There was some flirtation going on between this guy n I a few months ago. Because of something, he means a lot to me and I'm grateful to him. But it didn't come to anything because I was too shy. I think he is a reserved person, but I dunno if he is shy or arrogant. Now I'm just so tired of liking this person who seems to respond but does not. I can't read him is he not interested or is he just shy. I used to be hopeful but now I think I'm tired. There are a lot of things that make me feel strongly he is my soulmate. I don't know what to do because I feel for him but I can't let him know cos I think it is all wishful thinking on my part and I'm scared of rejection. I'm tired of waiting for chances to show him that I care. I'm scared of misunderstand him..that he is just shy but I think he's arrogant. I don't dare to go up to talk to him now cos I;m scared he'll know for sure I like him. I feel childish. Should I just take it that he does not take action therefore not interested?
2007-02-01 21:02:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know how anxious you are regarding this matter and I believe your feeling is normal cos' everying need to be loved and to love. I understanding that it's hard to make a further step if you're not sure if he is going to reject you or not. But I think that if you both like each other, there should be someone to make the first step. If I were you, I will just wait and see if he will make this first step, on the other hand you can pray, I am not sure if you have any belief but as I'm a Christian, I think only God can picture what the character of that person is and what both of your future will look like, only the one who knows everything (including the past and the future) can arrange a perfect match, if you belive. However, it's really up to you to make your own choice, I don't think you are childish as you are serious about a relationship that will last for your entire life, a soulmate that you will spend the rest of your life. I wanna bless you to have a true love and I believe a true love has at least one quality which is sacrification. What I mean is that, maybe you will lose your dignity, confronting him what feeling you have on him. And it's best test that you can tell if you love him or not. If you think that person worth you to do that, do so. Whether he will reject you or not, please do not think that you are silly. Instead, I think you are more mature doing that cos' both of your relationship will not be resolved until any of you make the first step. You can also wait and see how God lead if you are still now sure if you simply love him or not and I am sure God will work things out for you. So, I wanna wish you all the bless and I will pray for you.
2007-02-01 21:38:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woah, dude, I'm in the same situation. I was thinking, "this is kinda creepy, maybe it's the same guy." But, those chances are slim. I'm gonna be a hypocrite, make the first move. You don't know if you don't try and it's going to bother you if you never know. So cross your fingers and march up to him and tell him what's going on(without getting hysterical). Maybe one day I'll do the same thing with my crush, but for now I'm just gonna stick with the, "He likes me, he likes me not..." Good Luck!
2007-02-02 05:10:05 · answer #2 · answered by blueJay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you feel impatient and yeah, kinda tired of whats the real score between your kind of relationships, and girl, its alwsy hard to expect, and end up not getting wat we are expecting ,ok , it'll be more of a hurting for you, so stop building your entire world around him, and keep on thinking that you were 'soulmate', you know for the guys, if they really find a girl interesting they were the one who wud make the first move of give hints to make you feel he likes you. and since you 're not getting the same attention with him, i can say that you better look for other bees' around your garden,ok, meaning, im sure other guys find you attractive enough so make friends with them too,.......and one more thing is make yourself extra ordinarily attractive, so that he cud get notice of you too. hope it helps.........good day! :)
2007-02-02 05:23:38 · answer #3 · answered by candee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are childish! or rather acting like one! Ask him straight out! does he like you or not? tell him your not waiting around for him as you've got a life to live and your going to live it! If he replies in the negative, what have you lost? Nothing! Go for it hon, Now!!!
2007-02-02 05:11:27 · answer #4 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats so wrong with rejection? The worst he can say is no... and then at least you can start focusing on someone else and just brach off a friendship if you choose with the old one.
2007-02-02 05:08:47 · answer #5 · answered by massure4hire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl, u are being childish.
if u can't deal wif being confused abt ure own feelings and his feelings for you, den just ASK HIM.
wads de worse det cud happen?
he'll just say no, and so u can move on or stay frens and nothing more.
SIMPLE
2007-02-02 05:11:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you like someone you have to show it.There is no other alternative.Be a little bold and tell him.The maximum he can do is to reject you.As it is you are tired of him.Give this chance.
2007-02-02 05:09:43 · answer #7 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know how you feel now, before you are stuck in the friend zone forever!
2007-02-02 05:08:49 · answer #8 · answered by white wolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just using you to fill in the blank spots in his life while he looks for someone he loves.
i.e. - He's just not that into you.
2007-02-02 05:07:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should talk to him about it and ask if he likes anyone or something.... or maybe go for it, you've got nothing to lose
2007-02-02 05:20:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋