why do parents let their children run wild nowadays??

Question

we live in an aprtment building and my husband is constantly having to go outside and tell kids to be quiet if they're going to play in front of people's homes (one kid even muttered profanity at my husband as he was walking away)....i love kids and understand that playing is important, but these kids scream at the top of their lungs...once my husband even caught some small children banging on our a/c unit with rocks......why don't parents watch their children?? do they not care about them, i mean these unsupervised children could meet any number of unsavory fates..?? do these people have absolutely no respect for others? what's the deal??

one lilith....i totally disagree with you....
i agree that kids need to play, but i do not feel it is MY responsibility to monitor them....many of these kids live nowhere near our apartment but come here to play cuz we have a larger grassy area than most...in our area there are only a couple of people with kids...and often the kids who are unsupervised are very small (like 2 or 3).....and yes children playing is a fact of life, but there are many suitable things they could be doing (if their parents would direct them and monitor them) that would not be disturbing to others...there is one little girl who is about 2 who is very friendly and really likes people, i see her alone quite a bit and would not be surprised if some-one snatched her....you can't tell me it's appropriate for a 2 yr old to be roaming alone....and what parent in their right mind would be supervising kids and let them bang on an a/c unit with rocks..please...the parents are nowhere to be seen

i disagree that because i live in an apartment hearing screaming children is just par for the course....in front of my aprtment is NOT an appropriate place for kids to be screaming....there is an appropriate place for kids to scream and run ammock....it's called THE PARK....NOT in front of my home

Answer 1

parents let their kids run wild because it is easier than supervising their activities... children under the age of 6 should NEVER be allowed to play outside even in their own back or front yard without an adult in the yard...for safety and to help with training for appropriate behavior outdoors.

Answer 2

Its true some parents don't watch their kids well enough, but at the same time when you live in an apartment one of the disadvantages is having noise you may not feel like having to listen to.

Kids do scream at the top of their lungs when they're playing. If you live where kids are you're going to be hearing screaming. The air condition/rocks thing is another matter.

Since you're in an apartment building, chances are the kids are playing in front of their own homes as well as other people's homes. If those kids are nine or ten, and their parents never let them out to play with other kids without being with them Children's Services would take the kids away because the parents were "over-protective".

I suspect you have some "legitimate" complaints about these kids, and maybe their parents could do a better job than they are doing; but kids who scream at the top of their lungs are normal kids, and they can't do that in the apartment, so they have to do it somewhere.

Answer 3

the biggest problem is that the majority of kids these days are being raised by babysitters in kiddy corrals Mom and dad work a 40+ hour week, and see the kids long enough to feed them supper and put them to bed. When the weekend comes, the kids are off to the other parent's house for the scheduled weekend visit to the other parent. And the new parent-step parent are glad that they are gone so they can have some time for their new relationship NO ONE IS RAISING THE KIDS. They are just growing up. No one is teaching self respect respect for others and letting them know that there are such things as boundries. The intact nuclear family is rare, and the stay at home mom is a dinosaur. And that is the shame of the human race

Answer 4

Sorry to tell you but most people don't give a da** as long as they are not bothering them. Most people now don't even know how to raise kids. Never try to teach them respect. Most people now think it's bad to spank a child when they step to far out of line. That's why you see so many hanging out on the street now because there parents just let them run. I also think that is why a lot of them seem book smart but people dumb. A lot of the ones i see act like they don't have good since. It's pitiful. 1 more thing' When i was a kid i roamed all over the neighbor hood playing with other kids. We never bothered any body' we didn't mess with other peoples stuff. We didn't scream and holler to the top of our lungs either. If someone in the neighbor hood told us we were being to loud we went somewhere else. We had since enough to know we were bothering somebody' we knew what to do. We shut up and got out of there.

Answer 5

I am 52 and when I was growing up my parents really never knew where any of us were. Of course we weren't getting into trouble and then they didn't have all the scares. My sisters and brother and I were just playing outside going for walks and exploring. Riding bikes and hanging out at neighbors. These are things kids should be doing anyway of course with these days under supervision. Too bad there are so many kids living nowadays in places that aren't great for kids to be outside. Kids will be kids and I am not excusing the language, they just need something to do. Parents now seem to have alot of other things on their minds and I am so glad that my kids are grown. What a society we have become. Just remember it's not the kids fault, they are just a product of their environment.

Answer 6

Respect is something that seems to be lacking in the whole world these days. I for one watch my kids all the time. They are not allowed out after dark and if they want to go somewhere i can't see them i go with them. I know it sounds a bit over the top but in this day and age you can't be too careful.
It's not up to you to have to watch other peoples kids and make sure they are OK. Maybe you could try talking to the parents, pointing out what a nuisance these "little darlings" are being.
Sorry i can't be more help. Good luck.

Answer 7

I'd bet the kids are not un-supervised. What is irritating to you is that they play in front of your homes, but probably that is where they are allowed to go by their moms!!! It is normal that a certain degree of freedom is gradually let on kids - depending on their age (you don't mention that...).

I remember as a kid, we'd play as a band in the courtyard of a large block of apartments (center-city situation..) - and the doormen would be every day after us. Every day we would go back, and play just like kids do... every day our parents had to tell off the doormen!! We were particularly inpopular with restless old ladies... ;))

Since then, we all grew up, no-one encountered unsavory fates, we all finished school, finished college, currently work and have kids and homes of our own... and our kids play and kick and scream just like we did. It is - ahem - a fact of life.

I think you can just limit it - perhaps propose the kids some quieter games, or a tray of snacks in exchange for some quiet - unless you see foul play, drinking, exchange of cigarettes or other "unsavory" items - it is all normal. It is too easy to blame it on society - we just live all in closer contact with each other, kids don't have endless space to roam, and one has to accept that he/she is hearing other people living...

Answer 8

That drives me insane. Children that age can certainly sit quietly at the table for the time it takes to eat a meal. The parents should not let them run around like heathens.

Answer 9

Cause parents love their kids to death & it doesn't bother them-as long as their precious angels are having fun-(I'm glad I don't have kids to deal with.)

Answer 10

They are too worried about themselves or just caught up with something.