Do you/have you self harmed? cut?

Question

Does anyone know from experience, the best way to prevent scaring from cutting. I know it seems like a strange question, but cutting is how i cope sometimes and although it needs to be stopped in the future, at the moment i need it. I have noticed that razor blades seem to scar less than anything else - is that right? thanks.

Answer 1

I think razor blades scare less as well. If you buy vitamin E capsules from your local health food store, then open them dab some of the liquid on the scar with a cotton bud. This should take away the redness of the scar. One way of preventing scarring is obviously not to do self harm, but I know thats hard as I do it also. Hang in there and stay safe. Positive thoughts ! Good luck

Answer 2

There is nothing that will help prevent. Some people scar more than others. I always used razor blades, clean ones, and I've got scars all over my body.

You seem to be away that this is not healthy. Have you been seeking treatment for help with your problem? You need to find other ways to cope with your problems. Its hard, but from someone who is in recovery, it is possible.

You don't need cutting. You may want it. You may thing it is helping, but all it does is hurt. I look at my arms, and wonder how I could do that. I did it because I had no thoughts of my future. I didn't care if I did or didn't have one. NOW I'm trying to build a future for myself and the scars intimidate me. I get too many questions about them. Its very frustrating.

If you aren't seeking help, you really need to. There are really good programs such as cognitive behaviour therapy and dialectic behaviour therapy. Or just seeing a therapist about why you are doing this....

Answer 3

I'm still currently cutting so I understand what you're going through. For me, it really helps to have someone to talk to every tome you get the urge to cut. A close friend or significant other are good. Tell them what you are going through and call them whenever you get the urge. Also avoid being alone and if you can't talk to anyone, write and think about it a lot. Look at your scars and think about all of the pain you've felt in the past and how much it still hurts emotionally and possibly physically. Start a journal and keep yourself occupied. These things help me to avoid it but I've found that self mutilation is a beautiful thing. Just like piercing and tattooing, we inflict pain on ourselves to make our bodies look a certain way and express ourselves. It's just very socially frowned upon because society has not yet realized or understood why cutting is so prevalent in this generation.

Answer 4

I am a self harmer as well and Im in therapy at the moment. Try not to concentrate on cutting but how to do it less and less. Try to look for help, even an online therapist will be a good start for you. We will always have scars and we can t stop that cos thats our choice to do what we do to ourselves. Hope you get some strength soon. Good luck.

Answer 5

No, it is not a strange question, but a very well known condition in some people who release their emotional pain by self-harm. Since you have admitted that you do it, I am sure you know that you really really need help, because you have mentioned that ''it needs to be stopped in the future''. That would never happen, if you dont make a decision in your present. Or else, if this is how its going to be, you may have short term remedies for the scar, but in the long run, you will have to be prepared to face your own ugly body, with scars everywhere, a question in people's eyes, and face yourself in the mirror. Ever thought of that ? It does not need to be stopped in the future, it needs to stop now. This very moment, and its not going to be easy if you just keep convincing yourself that this is the only way you can cope up ? Are you that weak and are you such a loser that you dont even want to try ? You will have to start somewhere.

As I am sure you do not wish to listen to someone preaching you, I just want you to know that I really am not trying to preach, but just picturing a person who does self-harm in my mind, and how grotesque he/she would look at the end of the day (that means, after a certain period of your life, when there is no place left to scar anymore for you). If you really do not agree that you are a loser (which i think you are) you must talkto someone, share your thoughts, join anonymous groups for support, get some counselling, there are people out there who feel the same way as you do, and you'll see your not alone. You may even come across some worse situations and you'd think that your problems are nothing in front of theirs.

Try, just try, not to find out which blade leaves a smaller, finer, invisible scar, but to find out how you can come out of this. Trust me, its worth trying, I know, I have been there, not self-harm, but on alcohol, and to cope with everything I / or we, just find excuses to go back and depend on something that takes our lives away from us, very slowly....and hurting our own families.

good luck

Answer 6

the best way is to stop, but yes razor blades scar less. find a better way to cope. anything at all. any recovered SI's will tell you that it doesn't help at all and only becomes more frequent and the cuts get worse. it will escalate till you die or stop. so stop now because the longer you do it the harder it is to stop.

Answer 7

Try hydrocolloid plasters.
They have a special medicated gel which keeps the skin moist so that it repairs and heals quicker rather than drying out and scabbing which leads to worse scarring.
Make sure you always keep your cuts clean, dirt and infection will cause terrible scars.

You really should try to find other ways of coping with your pain, I know it is hard and I admit I have no better suggestions for you but self harm is a dangerous and downward spiral and even though it's your way of coping at the moment as you get older the scars will become more and more embarrassing. Trust me on that.

Hope things improve for you. E-mail me if you'd like to chat.

Answer 8

I used to do probably for all the same reasons as you and the best way to get no scarring is not to do it.

I should tell you to go to your doctor and ask for help and theres probably a load of anonymous groups and phonelines out there but I never done it.

I just told people. Obviously my really close friends and it was horrible. Seeing how hurt they were. But with their help I got through it.

You know that way when you feel like you want to do it and you can't tell anyone how empty or sad or even angry you feel - sometimes for no good rason really - well i'd just phone them. Sometimes I couldn't even talk and they would come round and sit with me. Try and bring me out of it and be there for me when I felt like talking.

I thought no one would really care but it was amazing how much people did. Evem the people you would least expect it.

Don't be ashamed of it. I'm not saying be proud of it. But don't try to hide it. Your obviously having issues dealing with emotions inside of you and how to vent them and stuff.

Now years later I'm a much happier person. Still struggle sometimes but i don't self harm and my scars have faded.

Email me if you want to chat.

Sometimes its easier if you don't know the person because you can say what you want without feeling like your hurting them.

Hope to hear from you
and good luck in the future.

Please don't do it. Imagine it was your sister or your best friend or maybe even your daughter one day.

Answer 9

Hi Dark Girl, I was very badly depressed during my time in secondary school and during ages 12-25. I didn't recognise this however and turned to alcohol when I was 14 to cope.I did cut myself only twice with a razor on my right cheek aged about 17 but didn't continue with this. I was hiding a bottle of rum under my bed at age 19 so was well on the road to alcoholism. At aged 16 I took a bottle of 50 or so Mandrax sleeping pills and was unconscious and on the free list for 3 days and nights. I pulled through without brain damage although some might disagree hehe!! Again aged 19 I took some potassium cyanide and knocked myself out with chloroform because I didn't want to be conscious when the poison hit me. I was alone in my bedsit and couldn't believe it when i regained consciousness with my head in a big pool of vomit. I was then moved back home to my parents house telling them I must have had food poisoning. It sounds hard to believe that I survived cyanide poisoning but I am telling the truth and can see now that God had other plans for me. He saved me actually I believe because there was no-one else there to help me. Eventually aged 33 I came into a 12 step fellowship who helped me recover from my hopeless alcoholism and most of my depression. I do not speak for this fellowship as a whole though.
So I would say-please see your doctor and tell him because this cutting may be a symptom of depression. I would say that I still find it hard to like myself-do you feel like this? Please ask your doctor for help. He will be able to direct you to people who are experienced in dealing with depression. Some of my depression was caused by bullying at school. I was able to share this and other painful memories and times I had hurt people with someone I trusted. As soon as I told this trusted person, this terrible weight I had on my shoulders(the depression) lifted and the pain in the pit of my stomouch went also. So God does work through people as well as directly. If you ask God for help He will help you. It did take quite a while for me to find someone to trust with my innermost secrets. I was able to trust certain priests/pastor of a church and one person that I picked as my guide in the 12 step fellowship.I wouldn't share with anyone close to you-just a feeling I have. Sometimes it is better to share with a stranger who you don't have to see again if you don't want.If you don't believe in God then please try a prayer anyway because God answers all needful prayers. May God look after you. God bless. x R

Answer 10

hi. i used to self harm in the past and came to my senses that i couldnt do it to myself or my family no more as i couldnt hide them forever and questions were being asked, so i found another way to get all the hurt and pain out and that was through counselling. please dont use razor blades they are the ones that did most damage on me. you dont need it its because you think you need it, think about it for every scar you have made is a reminder of the pain you are suffering. get help!!! and good luck x