I am currently involved with someone who doesn't want a commitment at the moment. I have been involved with them for quite some time. After many months of heartache I have decided to see other people. Of course now that I am seeing someone else (guy 2), guy 1 is now upset because I have reduced our relationship to a platonic one. Now he is saying he wants a commitment but I think it is because he just wants me to wait around and not talk to anyone until he is ready to be commited. Unfortunately for him, I'm not one to put my life on hold for him anymore.
2007-02-01 23:45:59 · 9 answers · asked by simply_ch0c0late 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should be proud of yourself for walking away. A man who doesn't want a commitment but wants to keep you around is simply after one thing... he "loves" the heck out of ya... no, not real love... I mean the "love-making" he wants sex.. that's all it is. He feels comfortable w/ you in that way, it's convenient for him. "Men" who have yet to grow up have these types of relationships... the booty call (no offense, of course), the friend, & the maybe she'll be my wife type all at once. This is the type of "man" who isn't strong enough to withstand being in a real committed relationship... one who simply wants to mess around.
Don't bother w/ him anymore or you can end up pregnant by a man who won't be around. Take it from someone who's a single mom! It ain't easy! Good luck to ya!
2007-02-02 00:37:05 · answer #1 · answered by njboricua78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men have big ego's and don't want to HAVE to commit until there is no other options left.
I think you did the right thing in looking at your situation & seeing it for what it was & moving on.
As for the old b/f if he really loves you his actions will show it & he wont give up and then you can decide what your feelings are.
Good luck to you
2007-02-01 23:52:39 · answer #2 · answered by earthangel_candy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to situations like this one we men usually act off of our immediate jealousy and try to say what we believe sounds best or what women want to hear. If there were no guy 2 then guy 1 wouldnt even bother to reconsider what you said about being friends.
2007-02-01 23:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by Mike B 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Guy #1 wants you because he cannot have you. If Guy #2 treats you well and is willing to give you what you want then stay with him.
Forget about Guy #1, he is a player. You deserve better.
2007-02-01 23:49:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay if it takes him to realize what he had with by seeing you with another man. He has no idea what he wants and if you give him the commiment he will be the one to break it again. You will be the one with the heartache and you will lose your chance at seeing what guy number 2 has to offer you.
2007-02-01 23:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 10:58:17 · answer #6 · answered by jackson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the same situation that my bestfriend is in......I told her to just 4get him and you should too.......if he thinks your just gona sit there and wait for him to want to be with you then he has lost his mind, your not a toy waiting for him to play with you your a human being, males just need to learn that were not their fuhkin pets and that they cant treat us and way they please, so 4get him stick with guy2 and guy1 can go on with his merry life............
2007-02-01 23:52:50 · answer #7 · answered by iiNnOc3nT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOOD FOR YOU!!! I applaud your healthy relationship attitude. You are a wonderful role model for all women. I hope more of us can follow your example.
2007-02-01 23:50:36 · answer #8 · answered by lollipop 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
they are childish and immature... just ignore them and move on...
2007-02-01 23:48:18 · answer #9 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋