I agree that a transwomen has the right to keep her past a secret from bosses, friends, co-workers, the clerk at the counter, the paper boy but there is one exception. If she is going to engage in a SEXUAL relationship with a straight men then she needs to tell him she was born a man.
In a free democratic society everyone's rights must be taken into consideration. The man has a right to choose whether he wants to have sex with a post-op transgender women.
Understandable the average straight male would feel angry if they were never told. A few even become homicidal.
Should a post-op women always disclose her past if she is going to have a sexual relationship?
2007-02-02 01:58:33 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
You are talking morals here, and morals cannot be legislated. I believe a man who pays for sex, has multiple one night stands, and is just as slutty as the transgendered he is referring to is just as amoral as she is for not telling him. Let this be a lesson to you.
2007-02-02 03:07:47 · answer #1 · answered by Ti 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should not believe everything you read about us. I am transsexual and I keep my status private to everyone except partners. This is what most transgender people are like. We do NOT deceive anyone. Perhaps you read the Daily Mail. Or The Sun. Or the Daily Mirror! Or, I could go on... But the point is that the media do NOT know what is means to be transsexual. It is not to do with sex. It is gender. You get transsexual people of all different sexualities: gay, straight, bi, asexual. We are not all the same. And when you ''hear'' about transpeople who don't disclose their status, it is almost invariably sensationalized in order to sell the paper, gain tv viewers etc. Don't believe everything you read, especially about transgender people! I know because I AM one. And although I don't go around with a big 'I'm transgender' badge on my coat, I am NOT ashamed of who I am, and if asked outright, I will proudly admit who I am. I also do not tell the average person on the street, or in the store because they have no right or need to know. Do you tell people in the street about, say, your leg which you broke 2 years ago?! No, didn't think so. And just for the record, I DO tell all partners that I am transgendered. I am bi so I date men and women. And I NEVER lie about who I am. And I have LOADS of transgendered friends. And NOT ONE of them lies about being trans to partners. Deluded notions like yours are one the of the reasons transgendered people have so much discrimination in their lives.
2013-12-02 07:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The two main ways anal sex might be dangerous would be injury and illness/STD risks. Both of these can be minimized and condoms can be part of that plan. Anal sex can be a safe and pleasurable experience if you keep a few things in mind. SFSI's FAQ (see link below) gives lots of details, but the main ideas are communication, lubrication, patience, and protection. Anal tissue is thin and can tear easily. Use lots of lube, take your time, and stop if there is any pain. If you're using a condom, make sure you use water-based lube with a latex condom; if you want to use an oil-based lube, be sure to use a polyurethane condom instead of a latex condom. There are some concerns about feces during anal sex and the transmission of diseases. In general, washing around the anus with warm water and soap is sufficient for getting rid of bacteria. If you or your partner are concerned about poop, some people feel more comfortable having anal sex after having an enema. Keep in mind that there are some bacteria in the anal tract that SHOULD NOT get into the vagina. Using a condom can decrease the chance of transferring bacteria into the vagina after anal sex because you can change to a new condom without having to stop and wash. Condoms can be helpful in preventing the transmission of STDs. The SF City Clinic Risk Chart lists many STDs that can be transmitted during anal sex including gonorrhea, chlamydia, HIV, herpes, and syphilis. If neither partner has an STD, then you are not at risk.
2016-05-24 04:57:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be rotten to trick someone, but getting homicidal won't fix anything. People get deceived in many ways. You'll know to avoid them in the future since they can't be trusted.
Maybe do a DNA test before dating? That might help, but it can get more complicated than xx/xy I think. Like they could be xy, but none of the other switches clicked after that.
2014-06-18 03:58:11 · answer #4 · answered by seek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate is a strong word.
However, when you are in an intimate relationship with someone, you should be honest. Otherwise, the entire relationship is a lie. I understand that transgendered persons see themselves as the gender they are assigning themselves to. However, not being honest is the same as outright lying to a potential partner...its like using someone elses picture when looking online for a date.
2007-02-02 02:15:40 · answer #5 · answered by mamasquirrel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't hate. And think of it from their point of view. They feel they should have been born female. Don't they have the right to be in a relationship just as much as anyone else? Honestly, if they were to tell that they used to be male, who do you think would agree to sex? I can understand why someone would be angry, but think of it from the transgender's point of view.
2007-02-02 02:16:58 · answer #6 · answered by Marvin 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
well first off you shouldnt "hate" anyone. Personally, I would like to be told, and personally if any morals are involved in these situations, morals owned by both parties involved....why are they having sex before they know each other? Before they're married? Puhlease....you can call the woman a whore, but how bout the man that makes her that way?
If he is sleeping with a transgender he just met....he gets what he has coming....you should know someone before having sex.
2007-02-02 02:04:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
I hate transgender people. They are disgusting. And they do decieve people in that way. thats why they are dishonest scumbags. they are repulsive and disgusting. Really you all should just go somewhere where we will never have to see you or assosiate with you ever. Then you all can deceive each other.
2015-01-26 08:42:01 · answer #8 · answered by Andre 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sounds disgusting. People should always disclose anything that would hurt the partner but the partner should know there is deception out there. Dangerous deception and watch who they chose to be with. Your gut will tell you if you will stop listening with the part of you that says 'I want sex'.
2007-02-02 02:12:06 · answer #9 · answered by Lou 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
No, she doesn't. You need to tell all women that you sleep with what a hatemonger you are, and who you hate. That way, trans women like myself will be free to pursue quality relationships and stay away from scumbags like you.
2007-02-05 12:37:05 · answer #10 · answered by Alyssa 3 · 5⤊ 3⤋