I can't give my girlfriend an orgasm and it's really bothering me. I have tried a lot of different positions, oral/diff techniques, romantic settings, music, dirty talk, and nothing seems to work. She says it's ok and that we'll work on it. But dang... i dont feel like a man if I can't please her.
2007-02-02 01:59:45 · 8 answers · asked by TheWanderer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She seems to be a slow responser!
Do to her or say to her what she likes most. Have a lot of fairplay before you get into the action. Do not get into her untill she is completly wet and moaning for it. Keep trying you will hitt the switch one day and the lights will flash like hell!
Watch pono with her and note her reactions to certain scenes or acts. Re-act some of those scene which had excited her!
On Valentine day, buy her erotic novels!
One thing you must'nt do. And that is to give up! Keep playing the music of love and you can be sure at a particular time she will dance the tune and ask for "once more!"
2007-02-02 02:17:07 · answer #1 · answered by Ebby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't punish yourself for her! If you are sure you have done everything in your power to please her and still have come up short, there is probably something wrong with her. How long has she been frigid? Has she experienced this with other partners? If she has no antecedents of frigidity it could very well be stress related. Is she having a hard time at work, with her family or in her social life?
Depending on her knowledge of the human sexual response, it could be a matter of not even knowing that there are many different levels of orgasm in women. She may very well be experiencing orgasm without even knowing they are precisely that. The amount of misinformation and negative moral conditioning can be very misleading when it comes to understanding human sexuality. Talk with her and see if she fits into any of the above categories. It is much easier to solve a situation when you have full knowledge of its cause.
Good luck!!!
2007-02-02 10:12:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not give up hope. Some girls really just have a verrrry hard reaching that point. Why don't you plan a romantic weekend somewhere and try EVERYTHING. Be sure to make her tell you waht she likes and stuff. It will be fun and the end result could be...MIND blowing! GOOD LUCK! And do not feel bad!
2007-02-02 10:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the problem is her...? Women require the whole mental/feelings aspect when it comes to that... Unlike men which is purely physical...
I think it's out of your hands... She might need to straighten up her head first... Is something bothering her, worrying her, etc...
Good luck...
2007-02-02 10:04:53 · answer #4 · answered by Milkywayman22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, I understand complettely, and it's very frustrating. But chances are IT AIN'T YOUR FAULT. As long as she's okay with it, then continue to reassure her about your feelings and commitment, if any, and keep at it.
Good Luck
2007-02-02 10:05:56 · answer #5 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could open up to her and ask her. It could be she has some tips and particular types of foreplays or techniques she wants.......
2007-02-02 10:12:16 · answer #6 · answered by Inquirer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up! keep doing your thang!
2007-02-02 10:03:31 · answer #7 · answered by Liv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry...your gf will help you..
2007-02-02 10:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by ruprekhawati 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋