My late father was totally loser in life. Despite he was blessed with good family, i.e. his beautiful wife and 8 children. He did not look after his family. He was a spoilt son of his wealthy father. He had been trouble maker to his wife for his 50 year marriage life.
2007-02-01 23:54:07 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There are things you can help, and things you cannot. Your being born to some man is a given, so get over it. Try and focus more on how you are different. If we were all copies of your parents, the world would remain static across generations, right?
The shame might be inevitable, but coping with it is not. I know a lot many success stories of people who have had extremely abusive families. I think personal triumph is being able to say 'he was what he was, and regardless of that, I will be a genuinely great human being.'
Good luck.
2007-02-02 00:05:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anjana 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey 50 years in a marriage is a LONG TIME don't you think?
He is your father- the one God sent you too. So talk to him tell him how you feel for everything that has gone bad and good in your life with him and with the family- you can't change things but he sure can here them from you.
LUCK TO YOU.
2007-02-02 09:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by Taz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you shouldn't! Your father's absence is not any fault of your own and more than likely you were better off with out him in your lives. You can only grow from the experience and not repeat the same mistakes he made with his life in your own. Sounds like he missed out on a lot...the lives of his 9 children! Don't dwell on it though; moving past the things that could have held you back in life is key in moving on and living your life as you feel and now know is right!
2007-02-02 08:12:41 · answer #3 · answered by mickeymel9 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be ashamed for what someone else did with their life. You are your own person and can choose to live your life better than your father did. His legacy doesn't have to be yours. Make up your mind to live your best life and don't follow in his footsteps.
2007-02-02 12:01:28 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is good to see the failings of someone else close to us. You have a role model for doing better.
2007-02-02 10:52:47 · answer #5 · answered by Jabberwock 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop the way you feel,if you feel better about talking about it do it.It's not good to hold things inside.
2007-02-02 08:14:34 · answer #6 · answered by peg42857 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋