Want to spend a little time with her but i want to focus on MY grandkids and THEIR enjoyment.
How do I handle it so she's not offended that I don't want to spend much time with her and her grandchild?
The question is for a "friend", written from "friends" perspective.
2007-02-01 21:20:22 · 5 answers · asked by vance4rent 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you should just say that there are all kinds of plans scheduled with the grandchildren (if you have to lie and make up a couple of events do that - "dinner with them and their other grandparents" or "a thing at school").
I would think if you see her for a decent visit not too long after you "rest" or "settle in" (which would give you a day or two after you get there), and then plan for a quick visit before you leave (and before the last day you're with your grandchildren" you would have seen her twice without taking much time away from your grandchildren. You'd also have managed two visits in five days (seven days minus the first day you get there and the last day you're there). That would look pretty decent to me.
2007-02-01 22:03:57 · answer #1 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would save a morning for her and maybe try to plan one event with everyone. Life's too short to hurt her feelings and I think it's good for families to get everyone together. Just mention you are trying to focus on your grandchildren while you are there.
Enjoy your vacation and grandkids!!
2007-02-02 05:30:40 · answer #2 · answered by honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like her sister would easily understand that, and even be glad that she wanted to do other things instead of spending all her time with her. Since they are both grandparents, they should also be that mature. Grandkids "rule", as they say ! lol
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From a grandpa
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2007-02-02 05:29:37 · answer #3 · answered by J T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would explain to her what you agenda is up front. Tell her what time openings you do have and limit it only to what you want. Say I have Monday and Wednesday open from 3pm to 6pm, would you like to get together for lunch or an early dinner? This way she already knows the rest of your schedule is full and won't want to be a burden.
2007-02-02 05:27:34 · answer #4 · answered by aprildin 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't why she will be offended
after all your Grandkids should come first
just make time for her
2007-02-02 05:25:45 · answer #5 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋