Basically I know this guy I work with is going to ask me out for Valentines Day. I am sure he likes me and yesterday he asked me what i was doing for Valentines Day, I knew what it was leading to so I quickly changed the subject. I dont like him as more then just a friend and even if I did I dont want to date a co-worker. (though it is just a part time job, I did this at my last job and it got awkward) Not only that, Valentines Day would put so much pressure on the (i know i sound like a guy) I cant exactly just go out with him out of pity because it would be a date on Valentines Day..what do I do?
2007-02-02 01:13:49 · 16 answers · asked by mike 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont like him but I am too nice
2007-02-02 01:17:45 · update #1
hes not ugly at all,.but im talking to another guy right now and I like him. I dont see this guy i work with as any more of a friend.
2007-02-02 01:28:30 · update #2
I don't do the whole co-worker thing either. If he asks just tell him no and let him know that you don't date co-workers. Men don't get hints like changing the subject and all that other stuff. He's more likely to interpret it as you being too shy or afraid to talk about it then he is likely to leave the topic alone. You have to be blunt and forward with them. If he doesn't ask, great! If he does just let him know.
2007-02-02 01:21:13 · answer #1 · answered by Leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth I don't date people I work with..Valentines Day doesn't always mean Love it also means friendship. Is the guy not easy on the eyes or is he not up to par if that is the question than what you are trying to say is you are embarresed to go out with him.If so let him know hey Iam busy with my family and we are haveing a family dinner..If it is because like you said you had a bad expierence, but let him know this is only a friendship day and you want to keep it at that.. Whever you go mention I'll pay my half..Take in a movie a good scary one. Not a chick flick. Movies are not harmfull. Just have Fun.
2007-02-02 01:27:20 · answer #2 · answered by Lorraine S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication and honesty. Try telling him you like him as a friend also explain what happened at your last job dating a co-worker. It might be awkward at first but then if you are both "grown ups" you will get past it.
2007-02-02 01:21:55 · answer #3 · answered by mvas800 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell this guy that you already have plans and be nice and sweet. if he persists then tell him the truth, that you like him but only as a friend. Do not agree to go out with him as that will only encourage the guy and he doesnt need that from you. Be nice and polite and he'll get the point.
2007-02-02 01:18:41 · answer #4 · answered by jim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a mate that he has not met to pretend to be you guy get him to meet you and act like a couple with him be all over him and the other guy will get the picture problem solved . or you could just take this lad to one side and say that you just want to be friends with him it which may change how you both act at work it is up to you
2007-02-02 01:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by spud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time your at work just say (out loud and so he can hear) "Yeah me and my girls are going out on V-day, its a overrated holiday, yadda yadda"
Anything as long as it is clear you already have plans, or dont want to do anything that day, before he asks you. Worst comes to worst tell him what you told us about dating in the work place.
Good Luck
2007-02-02 01:19:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really dont like this guy, you can either do one of two things:
1.) just spend V-day with him, since you both would most likely
enjoy the company as friends.... and make that clear to him when he asks you...
2.) tell him that someone already asked you out and you have plans with someone....tell him your sorry, but that your really flatered he asked you...keep it nice n sweet, but not regretitive...
you dont want the guy thinkin, OH DAMN SHES BUSY, BUT SHE DID WANT TO GO OUT WITH ME... lol
get my point?
good luck...keep in mind that nice people also finish last. you dont want to hurt him, or hurt yourself in the future relationships.... being nice is one thing, but being true to what you want, is another...and i believe you can have both.
2007-02-02 01:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by SassyGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop changing de subj.
next time you talk to him, allow him to bring up de V day subj, and when he asks u out, just say no.
no point pretending det you like him and go out wif him. cos in de end, u'll have to deal wif de same thing sooner or later.
so might as well put a stop to it now.
*i went thru dis b4, and my suggestion is tested. he's not bothering me anymore. and if we do pass each other, we just smile.
wdver u do, i wish u all de best.((: gd luck!
2007-02-02 01:21:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell him that you already had plans for that day, or be honest with him if he asks you out tell him that you don't date coworkers. Make sure to be polite as possible by thanking him for asking you.
2007-02-02 01:22:08 · answer #9 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say no. You don't owe a date to anyone just because they took the chance to ask you. Its ok to say no. Trust me, I say it all the time.
Take care
2007-02-02 01:20:47 · answer #10 · answered by Chrystal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋