SOMEONE PLEASSSE HELP ME OUT!!! Should I be worried?

Question

My girlfriend (of almost ten months) who is 22 and I 26 were have dinner at my place when I noticed I forgot to get the wine from the cellar in the basement. Since I was cooking I asked her if she would get it, she said yes and went to get the wine. So I’m thinking my little brother, eleven who is staying with me for a while (and makes it he's duty to scare the hell out of people) is sleeping in his room...when I remember I should have told her the basement door sometimes gets jammed from the inside. Well I’m heading toward the basement when I hear the shattering sound of a wine bottle break. When I get to the basement as I thought the door had jammed from the inside and my girlfriend was banging on the door. Then out of nowhere I hear this loud ROAR! As I opened the door the entire basement was pitch black. And as I looked down at my girlfriend’s terrified face, I noticed her entire body was trembling. I was surprised at seeing her like this but when I looked down even further I noticed that she had literally WET HER PANTS!!! Sure enough my brother came out laughing in victory at the way he turned off the lights and jumping out of the darkness-screaming ROAR! He ran off to his room knowing I would deal with him later.
Anyway all of a sudden she started to sob wrapping her arms around herself, crying over and over. “Oh no, I-I didn’t mean to- I’m sorry, I’m sooo sor-ry.” I held her close telling her that every thing was all right. Rubbing her back and hair, I didn’t care that she was wet, I just wanted her to stop crying. She was hysterical, trembling from head to toe, clutching on to me with a death grip. She cried until she could cry no more, she felt so weak in my arms. When she had calmed down I helped her clean up, and lay beside her as she fell a sleep. Even though I wanted to know why she reacted the way she did I didn’t ask. Let me just say this again… I WAS SHOCKED!!!!!

Should I ask her or forget and never bring it up?
Should I be concerned?

Answer 1

I would talk to her about it. Give her a little time to get over the incident and whatever memories that may have resurfaced. When you are both calm and quiet, I would ask her about it. Just be gentle and let her know that you are here for her. If she says that she doesn't want discuss it, that's okay too. As long as you inquire in a loving way, she should be pretty receptive to you. Sounds like you care for her a great deal and because of that, everything should fall into place. Good luck!

Answer 2

YOU SHOULD ASK HER WHEN SHE IS IN A VERY CALM RELAXED MOOD . IF THIS WOMAN IS SOMEONE YOU ARE SHARING YOUR LIFE WITH , THEN THERE SHOULDNT BE ANYTHING YOU CANT TALK ABOUT , BESIDES i BET SHES WAITING FOR YOU TO ASK HER , SHE WAS PROBABLY AS FREAKED ABOUT IT AS YOU WERE AND SHE COULD HAVE SEEN HOW FREAKED YOU ARE AND YOUR NOT TALKING ABOUT IT WILL PLANT THOUGHTS IN HER HEAD THAT I REALLY DONT THINK YOU WOULD WANT HER TO HAVE .AND ALSO WITH A REACTION LIKE THAT SHE MAY HAVE DEEPER ISSUES YOU DONT KNOW ABOUT AND YOUR WILLINGNESS TO DISCUSS IT WITH HER WILL MAKE HER MORE SECURE TO TALK ABOUT IT . GOOD LUCK