I'm hurting from the loss of a loved one and my girlfriend feeling neglected. I feel her frustration and I hope my pain will end soon. Right now I just need her to hold me in her arms and not be too hard on my emotions. I just need time. My heart is numb and has no feeling. I just hope that while I'm healing, she can have a little patience.
2007-02-02 02:01:59 · 48 answers · asked by Ivan Drago 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell her to ..TAKE THAT!
You guys! Stop thumbs downing me - it's a soddin' song lyric!
2007-02-02 02:04:49 · answer #1 · answered by KateH_26 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
The only person that needs happiness right now is you. You've just lost a loved one and a compassionate person is suppose to be there for your. You apparently need time to heal and your girlfriend should understand that and be there for you instead of feeling neglected and if she can't see that, then she must be an insensitive person. There's no need to think of how you can make her happy, just focus on how you can let go of the pains you are having inside of you.
2007-02-02 02:20:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are having a real hard time, but ya know what, she also probably knows that. If that is how you feel, then show her, tell her, show her this posted question. Tell her your sorry if you have neglected her but she is the thing thats keeping you going for now and you appreciate everything she does, you appreciate her being here. Just tell her all those things, reassure her, thats all you need to do mate.
Takecare and i hope everything works out well for you. x
2007-02-02 02:19:39 · answer #3 · answered by london lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should be more supportive.
Try and explain to her exactly how you feel i.e. you're grieving right now and need lots of hugs and support to help you heal. Explain that you only want to make her happy and you're sorry you can't be the strong rock of a person you usually are but that her love and support will help you get on with life.
2007-02-02 02:36:23 · answer #4 · answered by Saint 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should be supporting you through this difficult time. If she isn't sling her and grieve with family or friends. She is not worth it if she can't share some emotion with you. If my husband was upset I'd feel it with him. Although we are going through a difficult time just now I wouldn't say I don't care. I still do and if I didn't I'd have lost the love for him. Hope you can come to terms with your loss and remember all the positive things about that person.
2007-02-02 02:06:31 · answer #5 · answered by KANGA 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i know how you feel. i lost a loved one recently and i know that having support from your girlfriend is very important, so sit down and talk to her, tell her that your grieving process is going to take some time, grieving is a hard thing and takes a long time.
I lost my mom Jan 29 2006, and I'm still not over it yet. Death is very hard and pain full to deal with. Talk to her though. if she's not understanding or willing to help you deal with your pain, then maybe go and talk with a grieving counselor. they really help.
and I hope you feel better soon.
God Bless
2007-02-02 02:09:04 · answer #6 · answered by mother of 7! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any relationship needs trust and communication to surive. If she doesn't know how much pain you are going through them maybe she isn't understanding your situation. If so, I personally think she's being a little self-centered. You just lost someone close to you and she should be supportive of you right now. I hope this helps.
2007-02-02 02:05:11 · answer #7 · answered by Lhynne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her how you feel, and re-assure her that you don't want to neglect her, but you really have to work through the pain and her understanding would mean a real lot to you. Ask for a hug! She will love you for your sensitivity, if she doesn't bin her!
2007-02-02 02:36:46 · answer #8 · answered by greatdane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her how you feel and that right now you need comfort and that you're not neglecting her but herting from your loss...but she can't know how you feel unless you tell her...things should change for the better if she loves you she'll understand & most importantly she will comfort you
2007-02-02 02:11:56 · answer #9 · answered by leanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her what your going through and you have lost a loved one that pain is all ways going to be there no matter what you do I know what your going through so take time for yourself and tell her you are hurting and just need her to be there for you SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS
2007-02-02 02:08:42 · answer #10 · answered by spud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes really being unfair and selfish and i know that is hard to hear but she really needs to be there for you cause she would want you to be there for her. I agree show her this question and she might understand and if she dosent then maybe you guys need time apart until your feeling better. I hope she understands. good luck
2007-02-02 02:11:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋