How Do You tell?

Question

how do you tell if your boyfriend is cheating on you?

Answer 1

Good ole' fashioned detective work!

Answer 2

First off, I would ask myself, is he the cheating type? Has he ever cheated on tests? Does he always seem to find the easiest shortcut to do things? Have you ever seen him steal something? Does he enjoy doing things where the risk of getting caught is evident? (example: talks you into sex in a public or semi-public place) Things of that nature. These can be a corelation to people who cheat on their romantic partners.

Second sign to look out for is a drastic change in his appearance. People who are cheating, or looking elsewhere, will change the way they look to resemble more of a single status. Think back to when you were single. You got dressed up a lot more in order to impress right? If he's cheating his appearance will most likely take on the " single and advertising " status again. Or, maybe you'll suddenly notice he's bought himself a new cologne that's not of your taste.

Lie detection is also key. Does he tell you exactly where he has been and who he's been with the second he gets home without you even asking? He's trying to get his well planned cover story out in the clear before you start asking questions or before he forgets a part of it. Look for this to sound rehearsed like he is trying out for a role in a play or something. It has been. Liars usually offer information that isn't even asked for. Example:

You ask: Did you cheat on me tonight?

A TRUTHFUL PERSON'S ANSWER = no

A LIAR'S ANSWER = I had a few beers and danced with this girl but that's all it was.

(TIP: CHECK HIS CELL PHONE HISTORY. CHANCES ARE SOMEONE'S HELPING TO COVER FOR HIM AND HE PHONED WHOEVER HE SAID HE WAS WITH JUST BEFORE HE GOT HOME TO VERIFY SIMILIAR STORIES. OR TRY FOLLOWING HIM SOMETIME IN A FRIEND'S CAR, OR UNIDENTIFYABLE VEHICLE, WHEN HE GOES GALLYVANTING TO THE UNKNOWN)

Other indicators of a lie can be body language. "Hidden hands", as in, he has his hands in his pockets or hidden in some way when he talks to you. Shows he is hiding something. Ever heard of "Right Brained" or "Left Brained"? They usually determine this in childhood. I actually have one of each. "Right Brained" people are the artists and creative people while "Left Brained" people are the more serious and realistic type. If you didn't know, there is a cross over section into the brain from your spinal cord. Everything on the left side of your body is controlled by the right side of your brain and vice versa. While the truth comes from the left side of your brain, a lie has to be CREATIVELY made up in the realms of the right side of your brain. Watch his body language closely. A lie will usually show up, involuntarily, on the left side. Especially if you are asking questions of an accusatory nature (accusing him of doing something)

Lastly, if he is cheating he will most likely avoid, or make short, any conversation with you that relates to your future together about anything. Try talking to him about his plans for kids, buying a house, or marriage. Or try something smaller like talking to him about planning to go on a small vacation next summer. Watch how nervous he gets. If he IS cheating, he's not going to want to plan anything with you because he's scared that there's a good chance you two won't be together in the future and he's not sure when you're going to catch him or when to drop you the bomb. Try it and watch him sweat. The guilt will eat him alive on this one.

EPILOGUE:

When people cheat it usually has very little to do with sex and they don't intentionally mean to hurt the one they're "with". People cheat because they are subconsciously lacking something in their current relationship and go looking for that quality in someone else to fill the void. They eventually realize they can't find it, especially since they don't even know what they are looking for in the first place. By the time this is figured out they feel they have already burnt bridges. They don't tell the other person because they're too afraid and don't know how to break it to them or too full of pride to admit they f***ed up.

Answer 3

I think it differs from woman to woman. When your intuition is so strong and when you look at your boyfriend and just know that something isn't right. You can ask him, and of course he's going to lie. You can look in his phone, coats, pants, but if he's really doing something he won't be stupid enough to leave evidence around, but when it's time for you to know you will find out one way or another. Good luck

Answer 4

pay close attention to his habits , if they are changing , sporadic or secretive then hes probably cheating , the thing about men is when they are into the relatinoship it is very obvious and when they are losing interest you will start to feel very insecure because your gut instincts are amazing and if in your heart you feel he is , dont convince yourself your just paranoid and write it off because ive been through this and i was so wrong not to listen to my gut . trust your own heart and if you think he is , your probably right ! also , if he makes you feel really bad about things every time you mention it and you feel he is trying too, sometimes thats a sure sign hes guilty of something bacause if he can convince himself your doing it too then in his mind it makes it ok that hes doing it! so just trust your heart . best of luck, i hope he isnt for your sake bacause its a very painful thing to go through . should you find out he is then feel free to email me , no one should ever go through it alone and feel alienated .

Answer 5

If you know him very well and you will notice it very simple. Check the way he behave around with you, was it same or different. Also you have to ask him the truth, the communcation is very important in the realtionship. If he denie it, then all you have to ask him simple to prove you why should you keep him, of course you trust him but its for your own good.

Answer 6

You can't really. I mean, there are signs, like he treats you differently in fron of other people. Or, if he takes his calls in a different room, and wontt ell you who he was talking to. But really, you can never know for sure until you catch him in the act.

Answer 7

well it depends if ur BF is good at lieng or not...if he sucks at lieng then it would be super easy to tell...da way he acts,etc...anyway...if ur worried bout ur BF cheating...check his cell phone for new numbers,if he got a condom in his wallet,the way he act around you,u know those basic stuff...i hope yo BF aint cheating on u,good luck hope i helped enough

Answer 8

If he keeps ignoring you, he might be cheating on you.. follow him...and see what he really is in to...

Answer 9

if he act like he don`t care about any more ! or tolk to you with bad tone! and not answering your phone calls!. maybe thats will say if hes cheating or not

Answer 10

The way is to follow him