should i go alone to the movies w/ two black guys? should i trust him?

Question

i met him on myspace and i dont know wt to do HELP ME PLZ!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

First, forget about him being black.

You should treat this situation like you would any other on line meeting. You should meet someplace publicly and bring a friend. Someone else should know where you are. You should have a cell phone. You should probably to a matinee. Even if things are going well, let the movie be it for the time being. See how you feel; get to know him before you arrange for a second date. If there is a second outing, the same rules should apply.

That said, and being a black woman living in a predominately white state, it's really insulting that you're concern is that they're black. When I become acquainted with someone I like, I don't wonder whether or not I should go shopping or to a movie with them because they're white, or Native American, or Latino or Plaid. I give everyone the same opportunity to be decent people until they give me a reason to think otherwise. There are blacks I don't talk to because we don't have anything in common or they don't have acceptable character...and that has nothing to do with them being black.

My gut reaction is to tell you not to go because these guys deserve to be treated decently from the gate and judged on the content of their character, not because they're black. I'm not sure you're capable of that.

Answer 2

Honey, it doesn't matter if he's black, white, or purple, don't go with him alone to the movies! MySpace is a fun place to start superficial internet relationships, but taking it to the next level (meeting someone in person) requires a great deal of caution. You've never met him, so you don't know if he's actually who he says he is. This fact could be EXTREMELY dangerous.

If you're really interested in having a relationship off the net from him, slow things down a bit. Have you talked to him on the phone? Try that first for a little while. Another great option is, if you both have webcams you can see for sure what he looks like. Then, and only then, when you are fairly certain of who he is, should you meet him-- in public and with one or more friends. DO NOT go to meet him alone, especially if he's bringing some of his buddies along, and DO NOT go anywhere with him in a car, even if you have your friend along for the ride. If he wants to go to the movies, meet him there and find your own way back. And above all, be cautious-- if you feel uncomfortable, end the relationship.

Answer 3

First of all, their color should not be the reason why you shouldn't go. Its the fact that you are going out with two people you met on myspace. You don't know them and the image of you going to the movies alone with two guys, not matter the color or race, isn't a good look. Decline politely and don't try to meet up with strangers unless you have more than one friend with you.

Answer 4

It shouldn't matter if they are black or white, but meeting anyone on the internet, you have to be careful (And I mean this towards men and women) Meet the person at the theatre, and make sure you watch a movie that will have enough other people in the theater so you won't be alone. And tell someone where you will be just in case!

Answer 5

Doesn't make any difference what color they are. You don't know them and I don't care how well you THINK you know them on myspace.

For example, I set up a dummy person, "acquired" friends (some that I also made up), then asked to be my daughter's friend.....she is VERY careful (she thought) with keeping her profile locked and such. Well, she went out to the mall to publicly meet her new on-line bf and there I was.....her Mom.

So, I hope you think that over real carefully. Have a group of people you KNOW with you and don't ever meet in someplace where you can be singled out and away from them.

Only a very foolish girl would go with 2 guys to a movie on a date. Think about it - you are essentially helpless to anything they may want to do.

Answer 6

After all the negative exposition Myspace has gotten from all the predators out there just looking for innocent little girls, you're asking this? You should have better sense! Steer clear of anything that makes you feel nervous, doubtful, embarrassed, harassed, humiliated, scared, threatened or uncomfortable. The fact that you are asking for advice fits into one of the above!

Answer 7

Firstly - If he was White, Italian or purple with pimk spots would it make a difference?

Secondly - Its up to you really, I personally wouldn't as you dont know who you are meeting, yeah you've seen their pictures and you chat etc, but hey we all know that the internet and chat rooms can be used by - to be polite - nasty people! he could be sweet enough over a keyboard - but in real life?

If you feel you really like him, and want to meet him, go in a group with your friends and his friends,

If you insist on meeting alone let people know where you are going and what time to expect you home, and keep in contact via your mobile.

Good luck in whatever you decide, but please be safe x

Answer 8

sometimes i don't believe we young ones don't know the right thing to do when even the right thing is in our front staring at us, i'm sorry to say but you and i know that mama do tell us not to out alone with guy beco's of what'll happen and here you are tolking about two guys. do you know if they have plans on ground for you, the plans could be positive or nagative but mostly, it is what you and i are scared of.
so girlfrind, pick two or more of your friends along to the movies more over movies can't be interesting when watch aloneeeeeeeeeee. love u

Answer 9

do you not know that there are crazy ppl online and you can't always trust ppl. so no i wouldn't go alone. use ur common sense plz. he may or may not be a good person so if u do choose to go take someone with you. if you feel as though that it isn't safe then don't go listen to your instincts. also what does his color have to do with anything??? just because he is black doesn't mean that he may try to harm you.

Answer 10

hello, meeting people on my space can be very dangerous if you are still wanting to meet them DO NOT go alone take a group of friends. you never know what crazy people are out there