although I understand y he's moving out and we still in a relationship, still can't help feeling, lost, alone, abandoned. feeling afraid. I feel like what am I going to do without him there, I've lived with him for a year and well seems like the end of the road. He assures me that, this won't affect our relationship and that he loves me. Says he'll still be around...but still can't help feeling the way I do. scared.
2007-02-02 01:30:26 · 12 answers · asked by Thato 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to start depending on yourelf for your happiness.
your bf moves out so now your a mess....? why! he still loves you, your still going strong...he is just moving out...did you plan on living together forever? things change, situations change, but his love for you is NOT changing...so i dont know what your frowning about.... as far as being scared, dont be... everything in life happens for a reason, and i think you need to accept that.
why dont you get a roomate, a girlfriend or something....and look at it this way, now you can really have some romantic times with your bf when he comes to visit... suprise him with candle lit dinners, or a romantic night when your roomate has agreed to give you two some privacy...believe me, there is a new refereshing, sexier aspect to the fact that hes not there anymore...it will give things a little more spice...dont worry babe.
2007-02-02 01:38:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships don't move backward, they move forward. What you are feeling is a result of the fact that you know deep down inside that this is the beginning of the end of your relationship. There are always exceptions, and maybe your situation is one of them, but what reason does he have to want to lessen degree of intensity of your relationship? The good news is, no matter what happens, you will grow from it and be able to handle it. Being scared is okay. Being alone takes courage, but it makes you stronger.
2007-02-02 01:36:19 · answer #2 · answered by Tara P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand what you are saying, I mean it was one step forward two steps back! If he says the relationship is still good then believe him. You guys lived together for a whole year! Thats a big achievement. I think it takes great maturity to try living together and to realise that you are not ready (which i think he wasn't) and to stay in the relationship.
I think you need to talk to him more, he will be able to reassure you much more than we can on here.
2007-02-02 01:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm....thats a little wierd, I know how you feel. I live with my boyfriend, I dare not move out because he would take it personally. Anybody would. I wouldnt move out, rather, to help our relationship grow, I would help him more with bills. If I were in ur situation, I would feel used. He taking a step back in the relationship by moving out. Sorry that you feel that way, good luck in the future.
2007-02-02 01:37:33 · answer #4 · answered by Its me again 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't blame you for feeling scared...your whole world is being shaken up....I wish yu had said WHY he is leaving...be patient with yourself, this will be tough but just as you adjusted to living with him you will to living with out him...I had a similar time a bit ago and you know I really kind of like it alone...I can always have the remote, don't have to shave, and never have the wet spot anymore!!!! chin up, it'll be okay...go buy yourself a nice dinner, something you like that he didn't...good luck to ya.
2007-02-02 01:36:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all...you two are not even married (and only been going together for a year) and you two shared an apartment? this is good. because you two were probably moving way too fast to begin with. by living in an apartment with you he has had a taste of married life (which he is probably not ready for either). he has his own space and you have yours. treasure this moment and don't waste it on 'feeling lonely.' cause if you do get married and have children...you are going to be wishing for that time back.
2007-02-02 01:34:38 · answer #6 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your b/f is leaving. This is a hard fact to face but it is happening. Break it off clean and move on. It will be less painful in the end.
2007-02-02 01:33:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You'll be OK without him....give yourself some time to get use to the change.
Make sure you don't rebound with someone else in the process..
Stay close to your friends and keep busy...
2007-02-02 01:36:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is he moving out? It will affect your relationship because if it wasn't going to he wouldn't be moving..
2007-02-02 01:34:44 · answer #9 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why you can`t go and move with him! or find another someone to live with you! to not feel scared ! maybe this will help ! or stay with your friend! i hope i helped !
2007-02-02 01:40:32 · answer #10 · answered by pearl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋