I have a Christian belief and don't want sex before I get married. So what should I do if I don't want to lose him or God?
2007-02-02 01:48:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You always put God and your beliefs FIRST. and you have to be open and honest with your boyfriend about it...if he cant undersstand or accept it, then bye bye bye boyfriend...dont EVER hesistate to give in, if your afriad of losing him! girl, ive known my fiance for 6yrs and we have been dating for 3yrs, and never not once slept together. why? bc i told him that its culture and catholic purposes that i want to wait until marriage...and now we're engaged, a yr down the road. i finally found a guy who fell in love with ME....ive never felt so much love from any one person, not just feeling it, but seeing it too.... these types of guys do exisit, they are just hard to find sometimes...since the majority of guys are sex hounds. i got lucky, and you can too....dont ever give up your belifes for a guy who wont respect your beliefs.
good luck hun!
2007-02-02 01:54:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen you can't have both. Your believe tells you that it's a sin to fornicate. Ok, why don't you stick to your God untill he gives you a husband to marry. I respect your believes but you can't eat your cake and have it. Is either you are making compromise with your God so that you can have sex with your boyfriend, and am sure he won't mind, and keep both of them or you are letting either your boyfriend or your God go. The choice is yours but I know your God will not object in sharing the love he created you for. Or another thing, maybe you should change your believe, your mind is yours, is either you mess it up or it messes you up. Goodluck
2007-02-02 02:03:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah the temptation. If he does not respect your beliefs on premarital sex you will be tempted to give in to him if you remain in the relationship. As a consequence of giving in you may have lasting emotional feelings of guilt and sadness and an association of sex being taboo with respect to relign. This could be something that would be hard to cope with further down the road (especially if your future husband is a virgin, yes it's stilll possible). Right now this is what you firmly believe. Psychology teaches us that is easier to change our behavior than our beliefs, so do what your conviction tells you is right. If the guy TRUELY loves you and wants to be with you he WILL respect your decision.
My girlfriend has strugled with this same issue even though she is not a virgin. I respect her convictions. Be strong in your faith and trust that it will work out as it is intended.
2007-02-02 02:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by Wes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OKay, the fact that you are woried about losing him should tell you something. I too have the same belief, and made it clear to my man. He was cool, and said he could wait, because he loved me. If your man trys to pull the whole, "I love you so why not" then he rally doesn't. If he respects you and loves you as much as he says he does, then he wil have no problem waiting. And if he says, "It's okay, I will be the one kissing you on our wedding day." then he shouldn't worry anyway either. He will get it eventually if that is true. SO stand up for what you believe in!!! No man is worth it if he will leave you for something easy.
2007-02-02 01:54:09 · answer #4 · answered by Linka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can stick to your belief and prepare to loose him, unless he contamplate marriage and shares your belief.
But make sure that all the prohibited things in your beliefs are not practiced with your bf and not only sex; otherwise he would see you just a hypocrat!!
2007-02-02 02:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by Ebby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know how old you are but you sound mature enough. if you are still a virgin at this point just wait a little longer. serisouly why blow it after you have come so long for one guy. you know if he really loves you he will understand, or leave him because i know another guy would understand and respect that. breaking up sucks, but your not married, so dont limit your choices like that. God is waaay more important.
2007-02-02 01:56:10 · answer #6 · answered by corEy marsh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents always taught me that if someone really truly loves you, they will respect you and wait. This is very true! I wanted to wait until I was married. I did have one boyfriend break up with me because I wouldn't have sex with him, but I realized he really didn't love me. My husband on the other hand did respect me and wait. If someone doesn't respect your wishes, move on, but if they do and are willing to wait then you have someone very special.
2007-02-02 01:58:11 · answer #7 · answered by juliepasson622 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are a full on faithful Christian, as opposed to just being born into a Christian family...then dont put out...it really is up to you...if he leaves you because of it then hes a jerk
2007-02-02 01:54:16 · answer #8 · answered by mrimtoocoolforyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, the old saying applies, "you can't serve two masters." You'll have to pick one or better yet, trade this guy for another who shares the same views with you in regards to premarital sex :)
2007-02-02 01:53:19 · answer #9 · answered by cardigan06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that he wants sex ? what proof do you have ?
if he is "only" interested in sex let him go to hell.
Is it possible that you may be more important to him than "Sex" ???
Now lets screws "Religious beliefs" :
there was a time when "People" used to get labled as "Psychotics" just because they believed in "Religion and God" and they were given anti psychotics !!!
And is it possible that "YOU" yes "YOU", may be indoctrinated / brain washed in name of culture and religion that "Pre marital sex" is BAD ???
And is it possible that you may not have developed "SElf Awareness" to know this ???
2007-02-02 02:03:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋