I have been seeing this guy for about 4 months. We talk everyday, several times a day. There is some distance between us (only an hour).This pasy week, he always seems too busy to chat. It's hard for us to talk during work. He says he is going to call but he doesnt call. He will sent me a message the next day like nothing happened. What is going through is mind. If he has lost intrest, I would be ok with that. I have asked him what is going on and he said he still likes me and wants to keep dating. Why is he acting this way?
2007-02-02 01:05:46 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It looks like the guy is trying to back off a bit from you. Maybe he has this feeling that things between you and him are going too fast and he is not ready for the change like this yet. Maybe he worries about his personal space and the fact that you’re trying to get all of his personal time bothers him, because he still wants to do something else. There’s nothing wrong with that at this point, because he told you he still wants to date you.
But if it bothers you, you need to take an action to change the situation. I would suggest you stop calling him and asking him any questions regarding this issue. Just get back to normal routine that you had before you started spending more time with this guy.
Go out with your friends on a Friday night instead of spending this time with your bf. When he calls you, tell him that you’re busy with something and that you’ll call him back later. When he asks you out, just tell him that you already have some other commitments and can’t make it this time, but reassure him that next time you’ll definitely see him. Believe me that pretty soon he notices the change in your behavior and all his fears will go away. He will be calling you every five minutes like crazy, because he won’t be sure what’s going on in your mind. Guys like puzzles, so make sure you’re a tough one to solve:) Good luck.
2007-02-02 01:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound good, but I'm a pessimist. He could be seeing somebody else. He could be burned out on spending so much time on the phone. He could be really busy, and not have time. Regardless, you should proceed with caution. When there's distance (even just an hour) there's always potential for finding another person to date. That door is always wide open.
2007-02-02 01:11:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 04:46:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is feeling smothered, given the fact that you talk "every day, several times a day." Since you said it would be ok with you if you stopped seeing each other, give him some space to see what he does. if you stop calling him, will he take the time and effort to contact you? if not, you know where the relationship is headed.
2007-02-02 01:10:14 · answer #4 · answered by Shredded Cottage Cheese 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a hard one without knowing him.......some people get rapped up in studies / work / friends/ hobbies etc ......and on the other hand some people drift in the hope to see some reaction from the other half ..........it would help to know if you meet occasionally as it sounds like you only talk he could be getting fed up with that and seek a new partner nearer to home ........sorry cant be of more use but let him know yr still interested then look to what reaction you get if its still apathetic he may have cooled off the relationship ..............
2007-02-02 01:15:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heres a suggestion...ASK HIM!!!...it could be that he is having a stressful time at work....or he could have other personal issues that may be hard for him to talk about....don't badger him about it...just bring it up in one of your conversations..."you seem a little distracted is everything OK?, you know you can talk to me about anything" that type of thing....just don't push too hard..if he is having problems maybe talking to him will get him to open up...but he won't if you don't seem to notice
2007-02-02 01:11:57 · answer #6 · answered by kerfitz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he may be wanting to have intimate relations with you if you haven't already. However, if i were you i'd move on and find a guy that is not so far away and perhaps you'll have time to work on a relationship.
2007-02-02 01:10:22 · answer #7 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be bcos he's busy or doesnt have time for you. Dont conclude yet, wait and and find out he the problem is before concluding.
Gudluck
2007-02-02 01:10:33 · answer #8 · answered by teemah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No,be a bit more trustworthy he make be really busy it happen to me too sometime....so be patient
2007-02-02 01:31:30 · answer #9 · answered by secret &trade 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he must be busy or forgot about ringing you; if he says that he still likes you then dont be worrying; be happy and one tip; lads dont like girls that hand round him all the time
2007-02-02 01:14:41 · answer #10 · answered by teri c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋