I miss my dad so much! It's been like 2 years! He now resides in another country & my mom woudn't even let me go on a vacation to visit my father. She assumes that I may never return or I might change. My father has a family of his own and it feels like he has forgotten about us. He hardly call me & my brother...I am just hoping he has a good reason! I mean am I just overacting about this? My life is totally incomplete right now! I feel alone! Like I love my mom & all but she is always preoccupied with something else....she doesnt have enough time for us at all & when she does she tries to stay away from us(my siblings).....:(
2007-02-02 01:08:05 · 5 answers · asked by GerMel 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
hello,
i am a father. my children are grown up now. i have been in your fathers situation and my children in yours. it is very painful to call your children and here their voices and then hang up. i found myself avoiding this. i know it's probably a cop out but what can i say. it was very difficult. my x-wife did not help much bye telling me not to call because it upsets the kids. they would start to cry and want to see me. my x would get made and hang up on me. there could be many factors why your dad doesn't call much. write your dad a letter telling him how you feel. even write your mom a letter. sometimes you can say things in a letter without dealing with an argument starting about what you might be saying. in a letter you can finish you thoughts and think them over. it will be difficult but you need to share your feelings about these things with your parents.
good luck-hang in there-your not alone.
2007-02-02 01:31:01 · answer #1 · answered by bizeyman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, I don't know how old you are, but when I was growing up we moved far away from my Dad for several years. I missed him terribly too. He maybe just assumes you are fine, so why don't you call him, call him collect and ask that you all set a special day each week for a phone call. I always liked Wednesdays myself. Sometimes he forgot, but usually not, and we carried on the tradition with my stepkids. ((((hugs))))
2007-02-02 09:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had that problem, My mom and dad really don't like each other but dad left me because I am deaf.. and so all those long long years and I try to find dad I gave up and Out of the blue he called and want to marry my mom and I was like sure and Meet him again and boy I learn more about him in person and didn't like him an dbut I do love my father. when they divorce and I was in the middle of it. My dad say don't go over there she will not let you see me again.. When I am at my mom and I go see dad and Mom said don't go over there I will never see you again ... I was like why can't both of them love me and stop putting hated in me..
So dad dissappeard and I want my dad and but then living with mom is living hell and move out and live on my own 22 years old to now 36 years old and I just found my dad side the family since 5 years ago and Talk to my dad's brother and finally he will be my dad and my father still have nothing do with me because he think that I still living with my mom and I am not. and until his death one year ago in feb.. and my real dad told my dad that tell him he didn't do anything I love him and it my fault....
But I flew over there first time in my 35 years to meet my dad side the family and everyone was so shocked to see me saying are you Clearnce's Son??? I said yep I am. and said wow you looked alike LOL but I told them I more cuter than my dad.
But later i meet kids came to me and told me that I really love your dad and he helps us to go to school and with our homework and knowing that wow, if he can't do with me and did with others that is great.
So Don't let your mother not for you to go see yoru dad. When you get older and your mom will not stop you ... if you are 18 and older smiling. So it been great not see my real mom for 10 years LOL smiling... she asked for it.. not my fault...
But wish to see my dad one more time but he is gone. but knowing that he still love me. smiling.
2007-02-02 11:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try sending your father emails or letters and calling. If you go see him, you might get disapointed. Let you mother know how you feel and let her know you need more quality time
2007-02-02 09:33:56 · answer #4 · answered by jim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you call your dad ask him why he hasnt called and if you want to go visit go who she to stop you it is your dad...
2007-02-02 09:15:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋