Do you think this is wrong? I do!?

Question

My dad told me that I have to help him with the rent by me giving at least 50% of my paycheck. I'm only 16 years old! This is no fair because I have to put $100 in my savings acount and I only get paid $230 every other week. It's not fair becasue I need that money to by my own food and my personal needs like eye contacts, menstral pads, and clothes and I'm trying to save money to get my hair done and that's like $200 to get mircos.. I thin kit's patheic when a parent is asking their child for money and to help them pay the rent. He has changed so much since I started working and I thin khe's trying to take my money.

I'm under so much stress. I wish I could giv esome money to my dad but I really need it for myself. I need to save money for my senoir prom and graduation party and my class ring.

I barely get paid any money and i thin khe is very spinelss to ask his own child from money. I have no respect for a man who can't make his own money.

Answer 1

You ask so many good, real-life questions that I can't resist answering! As a father of three, ages 11-15, I have no intention of garnishing any of their wages once they start earning their own money. What I do and will continue to look for is (1) responsibility in saving and spending, and (2) a willingness to help out with household chores. Once they've finished college, if they want to live at home, THEN I'll start charging them for living space. But until then, I'd prefer that they learn to manage what little money they're able to earn without the added burden of having to pay "rent." In summary, I'm probably on your side of the argument, as long as your attitude toward him is respectful and you are being responsible with your earnings.

Answer 2

Let's look at the situation. You are 16 and live at home with your father. You work and go to school. You are graduating. You have a savings account that you regularly contribute to. You make $230.00 every other week and Dad wants $115.00 of that for rent. Am I right so far?
OK, I think if your family needs help financially there is nothing wrong with helping out even if that means you put less into savings for a while. This is a good "real world" experience for a young person. There are going to be times when you have to sacrifice your wants for your family's needs. You sound like a smart, responsible girl so you can determine what you need and what you want. Need contacts, menstrual pads, clothing--want $200 hairdo.
I'll share a story with you that stills haunts me. I was living at home with my parents and working. Even though my parents worked, things were tight. My Mom asked me if I could give her some grocery money. Instead I took her to the store where I acted like a BRAT telling her what she could and could not buy! I am still so deeply ashamed of how I acted that day. I can imagine now how hard it was to have to ask her daughter for money for food and the way I treated her was beyond terrible!
Don't argue with your Dad or give him a hard time about the money. Your family may need your help right now.

Answer 3

I know it sounds harsh but the bottom line is this.
You mention that he takes your money 'to help them pay the rent".
That suggests that your family is not well off.
What you need to do (and what your father has probably already done) is to calculate what it would cost you if you were having to wholly support yourself outside of the family home.You'll be surprised at actually what it does cost when you include all your rent,taxes (if they apply where you live) heat light garbage disposal etc.
So this is really all part of growing up and I could if I wanted to be harsh say something along the lines of 'welcome to the real world"!!
But I can see you're struggling, so sit down and explain to both your parents where you're coming from and reason a case for a downward adjustment.Don't tell them its pathetic for them to ask you for money because it's not.This is a question of degree and compromise.Your father will hopefully respond in the way you would hope,but remember now you're a wage earner you're not entitled to a free ride.Would you.if you had your own apartment,let even your best friend live there for nothing and leave you with the bills?

Answer 4

I am very sorry that this is happening to you. I think you are kinda being robbed of your childhood. Children do not ask to be born and when two people bring a life into the world, it's THEIR responsibility to secure housing, food, lights, clothes, etc. for that child. I think it's totally unfair for him to ask you to help pay the rent. That's his job. It's not like you work full time - you're also going to school. That should be your top priority and your only main concern - not HIS financial shortcomings.
So, to answer you question, yes I think this is wrong. Some people replied and said that it's teaching you what the real world is all about...bologna! You have the rest of your life to be an adult. You should be able to enjoy the last few years of your teen-hood.
+You are in my prayers+
Good luck!

Answer 5

It is not at all unusual in some families who are having trouble paying the bills to have the children work and chip in. We do not have any details about the family financial situation. But some of your comments about the things that you find as absolute necessities, like micros, makes me wonder if he is not trying to teach you some lessons about the value of money. In other words, if the family is struggling and you spend $200 on your hair, they might wonder about your values.

Answer 6

It is very wrong, the man is charging his daugher for rent, and u happen to be simple gal, giving the money. U should have refused in the first instance or made some excuse. Even now think of a good reason not to pay and back out. If he does'nt see reason, you also become as shameless and blunt as he is and refuse to pay, come what may.

Answer 7

Yes, I think it's wrong unless m,aybe he's saving it for you. It sounds like you have some real issues here and the best thing to do is to write down the things you need your money for and show that list to your Dad. Tell him you plan to use it for important things like the prom and your class ring. He should be understnding of this. If not, maybe talk to another family member who can help to get through to him. Good Luck.

Answer 8

why is it wrong

he has pd for you for the last 16 yrs he has kept you in clothes roof heat phone

he is just getting you ready for the real world what are you gonna do tell your land lord oh sry i have to get my hair done i cant pay the rent
he is getting you ready for the real world and he is totally right
i never was asked to give $$ i always offered when i started working

i think he has every right to ask you and he should of never asked if you would of just offered a few bucks a week he prolly would of been happy with it

Answer 9

Is he a single parent? Its a hard subject. Keep your money offer to help if you can what you can, he should be thankful that you do work and that your not asking him for money.
My parents did the same to me. I didn't get very much I had a part time job and they had a hard time making ends meet, I ended up moving out.

Answer 10

Your not going to like my response, just so u know off the bat.Grow up,Whats wrong is your parent has to build up the strength and courage to even ask their child something like that.And your answer is that's not fair.When i was15 i had my own place.And just so you know I'm 21/f.I was my moms roommate when i was 17.Do you have any idea how hard it is to be an adult?I'm pretty sure your dad, thought of everything before he ask you for money. and if you think it un fair move out and take care of yourself. Because micro braids,aren't a necessity.