stress pain and ilness?

Question

My dads 78 yrsd old
Hes got lukeimia. The lattest diagnosis is not months but weeks.
Im living with him.Hes still fit to get around but reality is finaly hitting home.
we dont know what to say .what to do.just feeling sad and scared.any advice please.

also anyone out thier struggles to get on with work colleages.
I feel like an outsider.
One person wont even look at me.
Im not a bad person im just not in the gang

Answer 1

So sorry to hear about all this.....here is my suggestions. If it is weeks, not months, spend as much time as you can with your father and say everything you always wanted to say to him. Tell him what he has meant to you and how he will never die because he will live inside of you and all of his other children and grandchildren and so on forever and ever. Tell him the truth. leave nothing out. Live the way we should all live everyday, appreciating each moment with a precious loved one. The work thing may be more difficult. First, just do your job as best you can. Being a good worker, especially in the Boss's eyes is a good thing. You can't always get along with everyone. Just be as good as you can to others and if they still treat you poorly, that is their problem, not yours. Good luck with all of this and keep your chin up.....It will be OK.

Answer 2

hmmm...ok
Abt your dad's illness, nothing will change if you worried everyday. You should feel happier that your dad can still able to walk around. Look on the bright side of it. :) Depressed about things that can't change isn't maturity too.

Abt your working life, I've been through. It's understandable that you feel bad abt it and even led to depression. Hmm, I think you should let this "colleaguesship" thing bother you. If the company u worked in is big, U can try making friend with other department. Smile if passer-by make eye contact with you. If they smile back...GOOD NEW!! Your colleagues may not neccessary be your friend. I maybe it's just the fact that there is no chemistry. U can also try to break-the-ice forget abt the "gap" between you and your colleagues and try to engage an interestine topic that they maybe interested in...maybe the movies you watched recently. U can only do this if your colleague is not the mean kind.

Answer 3

You have got to strong I had the same situation with my dad just think of all the good times you had the long and short of is you have to carry on on being an outsider you dont come accross that way the person who is ignoring you it's thier loss good luck for the future

Answer 4

I sympathise with you in both of your dilemmas! As I too feel that I have been shunned in the past by unthinking and uncareing people.
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Answer 5

Spend as much time with your father as possible. Talk to him and tell him everything you have always wanted to say to him as it would be sad if you had regrets thinking "I wish I'd told him or done that for him". Enjoy what time you have left - it's special.

As for your colleagues, I've been there. They are hurtful and spiteful but to be honest, why would you want to to talk and associate with people like that? You are head and shoulders above them. They are not worth thinking about. Just concentrate on yourself. My thoughts are with you.

Answer 6

I feel so sorry for you ,i went through all this with my father ,he had lung cancer .All you can do is be there for him,he knows how you feel. And as far as your work colleages go ,try to ignore them ,your the better person .That is a form of bullying.take care

Answer 7

just spend as much time with him and cherish everything, dont be scared talk to him and let him no your also scared. as for the othe bit about work sod them your there to work if they dont want to talk to you its there loss not yours, good luck with everything your dealing with