He always says they are just friends. I find out because of stupid things he does. I've talked to a couple of the women and find out that he tells them he's not married and has no kids(we have 3) and they turn around and want no futher contact with him. Am I wrong to expect (demand) that if he has female friends that they should know about me and should be able to call our home and ask me to speak with him. I'm not against a man having female friends but feel that if he's hiding it there is probably more to it. I recently woke up and he was on the xbox chatting with a lady who said she was alone, I asked him to scroll up so I could see his part of the conversation and he refused, today he was on with the same lady (I pretended to be asleep on the couch) and he was typing that he had taken off his clothes (she said her son was a wake and had to go) He's racked up $600 cell phone bills. I feel that an intimate phone relationship is as bad as a physical one. Am I wrong?
2007-02-01 20:55:40 · 25 answers · asked by rhonda c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he wants to and is or trying to cheat on you
2007-02-01 20:58:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What kind of question is that? Of course you're not wrong. That you think you might be is indicative of some sort of childish mind-games played on the part of the husband.
People need to start realizing that a wife is not a piece of property there but for the convenience of the husband. A wife is half of the two of you and you're both as equal and strong in the relationship as each other. You probably made a mistake in marrying this guy, as I'm sure that if he hasn't cheated on you yet, it was only for lack of opportunity. If you want your relationship to succeed, he's going to have to make some changes.
2007-02-01 21:00:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God! You poor thing...I feel so sorry for you in this situation & with 3 little ones to care for....I'm assuming they're little. Your children…..
To answer your last question first...yes it is cheating to be doing what he's doing...I don't mean to stir up sh*t here but how do you know he hasn't already cheated with another woman on a physical level?
What a pig he is to be doing this to you....the mother of his children...the woman he lives with & took as his wife...I bet he'd go Ape-s`hit if you were doing the same to him....which I'm not going to suggest you do by the way....
You are certainly not in the wrong to expect that he would tell people about his family...whether those people are male or female
My mind would be saying the same as yours...why is he hiding my existence...what the hell is he up to?
Well! You already know the answer to that though don't you?
Are your children aware of what he does?
I can't tell you what you should do about this sweetheart but I know one thing for sure....if you continue like this...no trust...not even sure whether he's already seeing other women on a physical level...having conversations about removing his clothes...you'll end up so fukced up in the head all your future relationships will suffer because of it....if it were me...I'd make myself & my children non-existent in his life....he is after all self prophesying it by his actions already…..He’s a sad mother fukcer at the end of the day & a pervert to boot….I wouldn’t want my kids growing up thinking that sort of behaviour is acceptable…I hope you get this sorted out one way or the other & I really wish you the best of luck for your future….Babe, you’re worth more than this surely… ♥
2007-02-01 21:21:18 · answer #3 · answered by Funky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you arent wrong. Although it looks like your lucky cos' you did not notice or probably he did not get involved - in a real life relationship, physically and emotionally. But then, your husband sounds like he may, if he had a chance. You have a lot of talking to do with your husband, counselling perhaps. And with the $600 bills, which may steadily and slowly increase, I think you have a lot of sorting out to do immediately, NOW.
What is exactly missing in your relationship, that he is going into the wrong direction ? I think before you talk, you have a lot of thinking to do too, I am not blaming you for it, its just probably that he is prone to wandering around a bit. And that can be harmful to you and your children. I would not advise you to split, cos' the first instance is to find out why this is happening, and where you and your children (his family) stands in this situation. Once you clear out, you need to also assure him that you are always open to his freinship with other women, and he needs to except that you may have freinds too (men). See what he has to say. Ask him, talk to him...and thats all I could tell you here. After all this, I just hope that you are wrong, and that he may after all be just doing some light flirting / 'just for fun' as a single 'available' man.
I am really sorry, its mean of me to suggest it, but what ''Amy Jo'' is probably right, in a way that, if you pass on his id, and see what he talks, and where it leads to, by giving his id to her or to a very close freind of yours, perhaps you could find out what exactly he is up to. Although it is a crooked way, I guess somethings could be cleared and you may have a clear picture before you proceed getting into any major decisions.
hope things work out well for you...good luck
2007-02-01 21:12:50 · answer #4 · answered by arya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear
You are not wrong
Give him a personal advice that the entire decoram of the family status goes down in the society because of such acts
Tell him that by just telling other women that he has not married will not fetch him any thing
More over advice him that the worst thing in the life is SELF PITY
I hope that he will change
2007-02-01 21:02:52 · answer #5 · answered by sudha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Honey, kick his butt to the curb and right now. Your man is acting as though he is ashamed of you and your kids. Any secrecy when it comes to relationship outside your marriage is never a good idea. He may be bored with you but this is not a healthy way to deal with it and if I were you , I would not put up with it, in any way shape or form. You have to stand up for yourself even if you are scared of being alone.
2007-02-01 21:07:02 · answer #6 · answered by mama29 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right! He's even so bold as to be doing this sort of thing when you're in the room. The man has no respect. I would be furious if my husband did that. And to not acknowledge the exsitence of you and your children must only be making it worse! Maybe you should confront him, and if he wont stop, show him the door.
2007-02-01 21:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by blubaby77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a bleeping backbone NOW!!!!
What are you doing?
You're are just now being alarmed by this?
What type of valium have you been eating.
I am terribly sorry for your pain,but I think an immediate
visit to a therapist and some NA meetings may be called for.
NO
Please wake up and grab some dignity quick,before he gets the last of it.
IT WILL TAKE TIME,but please help yourself..
2007-02-01 21:08:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the time has come to break the knot
he's a very bad man and if he can a lie about u and your children he can also do something wrong to go wild
he can do nything with the girls
it's time to take a hard decision that u r going to leave him
hope ur life ends up in a good mood
2007-02-01 21:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by goyal_pranav40341 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What more do you need in order to make you realise that your husband is cheating on you?
You are not wrong....cheating is cheating in many forms. You really need to put your foot down with this man, if he continues to be disrespectful in his relationship with you, then it's up to you how you want to handle it.
A relationship without trust cannot possibly survive. Not for me, anyhow.
2007-02-02 00:36:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....I love when my husband touches me in my sleep. I wake up and let me bang me! It's soo hot to me. He doesn't try to have sex unless I respond to his kisses etc. But sometimes I wish he would! It's freaking hot to me!
2014-08-10 12:37:55 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋