Ok..sorry its so long. My bf and i live about 2 hours away, known each other over a year, we met online, and things grew from there...i went to see him in December for 3days, but it was difficult because he was working at the time and got to spend time together mainly in the evenings. And he is 22 turning 23 on 13 feb...anyway im 24 turning 25 in may. He stays with his parents, they are quite strict and wont allow him a gf or allow anyone to stay over he says untill he turns 25 or something. So he sneaked me into his room for the 1st night but next night he said time to meet the parents but he couldnt introduce me as his gf and had to make up a story about me going 2 work for the holidays by him and needed a lift with him.. So the last night i sneaked in and stayed with him in his separate outside room. Ok so i dont go into so much detail here, i asked him why he doesnt say who i am to his buds and that, his reply was kinda like, if it was not so deep between us it would be easier to say. I still dont really get it. He tells his friends im just a bud. So i thought maybe anyone could give some advice or opinions on the situation. We dont chat everyday because he is always working and is tired. I know thats true because i was there when he had to work. Please i would appreciate any advice on whole situation. Its confusing and worrying me a bit. I trust him and he trusts me. He has no other gf etc. He is not hiding me but just not showing everyone (i understand the parents part) how he really feels but when alone together we are like we have been together forever. Just confusing...
2007-02-01 21:20:15 · 7 answers · asked by blue_angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think your problem is, you are thinking in the conventional way. Once a boy loves a girl he will take her around and introduce her to all his friends and parents saying she is his girl friend. This may not happen always. Some guys are shy to reveal their love. This may be due to the way they had been brought up or due to the circumstances they have encountered in life. As you are sure he loves you, I suppose this is the reason why he is not revealing you to the outside world. You keep on loving him. Probably he is waiting to reach 25 years of age to reveal it.
2007-02-01 22:56:15 · answer #1 · answered by Mr Strange 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 9 year age gap at 15, might as well be a 20 year age gap. I'd say there be trouble ahead.. assuming he does actually move to the UK, and that isn't, as I suspect, just a load of bloody flannel. That's not to mention the fact, that from every detached standpoint, she's involving herself with an online predator (being as from an American perspective, she's 3 years under the age of consent) - I mean really... how can any good come from this? From every sane position, this is not a direction to pursue.. but I doubt very much that will make much difference
2016-05-24 04:38:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear friend , if you are taking this or thinking for a permanent place with him , is a really good dream and wish . But in reality , this young boy is not made for you , yes he will be there to satisfy your and his physical needs , when ever time or situation permit or allowed . He will never object his parents choice or desires now or at later stage .
Better you start looking for some other soul mate to save your mental peace and save your heart attack at later date , when he will break the news that such & such date he is going to marry so and sooooooooooo .
Hope you understand and analyse your self wisely , without getting hurt or taking seriously .
2007-02-01 21:40:06 · answer #3 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somethings not right here. Are you 100% sure you know everything about this guy???
Someone who doesnt want to introduce you as his gf to his family and friends is a lil suspect.
Why? Why would he be doing that? I'd be asking him a lot of questions... and make sure you get straight answers!!!!
2007-02-01 21:28:04 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him, ask him, if you keep it inside forever, you may never be anymore to him than you are, and about his parents, give his parents a reason to let you to go out with each others in front of them~ good luck!
2007-02-01 21:25:25 · answer #5 · answered by SmilE 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just give him some more time and dont let the trust you have for him fade off,love is for two pple, i believe when the time is ripe he will introduce you to his friends and buddies.Stay put
2007-02-01 21:27:24 · answer #6 · answered by dorica w 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
pray for a change soon
2007-02-01 21:25:15 · answer #7 · answered by joddie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋