A coworker sent me an email that I was too weird for him to be friends with because I was sending him mixed signals. We had been close for awhile and I told him it was best that we ignore each other so I can get over my crush on him since he already has a gf. Anyway during all of this, he suggested that the best way to get over him was to sleep with him. I thought he really wanted me because he kept asking if I wanted to do it. Then he told me that I should do it with someone else since he already has a gf. Of course, I felt hurt ,angry, and embarrassed since I told him things that I wanted him to do to me. A few days later I called him a dog via text since he jerked my feelings around, then I felt bad about it and wrote a letter apologizing to him. This is what provoked him to ignore me for the past month. A few days ago, he looked at me like he wanted to say hello and I emailed him asking him if we could just treat each other like coworkers and say hi. He told me I was too werd.
2007-02-02 01:15:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What a jerk....sorry but I think you have had a lucky escape!! He asked you to sleep with him while he had a g/f...what does that say to you? Forget him, forget about being friends with him, move on and get yourself a decent bloke who does not mess you around, try to stick to guys that don't have g/f's!!
2007-02-02 01:20:50 · answer #1 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were totally right to do what you did, calling it quits between you both is the best option, and its obvious you knew that anyway. What is more disturbing is his attitude and treatment not just of you and your feelings, but that of his own girlfriend. Even if you were together, if hes jerked her around by toying with you, he'll do the same thing to you. Regardless of anything else, suggesting you sleep with him to "get over your crush" is just pathetic, even if he tries to pretend its "helping you out". Crushes are just that, and not always a sign that this is someone you need to be with. Find someone who treats you like a princess and not like a plaything. You may have been giving mixed emotions, but only because of the push-pull of the crush and his attitude, you certainly have nothing to be ashamed of. I hope you find the right guy soon and forget all about this idiot....good luck!
2007-02-02 01:25:48 · answer #2 · answered by niemand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you learn from this all too commom mistake women make these days and continue to keep on making. Do not let any man, woman or otherwise take control of your emtions. Those are yours to be controlled and nobody else's. You ultimately make your own CHOICES.
You made a mistake here is all dear. Learn from it now and rise above the pathetic women around you. COMPLETELY TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE. Ugh this situation makes me sick. The sad part is that you apologized to him. Ask yourself why this is. Ask yourself why you are letting this bother you so much. Was it because you didn't get your way in all this? And perhaps because you got played? If you can't play the game get off the board.
2007-02-02 01:26:18 · answer #3 · answered by LM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok Bebe, this guy is a manipulator and a jerk. He is enjoying the attention you're giving him...(even if some of it is negative). He is playing childish games with you and you don't deserve this treatment. Cut all ties to this guy and move on and find someone that treats you like the Queen you are!!!
2007-02-02 01:21:37 · answer #4 · answered by jim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Head games. He wants in your pants and then he will ignore you! Don't play into his games! He is a player! You are one of his toys right now. Totally show him weird and don't have another darn thing to do with him. He is cheating by just talking to you the way he is and it makes you guilty also.Show him that men that treat women like this don't always get what they want. He just wants to use you for his own insecurities. Don't betray another woman show this piece of dirt that all women don't want him.
2007-02-02 01:23:39 · answer #5 · answered by holliemay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you even wasting one more second thinking about this guy? He is an a**hole, a user and a loser. I feel badly for his gf, who presumably doesn't know what he's up to behind her back.
Forget about him telling you that you're too weird for him to be friends with - you tell him that you have too much self-respect to waste any time on him!
2007-02-02 01:20:47 · answer #6 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best cure is IGNORING him completely.. not even a glance if you can manage it.. do not do things to attract any attention, like laugh out loud or date someone else in teh office.. etc.. just lay low, pretend you are ALWAYS super busy and rush out as if you have really important things to do.. if you can do than, then he is all yours.. i am not sure though, you will want him anymore :) good luck
2007-02-02 01:22:07 · answer #7 · answered by gone 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you and him would both be better off staying at a professional level, for one thing why would you be unterested in somone who you know already has a girlfriend that alone should answer your question.
2007-02-02 01:21:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not tryin to be harsh thats wht playing games leads to and the fact he had a gf you knew he was a better game player just let him be go find another guy or friend
2007-02-02 01:19:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds to be like you hit the nail on the head when you called him a jerk......his treatment of you was unkind....as a friend he shouldn't have told you to sleep with anyone to "get over him"......... when people show you who they are.....you really do have to believe them...even if it hurts.....I'm just sorry you had to find out in such a hurtful way
2007-02-02 01:31:35 · answer #10 · answered by Mum3grls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋