Lets se if you all realy pay attention this time..my question before was HYPOCRITES? and why do we cunfuse our own kids..this is it.....it is wrong? that we tell our kids one min not to take candy from the strangers and the next we are not only telling them to or letting them or even walking them ourselves. letting them knock on strangers door and ask for candy..I dont care if you know the person or not...the question is....is it wrong to tell them 364 days no and then 1 day yes?????????get it now......
2007-02-01 20:35:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
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2007-02-01 20:43:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
there is a difference between Halloween and every other day. It is a holiday and parents check the candy b4 they are allowed to eat it. It is also a safety issue cause its a little odd for a person to be sitting alone in a park look at a child and say hey, would you like a piece of candy. They could snatch the kid. you have to teach your children to be cautious you cant just go up to every person that tries to give you something that goes along with the whole dont talk to strangers thing. And most people talk their kids to areas right around their houses or to people that they know. its not like we are going up to the door and going "ok little suzzie ring the bell and go inside with the nice man i'll wait out here for you"........ No parents know whats best for their children and they would never do anything to harm them aside from mental illness or some odd thing like that.
2007-02-02 04:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by Jeremysmom05 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. It isn't being a hypocrite, and it shouldn't be confusing.
Trick or Treat is a holiday, and the custom is to bring children to neighbors' homes and get candy. It is up to mothers to know where they are bringing their children, most do, and most children know their mothers/fathers know the people at the houses.
Somebody who just shows up in a car on a Wednesday afternoon in March is not taking part in any holiday customs, obviously.
Children of three or four and up know the difference. They aren't stupid. Children who are too little to know the difference are also too little to be told about strangers at all and too little to be out unattended don't have to learn that rule until they're big enough to understand it and be outside without an adult.
Children know that plastic eggs with candy in them are for Easter, decorated trees in the living room are for Christmas, and going out with Mom or Dad by the hand (sometimes) and trick or treating at homes in the neighborhood that are lighted or decorated for Halloween is what you do on Halloween when you're young; and a simple explanation of the difference between trick or treating and taking candy from a stranger on a Wednesday afternoon in March are two different things eliminates all possibilities of mixed messages or hyprocrisy.
2007-02-02 05:19:19 · answer #3 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion yes it's wrong and confusing. Children, especially young ones 4, 5, 6 have a very hard time rationalizing why one would be ok and not the other. It causes confusion and mixed messages.
The older children like 8,9,10 year olds, they can be sat down and explained the difference between the two scenarios.
Either way, we won't be trick or treating any longer in our family. We will attend church functions, house parties or put on our own celebrations at home. That way we can avoid any of the confusion that could be diastrous.
2007-02-02 06:12:10 · answer #4 · answered by 1973kimberly 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actually, many parents nowadays let their children go only to the neighbors they know. Also, many malls stay open and encourage trick-or-treating families to go store to store for a safe night.
You are correct in that, many families also let their children go to strangers houses... but I have also noticed the trend of parents making sure the night stays both fun AND safe. I've also noticed more community involvement in safety as well... i.e., the zoo might stay open and encourage kids to come there...
2007-02-02 04:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by scruffycat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally i dont beleive in halloween... so already i think its wrong.. but in answer to ur question... hypocritical?? i dont know.. the whole accepting candy from strangers ceche is over... i mean in how many kidnappoings these days is candy even involved???
i was involved in an attempting kidnapping and their excuse was "mummy sent me".... its been drilled into me to not get into ne1's car unless told to by my parents directly so i ran the hell out of there... wat you should be asking is y dont all skools run courses for young kids on how to avoid these situations (my skool did)
2007-02-02 04:40:27 · answer #6 · answered by if life gives u lemons eat them! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We only go to houses of people we know. It involves having to drive and only going to a few peoples houses, but my children don't take anything from strangers. Holiday or not.
2007-02-02 07:02:24 · answer #7 · answered by Heather B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Halloween is a little different. We walk our children through our neighborhood. The people in our neighborhood are supposed to be friends, not strangers.
You make the call.
2007-02-02 04:38:53 · answer #8 · answered by ZORG 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are only trying to set a good example for their kids to follow. Just like the ten commandments... we can't follow them all the time, but they're there as guidelines.
2007-02-02 04:37:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
On trick or treating, I don't leave my kid to wander off in the dark alone, but keep them in a small group led by at least one parent.
2007-02-02 04:41:30 · answer #10 · answered by Benvenuto 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋