I hate my family and want to move out...............please read?

Question

I hate my family and I never want to see them again. I just want to be alone. Everyday I come home and wish why couldn't I be able to afford my own place. I dont know how this hate grew but it did. I hated my brother because he always picked on me, whenever he saw me he would hit me. I hated my mother because she never did anything about it, she always talk about my weight and when i tell her how I feel she still did it. She is driving me crazy. She talked bad about my father so now I hate seeing him. I just want to go far from my family.My neighborhood. i would change my last name. I want to move out desperately but dont have enought to pay for rent and when I stay at my bf house thye get upset. She says how every one is looking at me, and im causing shame, and how little girls saying something about a prostitute so she figure they were talking about me.
Now tell me how many mothers you know call their daughters prostitutes?? I really want to move out seriously, but by myself.

I am looking for a job but lack office experience so no one will give me a chance. I live in nyc so rent is about 1000 and these minimum wage (7/h) jobs aint doing it here.

please serious response only

um people my mother and father are still together and never broke up

Answer 1

Find room-mate wanted then get out of that situation.You will be a happy person then

Answer 2

When we get upset every little thing makes it worse even if it shouldn't. Talking bad about your father; usually if parents are no longer together they don't like the other person and have formed a bad opinion about the other one and want everyone around them to feel the same way. The "problem" that split up your parents up is BETWEEN THEM! The children had no part in the problem no matter what is said. You might be really surprised if you went to see your dad with an open mind and just spent the weekend talking, tell him that is what you want. If that doesn't work out don't give up, go to some local churches and talk with someone and ask for help to go to school and be able to get one of those jobs you are needing. The important thing to remember is never give up and things could always be much worse. Don't focus on the bad, focus on the solution to getting better. Good Luck

Answer 3

Do you have a few friends who feel the same way, with whom you could share an apartment? To be honest I don't reccomend that, since it's a sure thing that at least one wont pull her share and a friendship will be busted up....but it's better than nothing.

Failing that....um, this should be obvious...if NYC rent is too high....leave NYC??? Search online, find something suitable. Go Greyhound. Save your money from the 7$/hr job for a while, get together the bus fare and first 2 months rent. If you work for a chain, like WalMart, ask them to transfer you to the one in the town you're moving to. Otherwise, save up for an extra months rent in advance just in case. Get a job. Move. If you're in the same city, you're gonna see them anyway, and you aren't gonna really be away from them.

I had to put 8 hours between myself and my family. Now we get along pretty decently.

Answer 4

Well for one you sound liek the world shoudl revolve around you. But I know how you feel about how your life is going, but you need to understand the whole situation of you house. Because you aren't saying everything that's happeing there only the bad things. Because if is so bad and you want to leave, ok how are you going to buy nice clothes, insurance, food, and other luxurying your grtting at home. But some young people get all winded up whenever nothing goes their way. But your brother needs to realize to stop hitting you and become a man, before he becomes an abuser of women when he grows up. And your Mom needs to realize how to manage a home so everyone can help each other and live peacefully.

Answer 5

First of all, sorry that you are going through this. Unfortunately if you don't have the finances you probably won't be able to move out. However, maybe you could stay at friends house or even your boyfriends house until you can save enough money. Or even a girls group home. Are you in school? Maybe you can speak to a counselor about your problem. Get some options for what you can do. Hope this situation gets better for you.

Answer 6

god! im so sorry that youre in such a situation..have to tried talking to everyone at home..to tell them how you genuinely feel?

if you really think there's nothing you can do to work things out at home..then leave

you can move out and live with a friend...like get a room, not a whole apartment

and you can work part time and pay the rent (shouldnt be so much)...and you can use the rest for expenses...

but you also have to make sure that in the long run youre ok...like education wise etc

figure everything out first before you have a move

coz you dont wanna move out...then realize you have to go back..and things will only get worse

Answer 7

Nothing is going right, all seems hopeless and out of control. There is hope for the helpless, and rest for the weary, and everlasting love for the broken heart. Jesus Christ, the Son of the Living God, is waiting to meet you where ever you are. He came to earth, lived a perfect life, and then gave up His life on a cross for your sins, so that if you believe in Him, you may have everlasting life in paradise in Heaven. In Heaven, God says this, "He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away." He wants to have a personal relationship with you, He will never leave you, nor forsake you, and mend the brokenness.

With all that, get a Bible, start reading in the book of John, and on my profile here, send me a message if you have any questions. Don't give up, even though it is hard, stand firm, and be strong.

Answer 8

I am truly sorry about the situation you're in now. But what kind of answer are you be expecting from us? End of the day, you still need to face the problem yourself and not run away from it. Either stay or go. You will face the "Music" if you stay put. But if you decided to go, you will have to face financial problems on your own. So that is the question to you. Nobody will help you. Not even you boyfriend. Think about it.

Answer 9

WoW no one should be put through this..Have you ever heard of Joyce Meyers she was hurt by her father for many years and beatened by her first husband. You should see her faith she has helpped many over come it. Are you a middle child? It sounds like it. Why because i am to a middle child. Never say Hate it is such a hard word and a word that God holds us resposible for latter. In time like this you need God to talk to. You don't have to go to a church to talk to him. Raise up your hand and ask Jehovah for Guidance and help. Tell him you need him and that you except him as your one true God. remember through him all things are possible. Knock and the doors will open ask and they will be answered but you have to believe. It will come in when you least expect it. You need to ask for forgiveness for saying what you have said about your family I know its hard . Works of the flesh lead to frustration. Trying to figure out what is up with your family is work of the flesh. Pray all the time log into Joyce Meyers.org and listen to her shes awesome. Your mother only wants you to feel bad because she feels it. Turn your self around spirtually and reap you rewards..Remember God Judges you like you judge you family so let go and get God. I promise thing will get better, if not for your family than for you. God only wants to hear you say I LOVE YOU GOD and I NEED YOU IN MY LIFE.. I should know Iam still on my way.. But wow do I feel alot more happier and excited about likfe and it is all because of faith..

Answer 10

Hey calm down. I completely understand your feelings. I grew up in a bad home too. My brother abused me, my mother left me, and badnamed me too. I wanted to run away, or end my life, I even tried to end my life.
That is not the answer. You have to much to live for. Think about it, if you didnt have a purpose, why would God have created you. There is something out there that is meant for you. If you move out you will be by yourself, you wont be able to afford anything and will end up on the streets selling drugs or maybe being a prostitute.
If you think about it, you really do not have as horrible a life as you think you do. Kids is africa die of starvation. That has to be a HORRIBLE death. You have shelter when it rains, heat when its cold, and food when your hungry.
Whenever someone does something or says something to you thats hurtfull, just egnor them. Think about when you do get out on your own. You cant let it bother you. Call your friend or bf and talk to them, do something to get it off your mind. If you sit there and contemplate it it will get worse.

Answer 11

I feel sorry for you. But I think everyone thinks they hate their family at one time or another in their life. I suggest you get away for a while, maybe a relative can take you in? I'm sure after some time you'll miss your family and would want to go back. Maybe there's some little thing you can change in yourself so the situation improves? Hmmm?!!!