he said he loved me we spent alot of time 2gether and he dumped me saying he has very strong feelings 4 me but owes it 2 his family 2 make a go of things wit them my heart is broke
2007-02-01 22:57:57 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You were used. He never had any intentions on being with you, other than temporarily.
That's common with married men. It was just a fling.
2007-02-01 22:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by im_friggin_sleepy 1 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Leave well alone! I'm a firm believer in never messing with another woman's man...if I was married and my husband had done what this guy has done. I'd be devastated and probably file for divorce! Do you really want that on your conscience, that you split up a family? And if there are children involved that makes it even worse!
Plus, if he did ever leave his wife for you, how could you ever trust him! Believe me, a leopard never changes its spots and the chances would be very high of him doing it to you.
Leave well alone - it's just totally wrong. You'll get over your broken heart. Find a man of your own, not another woman's.
2007-02-01 23:02:31 · answer #2 · answered by long_luscious_lashes 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you the "other woman"? If you're involved with a married man, and you're waiting for your turn, it's time to re-evaluate your situation.
If you're putting your life on hold for a married man, he's stolen not only your heart — he's stolen your brain, too! The majority of married men are not planning to leave their established lives to begin one with you.
You may feel that he's your soulmate, but think again. A real soulmate would not set you on the sidelines. He wouldn't allow it, let alone entice it.
Even if your married man decided to leave his wife and family for you, that doesn't guarantee success. Relationships born out of affairs survive less than 5% of the time.
The bottom line? Break off this relationship today. You'll be hurt, you'll feel brokenhearted, but you'll be better off in the long run. Eventually, you'll fall in love again... with someone who's willing to make you first in his life.
2007-02-02 03:20:26 · answer #3 · answered by frisky_pink_bunny22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably sick of hearing this but believe me time will heal you.
DO you really want to be the cause for breaking up a marriage? Think how bad ou have felt when mn have broken your heart? My advice to you is to start dating again. It may seem hard but you owe it to yourself and your snaity to get your mind off this man (who in my opinion even though he was in love should never have flirted with you and THEN staying with his family as he has hurt you in a great deal by doing so.)
Also let out all your sadness and frustration by taking up boxing or simply screaming into a pillow.
It works.
x
2007-02-01 23:02:27 · answer #4 · answered by Sierra 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You seem quite young, and I'm thinking this man is much older than you. He may have toyed with your feelings for self gratification. Which means that he's actually HORRIBLE.
By committing this crime against his wife he has shown him self as a total wast of space. Don't have anything to do with married men.
Remember if their wives can't trust them then nor can you. Find your self a nice man who values you for who you are and not as a bit on the side.
Good men do exist you know. Don't degrade your self by getting involved with married men.
2007-02-01 23:11:20 · answer #5 · answered by : 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he,s using you he don,t care less about you, hes selfish, men give lots of patter to get a woman,s knickers down he don,t love you at all, his wife is probably giving him a hard time and no sex so he is seeking comfort elsewhere. wizen up smell the roses.
do you want a life spent being hurt, and why do you want someone like him, their is someone ten times better than him out their maybe you are drawn to the wrong type get some counsellling.
2007-02-01 23:06:19 · answer #6 · answered by denise g 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on to someone who can a) be faithful to a woman and b) is yours and all yours. Married men are off limits. They will hurt you every time... maybe that's how it's meant to be since their wives and families are being hurt when a woman gets together with a man she knows is married (no matter how much you care about him).
2007-02-01 23:04:06 · answer #7 · answered by mary 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out before you get found out - or rejected. You don't want to wait for the consequences - knowing you're a marriage wrecker is bad enough, but facing the wrath of the married woman is ten times worse.
2007-02-01 23:04:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its best that way, married men hardly ever leave the wife hun, get a bloke that is not attached to anyone. You must be heart broken and it must be hard. Just move forward and have loads of fun with your mates/friends.
2007-02-01 23:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by Pinkflower 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, he's married and has a family so he has made a commitment. you wouldn't like to be in his wifes shoes would you?
once a cheater always a cheater!
you have to move on and meet someone else, it looks like he was just using you for some fun, he obviously wants to be with his family so you need to let him go.
you shouldnt want to be with someone that would do that to his own family, if he left them for you he would end up cheating on you anyway so be happy its ended now or later down the road it would have been worse.
2007-02-01 23:09:52 · answer #10 · answered by demonized 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heeelloooo, wakey wakey. This is a typical male ploy, if he was serious he would be with you now. Move on and put it down to experience. There are plenty of serious and available men out there. Life sometimes sucks but what a ride it can be.
2007-02-01 23:08:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋