Ive recently broken up with my bloke and there is no chance of getting back together. I am very cut up and know that I need to move on.
I just dont know how as im finding it very hard.
Any suggestions?
2007-02-01 23:32:40 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We're in the same boat. My ex and i broke up one year and six months ago, and up to now i still love him very much and i can't get him off my mind. His pictures are still in my iPod..i always listen to the songs we used to love..i still visit his cousins who are very close to me. Obviously, i haven't moved on yet. Sometimes become bitter and i want to curse love. I mean, you get that feeling that you gave everything yet your everything still isn't enough to make him stay. You tried to be perfect but still you're trying in vain. It's really hard, and you get the big phobia of falling in love again and risk getting hurt again.
My advice? Deal with it. Time heals all the wounds and so should you. You can't rush into moving on, you have to pass through several stages until you could say 'i survived!'. By now im sure you have the mottos 'love sucks', 'love is stupidity' etc....
1.) throw away all his mementos, photos, and eveything that reminds you of him.
2.) Spend more time with your friends and family.
3.) Keep yourself busy.
4.)Avoid listening to mellow music, esp. the songs both of you loved to listen to,
5.) Keep a list of all the bad things he did to you and tack them next to your bed.
6.) Sever all of your communications with him.
7.) Avoid seeing him.
8.)Avoid the places he frequents.
9.)Convince yourself that you don't deserve him.
Remember this:
GOD TAKES AWAY WHEN HE HAS SOMETHING BETTER TO GIVE
2007-02-02 03:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by frisky_pink_bunny22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've answered the same way to lots of people on here before. The way you are feeling is not uncommon, many people have had similar troubles to get over.
In the end, and its probably a cliche, only Time and Life can help you move on. Not the magazines. Just keep yourself busy doing things you love, and let time do its own thing. Eventually, you will feel better, and when you remember him (because you will never forget) it won't hurt anymore.
Take care of yourself, and good luck.
2007-02-02 07:37:48 · answer #2 · answered by Whateverandeverandamen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best advice i can give you which helped me get over my x was think of all the things that pissed you off about him, the things u didnt like about him. Dont think of the good times coz that will only get u feelin sad and keep him on yr mind. Get back in a relationship as soon as possible, stayin single 4 me just made things worse coz u will have time on yr hands and your bound to spend it thinking about him and ways you might win him back. If you find someone else it will help fill the void that your ex has left,obviously u wont forget about him straight away and if he was your 1st (sexual partner) u will neva 4get but the pain will eventaully subside. Good luck anyway hope u find someone special. xx
2007-02-02 07:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get together with some of your girly mates and go out and have yourself a good time.
Plenty more fish in the sea as the saying goes. Life is too short to sit around feeling sad.
2007-02-02 07:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always hard and will never just happen easily. I rekon jsut go for a night out with the girls have some fun. Remind yourself you can live without him!
2007-02-02 07:35:51 · answer #5 · answered by bella_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself time to come to terms with it. cry, let the feelings flow and feel them...only then you'll be able to move on.its the natural process of healing and you'll see that time will take care of your wounds.
keep yourself busy, catch up with the friends neglected, hit to the gym, read, medidate, write down your everyday feelings-its called journalising, and above all love youself. do your best to keep your self esteem intact.
invest in yourself, that's the best investment. take up activities which will nourish your soul, heal your hurt feelings and emotions, your body....
And please do not close your heart. remember, our arms are long enough for us to hug ourselves...so go ahead my friend, no one is watching ;-)
its all part and parcel of life. another learning experience
take care
2007-02-02 08:08:38 · answer #6 · answered by samsara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change your daily habits...i too am going through the same thing, so what i am doing is socialising more, getting out of the house an not sitting there dwelling...it does get easier but you just have to change a few things, don't dwell and try to be around people more....
2007-02-02 08:19:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate this feeling so much. It happens to us all, i know do wont believe me sweetheart but it will get better, you need to go out as much as you can. That's probably the last thing on your mind but trust me, it will help. Be with all your friends and family. x
2007-02-02 08:09:06 · answer #8 · answered by chickadee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's realy hard to get over issues of this sort but one secret is to tell urself that life is short and precious,that way u'll realise how much little time u hav to make amends for the lose
2007-02-02 07:39:24 · answer #9 · answered by mailsberry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In time you will heal then you will be able to move on.Good Luck
2007-02-02 07:38:27 · answer #10 · answered by Ollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋