I'm considering adopting a child...?

Question

Hi. I'm 35, divorced and adore children although I have none of my own. I've been contemplating adopting and wondered what the process is like and/or what are my chances? Anyone been there/done that? What are the pros & cons?

Answer 1

There are lots of local agencies who will allow single people to adopt. Speak to your local council and they will put you in touch with the right organisations. It is a long process I'm afraid and it may take several years before an adoption goes through for you. However, having been adopted myself, it's worth seeing it through. Good luck!

Answer 2

Are you male or female? I think your male but you didn't say. That is a big question and will determine where you can adopt.It is easier for a single woman. I adopted as a single woman 40 years old internationally. I have an absolutely gorgeous little girl. I completed the adoption 7 months ago. I am thrilled with her. It was very easy and less costly(around 20K with three trips abroad and homestudy) than an American adoption(usually 30K+++ and many horror stories). Also you will not have to deal with birth parents and those issues. The first place to start is with a reputable agency or lawyer. You will need a homestudy done by a social worker either way. I adopted through Childrens Hope International and they were wonderful. I would suggest going to their website for info on International adoption. Also, What state or you in? there are different guidelines for domestic adoption in each state. Best of luck:) S

Answer 3

Congratulations! My sister and her husband just adopted my nephew last year in April. It is such a great feeling. Yes you can adopt a child as a single parent. They will do an extensive background check. You have to take classes and some organizations like for you to foster a child first. Once they find a child that’s compatible to you, you get to have visits and then home visits. Be prepared to have family and friends write something up for you saying why you’d be a good parent for a child. They may question you because you have no children of your own, what will happen if some day you do have a child of your own what will your feelings be towards the adopted child? They come into your home and inspect, they have home visits with you and the child. They may make it seem like a long drawn out hard process but if you’re determined to have a child by adoption, go for it and don’t let them discourage you. My family has had my nephew it’s been over a year but legally adopted just about a year. We love him just like he was born into the family and my sister and her husband are still in the program now considering adopting a little girl. I can’t wait. Oh gosh, that’s going to be a great feeling for you. I don’t know you but I am so happy for you.

Answer 4

I don't know if this will be helpful or not but I have adopted two boys. I am a single grandmother. All I did was contact an attorney. In my case though, these were my grandsons. I paid the money, a home adoption study group sent a thick packet of forms for me to fill out with my life history. I had to go to the State Police dept. to be finger-printed. I had to get a notarized form stating I had no prior arrests, etc. After this group went over all these forms, they sent someone to interview the boys and me and inspected the home. They then made their recommendation to the court on whether I should be able to adopt them or not.

I also worked, at one time, for the welfare office in Indiana and if you are looking for a child with any disability you can not only receive financial help but also will receive monthly financial help.

Also, at least in Indiana, being single still qualifies for adoption, as long as you have passed all the requirements and inspections.

Good Luck and God Bless you for caring!

Answer 5

Wow! there's nothing like adopting.. you give a kid a home for one beside the immense joy of having a child of your own. There's absolutely no difference in an adoptive child and one born off your loins! My parents adopted a one year old with two of us girls already around.. bless him , we all love him and i would say to all who would hear...give a child a home

Answer 6

That is fantastic that you want to do this. I am in the process of about giving up trying for my own baby and doing the same thing. I am married, but can't seem to have children.
So if you find out, let us all know.
Good Luck with this and I hope that this child will know how lucky he/she is going to be to have you as a father....

Answer 7

I work with a single guy that would like to adopt in the futur. He has no plans of marriage and I have look at a website that he told me about because I would like to adopt too.

The site is www.adoptuskids.org. The children have none to severe disabilities and I believe you only pay court cost to adopt.

Good luck in your search.

I had suggested to my buddy that he get a surrogate mother because it maybe easier, so that may or may not be something you could look into also.

Answer 8

Single adults are allowed to adopt, but will only be offered "hard to place" children. Look at http://www.adoption.org.uk/information/default.html for more information.
That should give you a good overview of the process.
Sorry I can't help with personal experience.

Answer 9

I don't know any specifics but I do know it is really hard & you have to be very determined to stick with it through all the hoops the government make you jump through.
If you do decide to do it, I wish you very good luck. There are loads of kids that would really benefit from being given the opportunity of a decent life.

Answer 10

single people tend to have a hard time when trying to adopt children

they want the child to have a two parent home
but if you make enough money maybe they will allow you to