He never loved me the way he said he did i found out he was just with me for my money, car, house, after 2years he walk out when he got paid it took him 2weeks to be with someone he always hit me cause he said i was cheating i never did i love him with all my heart and sole and i still do i dont know how to move on i call him sometimes and he lets his new girlfriend pick up his phone i never did him wrong for him to do me this way now i dont know how to trust anyone,man love hurts
2007-02-02 00:22:08 · 13 answers · asked by martinez_beloved 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We're in the same boat. My ex of four years and I broke up a year and six months ago, and up to now i still love him very much and i can't get him off my mind. His pictures are still in my iPod..i always listen to the songs we used to love..i still visit his cousins who are very close to me. Obviously, i haven't moved on yet. Sometimes become bitter and i want to curse love. I mean, you get that feeling that you gave everything yet your everything still isn't enough to make him stay. You tried to be perfect but still you're trying in vain. It's really hard, and you get the big phobia of falling in love again and risk getting hurt again.
My advice? Deal with it. Time heals all the wounds and so should you. You can't rush into moving on, you have to pass through several stages until you could say 'i survived!'. By now im sure you have the mottos 'love sucks', 'love is stupidity' etc....
1.) throw away all his mementos, photos, and eveything that reminds you of him.
2.) Spend more time with your friends and family.
3.) Keep yourself busy.
4.)Avoid listening to mellow music, esp. the songs both of you loved to listen to,
5.) Keep a list of all the bad things he did to you and tack them next to your bed.
6.) Sever all of your communications with him.
7.) Avoid seeing him.
8.)Avoid the places he frequents.
9.)Convince yourself that you don't deserve him.
Remember this:
GOD TAKES AWAY WHEN HE HAS SOMETHING BETTER TO GIVE
2007-02-02 02:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by frisky_pink_bunny22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your tears on a lech. The only thing he did was toy around with your emotions. Use this time to heal, concentrate more on yourself, go shopping, do things that you always wanted to do, get up with some girlfriends and have a girls night out or something. I am sure if you let your gfs know how you feel during your girls night out, they will help you get over your bad experience. When you look back on it, just view this as a lesson, next time you will know if a person is really there for you and not for material things.
2007-02-02 00:30:04 · answer #2 · answered by channel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is not the kind of boyfriend you need. Stop and think about this. Did you always want toget put downs and slapped around forever? I came out of an abusive relationship. I really cared about the man and still think about him from time to time but at the same time I couldnt sit there and let myself get abused.What if he would have killed me? Just stop and think about these questions. Be glad youre a live and know that all the put downs he gave you isn't true. Go into this world with a smile on your face youll get a lot out of it.
2007-02-02 00:26:50 · answer #3 · answered by Jamie G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh honey i know how you feel i was with a guy over 3 year he did the same thing i did every thing for him even got a court order so that he could see his child and then 1day i came home from work and everything was gone.and i still don´t know why.
it´s been 2 years now and it took time but i found someone who helps me and loves me it´s hard to trust again but you have to believe that not all are the same.
i also went to counseling and that helped me to,the problem is not you it´s him he can´t get enough and to be honest i think that one day i will pity him because he will end up alone and not you,
i even hated myself for letting him use me but in the end i am getting through.
things are much better for me now and i hope that you will also get the luck and find someone WHO deserves you
2007-02-02 01:07:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Time heals all wounds." Trite and cliche but it is true. I was bonkers for this girl that sounds just like your ex's sister and all she did was wrong me, embarrass me in public, diss me at home. Somehow I thought this was love. When she finally did throw me to the curb, I thought I would die or that I wanted to die. Work suffered, school suffered, family and friends suffered. It seemed the pain would never end, but then I met another girl almost six months later and nightmare girlfriend became nothing more than a bad memory. Just give it time.
2007-02-02 00:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by HermannzeGerman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any guy who would hit and treat a woman-you that way, doesn't deserve your respect, heart, and Soul! Go out with your girl-friends and enjoy life!! Perhaps you may find someone else who would appreciate you for whom you are and the beauty you have with their help. Not all guys are like that and some can deeply cherish, love, honor a woman. Always believe in yourself and your intuition. It may take time, but you will find someone truly deserving of you. Take care.
2007-02-02 01:19:45 · answer #6 · answered by roses2500 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's horrible. But in all honesty what can you do about it? Your just gonna either search for someone that can take is place and be better at it, or take a break from loving at all until you feel like you can risk love again. Yes, I call 'love' a risk.
2007-02-02 00:25:38 · answer #7 · answered by Michael U 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take sometime out to concentrate on you & take each day as it comes one at a time. Do things that make you feel good about yourself & remember that he doesnt deserve you (& if that doesnt work, remind yourself that he doesnt want to be with you) Fate has something better in store for you, & you deserve it.
2007-02-02 00:28:24 · answer #8 · answered by Tanyia R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
time heals. u got other girlfriends to hang out with? do the girl thing like shopping, chit chatting, coffee take a hobby, gym, swim, etc and after a while when you are trying to get back to singlehood, you will find yourself just there.
2007-02-02 00:26:55 · answer #9 · answered by littlepurplebugz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has used you,ones that accuses of cheating is the one that is cheating,you have to let this ****** go,he is not good for or anyone,in time you will heal,calling him or seeing him only prolongs the pain, I wish you luck and happiest in your life. you will find someone special in time,make time to heal first,think of yourself and keep busy.....
2007-02-02 00:30:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋