my bf and i ahve been together for 7 months now and we are talking about having sex, it is my first time and i really want to but im scared? Should i wait a while or is it natural?
2007-02-01 23:06:34 · 16 answers · asked by bella_girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Make sure YOU want it,make sure he's the one...be safe,use condoms at all times,read tips online on how to be safe...don't just jump in and do something you're not fully aware of...
2007-02-01 23:15:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex for the first time can be wonderful, especially for those who are emotionally ready and protected against disease and unwanted pregnancy. But for others it may be a little dull, too short or even a little painful. Sex can enhance a caring relationship, but if you do experience problems, it may be an indication that you and your partner may need to take things more slowly or not have sex. Your body may be telling you something.
If you plan to have sex, we encourage you to talk with a parent, guardian, doctor, teacher, older sister, older brother, or someone else with knowledge that might help you to think through your decision. Talking with someone is also important if you have had sex already but are experiencing problems. We understand that talking about this subject may be uncomfortable for you. But having someone available who can answer your specific questions and who understands you can be a tremendous help.
There are many nerves and erogenous zones in the body, but how your mind feels makes the most difference in whether sex is enjoyable. Picture two different scenarios. In the first, think about how you feel when someone you find attractive touches your arm - it can almost feel electric! But what if that touch comes from someone who makes you annoyed or uncomfortable? It likely gives you a feeling of "yuck" - something you want to stop as soon as possible.
Same kind of touch, different state of mind. Sex is similar. If you or your partner is not ready for sex -- if you are worrying about pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections (STIs), the relationship, trust or the test tomorrow -- it won't be that pleasurable for either of you. Your mind is the largest sense organ, and it's a barrier to a good time if it's just not the right time. Listen to your head and your feelings. If it doesn't feel right, don't convince yourself that it is. Is it not worth the risks of pregnancy, STIs, or hurting your relationship.
If intimacy is your goal, there are many things you can do to get closer to your partner without having sex. See our page about "not doing it" for more suggestions. You should not have sex if you aren't 100 percent sure that sex is right for you and/or your partner, if you are feeling pressured, or before you and your partner have discussed what sex will be like and how you will protect each other from disease and/or pregnancy.
2007-02-02 11:15:59 · answer #2 · answered by frisky_pink_bunny22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends on how old you are.... you should wait as long as you can and if eh is pressuring you, don't do it!
If you do decide to have sex PLEASE do it safely.
Go get on birth control FIRST... you can go to any Planned Parenthood and get on birth control and talk to very understanding and educated nurses.
While you are there, pick up some condoms and USE THEM!
You don't want to mess up your life with an unintended pregnancy or and STD!
Be safe and be smart! If you are going to have sex then you must be responsible enough to take care of such things.
If you are nervous or scared, examine why you are feeling that way.... ask yourself if you are really ready. You know the answer to this question already.
2007-02-02 07:16:10 · answer #3 · answered by flappymcp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's nothing natural about having sex b4 marriage.
i thought 18 was the perfect age to feel what every has been talking about,and when it happened i've since had one nitemare to the other.if you're not ready to get into marrige with this guy don't unless you don't care having to explain to others how you lost your virginity and facing the world if after a break up you guy tells the world how you taste and look whiles naked.it was a really painfull experience for me and i won't advice you to try.
2007-02-02 07:16:19 · answer #4 · answered by mailsberry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will know inside when its right, unless your completely drunk when you 1st do it, but im sure everyone feels scared 1st time.
I know i did, its normal and nothing to be shy about, same as when you start a new job, or school or meet new people, when something is new your body and mind kicks in to auto pilot, and until your used to it you will worry, but once you settle in to any new thing, you will relax and get more confident.
wait till your good and ready, and do it on your terms.
2007-02-02 07:13:44 · answer #5 · answered by joshua 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until it feels natural and right. If you're still questioning it,maybe it isn't the right time yet.
2007-02-02 07:11:10 · answer #6 · answered by mia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Assuming your of the proper age sure just make sure your doing it for the right reasons, and use protection if you aren't planning on having a kid!
2007-02-02 07:10:50 · answer #7 · answered by jordanred17_89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait...
I assume you're young still and if that's the case, please do yourself a big favor and wait. You're scared...you admitted that, therefore, you're not ready.
Learn all about STDs and when the right guy, the one you'll want to marry, wait for him. He'll love you all the more for waiting for him.
2007-02-02 07:11:02 · answer #8 · answered by babbles 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your age, your feelings for him and he's feelings for you...But most important is for you to feel you are ready to take this step...The answer is right there inside your soul....;)
2007-02-02 07:12:51 · answer #9 · answered by iunona_33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's quite natural. Jump in baby.
2007-02-02 07:09:50 · answer #10 · answered by ramesh c 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋