the rift/s will heal?

Good luck. Hang in there.

Answer 2

You need to ask her why.
Don't do this be email, either pick up the phone or go round to her house and visit.
Stay calm and ask if you have done something to offend her. Listen to what she has to say even if you don't like the answer she has a right to express her opinion.
It takes two to make an arguement so you don't have to let things blow up.
Don't be angry about her not offering to help you, she doesn't have to, you are responsible for your own children.

Answer 3

Perhaps instead of emailing phoning her up to have a coffee.Kids are entitled to get know their cousins too.Maybe you should make the first move.