I'm a 18 year old freshman in college , just got in to college. I recently met this great girl at a party, we hit it off immediately. We both really liked each other , and spoke some more over the phone. Eventually we started dating , unfortunately we haven't seen each other in a month. She's a 17 year junior in high school (recently discovered), and I want to be able to see her in person. There's a problem though, because I'm in college and 18 , her mom is very protective of her daughter. She wants to meet my mom (which I think is bit ridiculous). But going on ahead with plans , I decided I'm a good guy and have nothing to hide, so I asked my mom if she could meet her mom and my mom flat out said "no, you two aren't getting married , there's no point in meeting this mother and your 18, you take care of it". She has put her foot down on this. I really like this girl, and I don't know what I can do to get around this . Please help
2007-02-01 20:50:45 · 7 answers · asked by George L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well.. Who is paying for college?
Who mentioned anything about marriage?
Hey, you can not change your mother’s heart. Some mothers are greedy and give poor excuses when it comes to losing a son to love. This might be the case?
All you can do is tell your girl friends mother straight up that your mother is cold hearted about any relationship right now because of your education and college.
Take it from one who knows. My father’s mother was the same way. To the point where his mother wouldn’t even make him food after he got home from work. I'm not talking about working at a supermarket. I'm talking about 10 hours in a Blast furance in a steel mill. Mothers can be vindictive.
You won’t be able to change her mind. My suggestion is if you like this girl still go out and spend time with her. If her parents are accepting then spend time with them. If your mother wants to see you, to bad. Maybe she will get the hint when she is about to lose you.
2007-02-01 21:14:54 · answer #1 · answered by Renoirs_Dream 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your mother is just worried that you might decide to ditch education for marriage. You are 18, and you do need to take care of it. The girl is 17 with a protective mother. Sounds like you both have parents that are concerned, so I would just get the girl to agree to leave things as is for now, see each other later and keep talking and doing whatever it is you do now. Sounds like a no win situation right now, with the parents. Give them time, maybe they will come around.
2007-02-02 05:09:10 · answer #2 · answered by m c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.. Quite a bit of a problem there.
Seems like your mother is not very happy with you pairing up with this girl whom you like. So, there's a problem from your mom's side.
Then, you have the problem of the mother of the girl you like, who wants to meet your mother first.
In my opinion, you only have 2 choices.
You either carry on with your love, i.e. make the girl whom you like happy
OR
Forget her, and make your mom happy. Not easy to do this, isn;t it?
I guess you will prefer the first option. So how can you do this? If I were you, I would make the girl whom I like meet my mother. Just bring her over. I'm sure your mom won't mind you bringing a friend over, right? I think your mom needs to chat with you both together. If the girl whom you like manages to impress your mom that day, I guess your mom won't mind meeting her mom. As for convincing her mom to bring her over to your place, you'll have to try your best and explain to her that your mom just wants to meet her (although that's not the case, but sometimes, it's necessary to lie a bit).
According to me, you'll have to go on trying to impress her mother, and she has to impress your mom that day. Just tell her to dress decently, be very polite, and try being a very good girl (or the type of girl your mom likes).
As far it is of meeting the girl, I'm afraid, you'll have to meet her for some time at her house, with the presence of her mom, since her mom is quite strict.
I hope both mothers understand your love, and negotiate and make it a great deal!
All the best! And remember, never give up, cause when there's a will, there's a way! Nothing is impossible!
2007-02-02 05:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and meet your girlfriends mom yourself first of all. Speak to her about how you feel about her daughter (the clean bits anyway). See if that will help talk her around. Use all your charm.
Your mom is being a bit unreasonable, but its understandable, what with this being the 21st century and all, that she thinks its a bit silly.
Best of luck, sounds like you potentially have two difficult women in your life already!
2007-02-02 04:55:49 · answer #4 · answered by Whateverandeverandamen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother need not meet her mother. Her mother is over reacting. If your g/f is as much interested in you as you are she will be in touch with you. Dont think about marriage at all. Just be friends. May be after 3 to 4 years you can get seriously involved.
2007-02-02 04:59:43 · answer #5 · answered by rams 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'd better to explain your mother about your feelings towards this girl and let her know that the reason of this meeting is only to get to know her family more and nothing else ,your mother probably thinks that it's a bit too early for you to be involved to that girl and she's right ,try to convince her and if you couldn't ,ask her to convince you with a reasonable explanation for her denying to meet her mother.
2007-02-02 04:59:12 · answer #6 · answered by BluE RosE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the girl's mother and tell her what your Mom told you. If she really needs references, give them to her. Is your Dad still around? You can't force your Mom to do what she doesn't want to. But I think that she's being silly. But that's just my opinion.
2007-02-02 05:00:37 · answer #7 · answered by honyb50 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋