I really like thia guy who works with me,I know he likes me too it`s just he wants to leave the country for a couple of years and I think he doesn`t want to have a relationship because of this..I mean a serious relationship...He knows very well about my feelings,I even send him today a couple of messages(I know I shouldn`t talk by phone about this..) and when I call him back a couple of hours later,we talk about everything except of what I wrote him..Why is he doing this? Should I just quit? I`m sure we like one another but he`s not very open about his feelings,good or bad..He just avoids talking and that drives me nuts! Any advice please? Thanks and have a great week-end!
2007-02-01 23:37:47 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Now this is just great! I talk to him on the phone and the only comment he has to make is we shouldn`t talk over the phone and I said well I couldn`t wait until monday! And he replies I should be more relaxed! Now that`s a great answer! I could handle good or bad comments about what I said but not any comments! I could even handle if he told me to stop!! But not this silence!
2007-02-02 01:34:44 · update #1
Tell him directly that you don't mind committing yourself to him all of those years and that you will wait and have a long distance relationship... see what he says about that.
If he likes you enough, he'll hold on to you.
2007-02-01 23:41:15 · answer #1 · answered by J. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you want smth serious with him, you understand that he's not the right one for that!
Maybe he is aware that you can have nothing more that sex (cause he is leaving the country and he doesn't want to commit), and being like this, he doesn't want to hurt you. You know what I mean...!
I think that it's better if you don't expect too much from him! He is trying to avoid the argument cause he doesn't want to start smth that has no future. That's not good even for you.
I think that you should not get smth started with this guy. Better move your thoughts to another one!
Better suffer now (until you get over him, without starting anything) than later on, when you get too much involved!
The best of luck!
2007-02-01 23:47:45 · answer #2 · answered by atrabel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably right he doesn't want a serious relationship. He doesn't say anything about your messages because if he acknowledges them then it will change your relationship. He wants what you have right now to remain the same. You should back off, you've let him know how you feel now it's up to him. If you push it you may not even end up as friends anymore. You have a good weekend, too.
2007-02-01 23:46:04 · answer #3 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously because he wants to leave the country, he is holding back. It could be just as hard for him, but maybe he does not want to commit because of this.
Talk to him about it in person and take it from there. If he does not want to commit to a relationship, then i think you should move on even though it will be hard at first.
I have been there and its not easy.
Hope it works out for you!
2007-02-01 23:51:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should stop trying so hard because if he is the one for you he would be trying harder but if he dont tlk to you in the next couple of days about wot u have wrote to him ask him the question and if he doesnt answer then jus quit tht would mean he would need to try harder for u.
2007-02-01 23:43:29 · answer #5 · answered by x x sxc minx x x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go over seas for the time he wants to go, wait & see when he gets back. I would bet that you will be with somebody else by the time he gets back anyway. That is a long time to wait, he will probably be 'hooking" up with others while he is gone! Let this go,i see heartache on the horizon! Good luck!
2007-02-01 23:44:00 · answer #6 · answered by BOB C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is stuck between a rock and hard place. Don't be the one responsiable for him not leaving, let him live his life, and a relationship, wouldn't be a good idea, if he leaves for 2 years. You don't want you or him to miss out on something more special. If it is meant to be then it will be, when he returns, Iknow its hard but let him go!
2007-02-01 23:43:01 · answer #7 · answered by pippy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough one, respect his wishes but keep yours in perspective. Try to work it out withother options, sometimes we can see the answer because we are so focus on the problem. For every problem there are millions of answers but chosing one that will help you out is left in your hands. Remember all great people have strong problems solving skills.
2007-02-01 23:46:29 · answer #8 · answered by razual2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to understand u guys situation his leaving the country and long distance relationship is hard to keep up
2007-02-01 23:44:05 · answer #9 · answered by pinay princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's deeply in Love with you, Jo! But he's not wantin' to confront it. Give him room. He knows it won't last forever. he doesn't wanna hurt you. Love him, even more for that. Just make it so you can keep in touch, Long distance. Who knows!........
2007-02-01 23:42:07 · answer #10 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋