2007-02-02 01:46:00 · 12 answers · asked by suzy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you can't trust him, i think its the best for you to talk to him and have a very important communication with him. Try keep it up, it will help you to trust him complete.
2007-02-02 01:48:52 · answer #1 · answered by MissGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to loose a boy or girl friend is to appear insecure and bother a trustworthy person with trust issues. Even if you are getting worrisome signals from your partner, the only way to play it is to put up a confidant front.
Thinking about this stuff is not productive. It's best to just adopt a zero tolerance policy for cheating, make sure your mate knows about it. Then don't even think about it. If you find evidence of cheating dump the person. You can't be partners with someone who has proven that a fling is more important than your feelings.
2007-02-02 02:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by tenbadthings 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hon, I know exactly what you are going through. Insecurities come from alot of places...it can come from being hurt in the past, it can come from not being happy with who you are, etc. As long as your b/f has done nothing to make you not trust him, then you need to look to yourself and first ask yourself why you feel that way..
If it is a matter of not being comfortable with who you are, try to get some counseling... If it is because you have been hurt in the past, remember that not all guys are the same. Unless he gives you a reason to not trust him, settle down and enjoy what you have with him. Mine was a bit of both... My youngest son's father cheated on me when we were together and I forgave him the first time...then it happened again... Not only did I no longer trust him...I had serious questions about my role in why he feels that he had to go out and do that...
It wasn't until the 4 yrs between him and my current b/f, that I took the time to get to know me and realize that it wasn't my fault.. I had done nothing wrong.. I am now with a wonderful man and though it has been hard for me to learn to trust again, knowing me and knowing that I am happy with me, with or without a man has helped alot. Life is way to short to be worried about what could happen tomorrow...
Good luck and God Bless..
2007-02-02 01:52:39 · answer #3 · answered by Termite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the reason you find it hard to trust him is a result of your insecurity, then you need to work on yourself. Find out the reason for your insecurity. And do it quickly, cause there is nothing more pathetic than an insecure female. He will tire of it, and move on. And the problem will repeat itself with any other guy you date.
Contrary to our screwed up female beliefs, guys don't want to save us. They want to be with us. So work on yourself...become stronger and more secure in yourself....it will serve you well in all aspects of your life.
2007-02-02 01:50:24 · answer #4 · answered by Super Ruper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to address your own personal issues before addressing the trust situation. You need to beat your insecurities and be confident that your boyfriend loves you and wants to be with you. After all, its you he wants OT spend time with and give attention to, no-one else. Remind yourself that your boyfriend is lucky to have you! You have to teach yourself to trust him. When he's out with his friends, don't obsess about it. Why don't you go out too? The more he goes out and the more situations like that youface, the more you'll learn to trust him. Take things one step at a time. Good luck.
2007-02-02 02:21:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find someone else that will compliment you and help you to be more confident and secure in yourself. If there is no trust in any relationship then that relationship is already dead and buried.
2007-02-02 04:01:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is simple. So simple that it doesn't make sense. Learn to trust yourself first before you extend your SELF outward into th world of the unknown.
2007-02-02 01:50:35 · answer #7 · answered by Raiyne 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont know how long ye're together but trust comes with time. If you're together a long time then you need to think why it is you dont trust him
2007-02-02 01:49:24 · answer #8 · answered by kit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u gotta deal with it..thats my best advice and if you think about that, the possibilities are endless. Whats works for one person might not work for another,
2007-02-02 01:49:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself why you find it hard to trust him - if its because of your past - time will heal that - if its because of his past - time will probably reveal that your insticts were right.
Sorry - but that is how it is.
2007-02-02 05:42:41 · answer #10 · answered by intelligentbutdizzy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋