What's wrong with me?

Question

I seem to dislike everyone. I don't want to but I seem to have lost my tolerance for whiny people, and those who seem to treat me as if I have no feelings. Before I would put up with a lot but now no. What has happened to me? I feel like I have had enough of bull ****. I am usually a very tolerant kind person, but apparently no more.

Answer 1

its probably no big deal most people feel like that sometimes
its probably just the people you surround yourself with
you probably just need some alone time!

Answer 2

You must hve put up with a lot of this before you decided that enough was enough. Though there could have been a better way, that is, listen and give your opinion or comment very openly, bluntly, even if it may be unacceptable to the other person. Such people whine and grumble to a person who is there to take it all, and who would not tell them they are wrong, or this is not the way they should be. Once you put your statement / comment forward, if possible in a sarcastic way, they would never come back to whine, and the same time you would feel relieved that you have just got some garbage out of the way, and there would be no reason for the other person to treat you in a way that you have no feelings, cos' you just have made your point.

You may have reached a saturation point, and no, there is nothing wrong with you. Just keep away from people who have a negative influence over you, where you have to control your own emotions, listen to their problems, and just keep quiet and agree with everything they say. That could really drain you, which it has right now. Enjoy this freedom, and just be what you are.

Answer 3

The thing is you are just tired of people taking advantage of your kind nature and I can't blame you for feeling that way. People have a tendency to run over those who they believe to be weak because they are tolerant and kind, but the fact is having those qualites are really a gift . Try not to lose those qualities with people who deserve the kindness and tolerance that you have to give. Unfortunatly you can't get the whiny and the self-centered people to change the way they are ,but you certainly don't have to listen to them either so I suggest avoiding ,but if that isn't an option then tell them that whining isn't very becoming and it doesn't change the situation that they're whinning about. As far as people who are self-centered, I would tell them that I have feelings and that my feelings matter also. No gauranty that they will listen, but at least you let them know that you have feelings to . It takes a very strong person to be tolerant and kind and I hope that you can keep these qualities.

Answer 4

I sometimes get like this too. I am normally a very kind and tolerant person, but there are times where I want to tell people to shut up and do not care of the consequences. I find this happens most when I am stressed out, or around that time of the month. So you are not alone.

Answer 5

I sympathize with you. I am also a very tolerant person. Many people who know me say that I am even quiet sometimes. But everyone has a fuse - sometimes it is good just to blow off some steam. I am not condoning that you go out and beat up a whiny person, but find some other way to work it out of your system. (A punching bag, a little sister or brother... Oops! Strike out that last option!)

Answer 6

Maybe you are just really anxious and as a result of that, little things that people do that annoy you get to you even more. I know that was the case with me for a while. Maybe try going to a therapist and talking about what you are going through. A lot of being happy and accepting of yourself and others is in your attitude. Possibly taking deep breaths and walking away when people do things that upset you will work too. Also, count your blessings-- being thankful for the people in your life who you love and who make you happy often puts things in a new light.

Answer 7

derstand what you are going through. in high school i was always the person everyone would come to with their problems and i was the shoulder to cry on. but then when my senoir year came about, i was just sick of all the lies, the bsht...games, and ppl being so imature. I lost a lot of friends that year and I still have a had time having friends (and keeping them). but the few ppl i do talk to now I know they are completely honest and very trustworthly. Cuz I really hate playing games and being lied to. it is a waste of time and aggrivating as well.

Answer 8

You sound like maybe you are just a bit stressed out and tired of life at the moment. It happens to everyone as they get older. you need a break from it all.. Go away for a weekend or a week if you can away from everyone you know. Chill out and relax no responsibilities no one to answer to, just be yourself and you will come back the person you once were.

Answer 9

Perhaps you are growing up. You've seen where you've been and have empathised. But now, you are more in charge of your feelings and don't really expect much other approval.

It's a phase. You will continue to hear whines, but you may decide to choose to be empathic or move them along dismissively. Either way, you decide when you want to give some people 'face' or not. It's ok. You are doing well.

Answer 10

It's time for a break. You need to relax and take a break from people and robotic life. Go on a vacation where you might think you will enjoy life. Come back afresh.

Because it looks like you are trying to 'adjust' with people though you don't like to. Maybe you are in such situations currently. So you need a break to refresh your mind and body.

Answer 11

may be you have just matured ,no more games .You would be the first person to know there's nothing happening .You just admit it now ,instead of trying to be what every one expects ,there nothing wrong with you .You can still be kind and tolerant about it ,your just not fake ,been there and did that way of thinking