shes extremely high one day low the next, for example yesterday she came into my room and we talked for a while and i had chores to do so she joked around and took a really nice approach. she kept telling me she loved me and such but today shes totally different.
I havnt hoovered today i had a docs appointment and had other things to do so instead of asking nicely she just screamed in my face about it and said how i was really starting to fing piss her off...
its weird. this happens all the time now.
and i can feel myself becoming increasingly agitated with her, ive started to not want to come downstairs and socialise with her so i spend most of my time in my room.
I dont know why. any ideas? has this happend to any other cancer survivers? do you get mood swings? how can i stop it and help her~?
2007-02-02 00:01:51 · 7 answers · asked by moomoo 2 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
it was breast cancer she had a breast removed. shes finally all healed up and it all happend roughly a year ago, maybe a little less.
shes not on any meds and thankfully didnt need chemo...
2007-02-02 00:23:06 · update #1
your mum has gone through a frightening experience and a disfiguring surgery. did she have any talk thereapy during her recovery? the help is out there for her. maybe, on her next visit to the doctor, you might want to go with her. this would include into the examining room as well. if not, then you need to find someone outside the family and your close circle of friends to talk with. you go and maybe after a while, ask her of she'd like to come too. 'ya just never know.
God bless you and your mum. My prayers are with you both.
2007-02-03 14:54:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mention it was breast cancer and she had her breast removed. Many women feel on some level that when they lose a breast they are 'less then a woman' this is of course not true. They may even know how silly it is to feel that way but still feel it. I dont know how close you are to your mother but maybe you could talk to her calmly and suggest a support group for women who have gone through what she has. most cancer societies would have one or know where one was.
I was lucky when my mother had her breast removed due to cancer she just went on the theory she was now an amazon warrior woman (i believe they cut off one breast to be able to use a bow better or some such thing I dont know the whole story). That was her way of dealing with it. She needs to know she is still a whole person, a desirable woman (yes even moms need to feel desirable) and that people wont look at her as a mutant.
2007-02-03 04:10:16 · answer #2 · answered by Katt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im a guy who had cancer too but maybe talk to her more not less. let her know your concerned. Maybe she's going thru her change of life thing and it may not have anything to do with the cancer. give the Doc a quick call see what he thinks. DON'T CLOSE THE DOOR THAT'S NOT GOING TO HELP YOU OR HER.
2007-02-02 12:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by mike L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with surviving cancer.How old is ur mum?Cuz she may be experiencing menopause.Women usually experience it betweeen 40 to 50 when they get mood swings.Don't blame ur mum.Accept the fact that her body has control of her.She doesn't enjoy screaming at her own daughter but she just can't help the changing hormones inside.You should calm her down with love and patience.If u feel like ur about to suffocate,u can stay away from her until she's calm down.
2007-02-02 08:55:13 · answer #4 · answered by LisaLee 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
could it be side effects from a medication she is taking? how recent was this, maybe she is still processing and dealing with it....maybe you can catch her on a good day, and talk with her about it...maybe she can talk with her doctors, it could just be medication...but know that she loves you , and this can't be easy for her...cancer is scary - even if you beat it...my mom beat breast cancer, but it is always in the back of her mind - what if it comes back, or comes somewhere else...be supportive...have a chat with her about it....maybe she doesn't realize it...
2007-02-02 08:18:14 · answer #5 · answered by dmcg1012 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say what kind of cancer but it sounds as if her hormones are out of wack.
2007-02-02 08:17:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might just be depressed. hang in there, keep loving her.
2007-02-04 04:42:22 · answer #7 · answered by barb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋