he left me how should i cope with this terrible situation. I think nobody can get his place in my heart?

Question

he wrote me that he can not be a good man and suitable man that i need so he left me

Answer 1

We're in the same boat. My ex of four years and I broke up a year and six months ago, and up to now i still love him very much and i can't get him off my mind. His pictures are still in my iPod..i always listen to the songs we used to love..i still visit his cousins who are very close to me. Obviously, i haven't moved on yet. Sometimes become bitter and i want to curse love. I mean, you get that feeling that you gave everything yet your everything still isn't enough to make him stay. You tried to be perfect but still you're trying in vain. It's really hard, and you get the big phobia of falling in love again and risk getting hurt again.

My advice? Deal with it. Time heals all the wounds and so should you. You can't rush into moving on, you have to pass through several stages until you could say 'i survived!'. By now im sure you have the mottos 'love sucks', 'love is stupidity' etc....

1.) throw away all his mementos, photos, and eveything that reminds you of him.
2.) Spend more time with your friends and family.
3.) Keep yourself busy.
4.)Avoid listening to mellow music, esp. the songs both of you loved to listen to,
5.) Keep a list of all the bad things he did to you and tack them next to your bed.
6.) Sever all of your communications with him.
7.) Avoid seeing him.
8.)Avoid the places he frequents.
9.)Convince yourself that you don't deserve him.

Remember this:

GOD TAKES AWAY WHEN HE HAS SOMETHING BETTER TO GIVE

Answer 2

I'm so sorry and really understand what you mean by this. Sometimes men do this as a sign that they are interested in someone else. Check out the book called "Secrets About Men Every Woman Should Know" by Barbara De Angelis.
Also, there ARE other men who can fill that void AND THEN SOME! I know some of the happiest people have found each other because someone has let them go and thank the ex for it! (actually true)
Also, there are some websites that can send you daily emails like the "breakupcure", I believe.
Remember, get out of the house (hopefully you have a good support system, if not, go to community/on line support groups), don't sit by the phone whatever you do and waste time of your life!
I wish you the very best.

Answer 3

I've had the exact same thing said to me too... at first you think it's all a joke or something your really hoping to just be a dream, but it's true... My first love told me that he wasn't what I was looking for, it really hurt.... bad! I thought that I would never last without him... I hoped that he would realize that he needed me and would come back. But about a month later... so sign... and i realized that he wasn't worth my time and tears!... Look at me now.. I'm over him!!! and much more happier! I'm still living without him as 'my guy'.. I still do talk to him though... Ive got a guy now.. he's really great to me! And my ex gets so jealous when I tell him that my bf and me are doing good!... You'll get over him gal! You'll realize that he's not worth it some time or the other!... It's just a matter of time!... Hang in there!

Everything is meant to be and things happen for a reason.. think of it this way- maybe he's not ur guy, because there is someone out there who's better than him and who will treat you like a diamond.. and then you'll think " Why did i give my ex so much importance?"

Answer 4

I sure am sorry to hear what has happen but he sound pretty selfish. Are you a high maintenance kind of woman?? Be lucky that he didn't do this after 10 years of marriage and 2 children, and marriage Debt. As far as your heart hit will heal maybe not now but it will..Right now you need to think of the one true person YOU. Pamper yourself , enjoy life and pray on the situation ask god for guidance and to help heal how you feel. Life does move on and there is always something New and Better around every corner. You need to burn that Letter and go for a nice walk. You'll see It will get better..

Answer 5

Hello,
Well I am in the same situation as of Monday night. please realize that there is at times nothing you can do or nothing that you did to get into this situation. I am the man in this case and I was the one who got dumped. yes it tears your heart apart and yes there are tears of sadness and your self esteem suffers and you wonder what your going to do. these are normal feelings to have. There is no easy solution to a broken heart, but have faith!!!! Time does heal all wounds. Perhaps its better for you in the long term to find out now instead of later. I know it sucks but you can't dwell on the past. Remember if your plans change, then change your plans.

Answer 6

Thank him for being honest with you about who and what he is. Don't hold any hatred towards him. You get a hobby and focus on how you can make your life better at this point. I'm not sure how old you are but you sound young if you feel no one can take his place in your heart. In a few months you'll be over him and he'll be forgotten. Do you honestly think he's saying that about you?

Answer 7

Well then its his lost. I'm sure your a very nice person and need love also. But to get over a terrible ordeal like that it takes time and patience. Sure no one will replace his love, but you can have a different love. And that can be fun, Its something to look forward to. New love! I still love my ex but I'm so much in love with my husband now. Its a different kind of love.
Good Luck!

Answer 8

First of all, try to get yourself an education. You are worried about a man and you can't even complete a sentence. Don't get me wrong, I am sure that you are hurting but you NEED to work on yourself and something that can benefit you. You do not need to be worrying about someone that does not want you!!!!! Not to mention the fact that he wrote to you... he wasn't even man enough to tell you to your face.... he's a LOSER... Move on!!!

Answer 9

I said the same thing once about a boy that I thought wsa my everything that I had went threw so much with him. But believe it or not I have gotten over him and I have meet someone much much better and me and my ex are friends. So don't think that you want get over him you will it will just take some time.

Answer 10

Hey i kno exactly how u feel. Its gonna hurt for a little but it will get better, just pick up a hobby and hit the clubs and just go out and have fun. It will be fine, I promise.