I'm in my last year of High School and have yet to be asked out by a guy. I'm not ugly, not drop dead gorgeous but I think I am reasonably pretty. I have pretty hazel (cats) eyes, thick dark hair and a skinny (kinda lanky to be truthful) body. (lol sales pitch). I think none of the guys have asked me out because of my brains. I am in the top 3 of all my classes and everyone thinks I'm a nerd. I like learning interesting things, its not like I'm obsessed with computers or something. I'm in the "teacher's pet" group at school because we are all well behaved. It's not like I want one of the popular really hot guys to ask me out but there are at least five other guys I would say yes to if they only asked. My two best friends are the same as me (reasonably pretty, very smart) and all three of us are devoid of any guy action. Why is this guys???? Is it because we arfe smarter than you? Are you afraid of a challenge?? Detailed answers please. Girls in my place can answer to.
2007-02-01 20:21:25 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think I'm better then most of the guys, I just know I'm smarter than most. Accept it, move on.
2007-02-01 20:28:05 · update #1
I had a crush on the smartest guy in the school and I flirted with him like crazy for half a year but i kinda lost hope with that cause. I didn't think guys like to be asked out.
2007-02-01 20:30:24 · update #2
I'm outgoing, i party, i do sports. I FLIRT! I'ts not like i'm a social reject, I'm just good at school stuff.
2007-02-01 20:33:12 · update #3
I'm nice, i swear. I have guy friends, it's not like i rub my smartness in peoples faces. Its just they all see me and my pals as the "homework help girls" not girlfriend material.
2007-02-01 20:39:14 · update #4
I, for one, find intelligence attractive and I am definitely not intimidated by it. Being a teacher's pet is a whole 'nother story however. I would be turned off by anyone whom I viewed as a suck-up or brown-noser. Not knowing you personally, I can only speculate as to why you haven't been asked out. Here are some possibilities...
1. you aren't as attractive as you think you are.
2. you are attractive, but your personality is a problem.
3. the kind of guys who like you are the shy nice-guy types.
4. you're a "nice girl" and the kind of guys who are not to shy
. . to ask, see you as not likely to put out.
. . (not saying you should - that's just what some guys are after)
5. maybe you're right about the brain thing and all the guys at
. . your school are Neanderthals
2007-02-01 20:36:14 · answer #1 · answered by Andrew 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps all the guys there are cowards?
Why don't you make the first move on one of those other guys, or at least flirt a bit and see what comes back.
Some guys will find you more attractive because you're smart, you've just got to find the right ones.
I know I couldn't cope with a stupid girlfriend, mine has two degrees (actually I find this a bit annoying as I only have one, but I do have a professional qualification to make up for it!).
Also, I wouldn't let it worry you. High School is not the real world, and you are by no means starting that late anyway. Take it easy, and it will come. I imagine you'll be going to college, and later earning top dollar somewhere, and meeting lots of interesting (sexy) people doing both!
2007-02-01 20:28:26 · answer #2 · answered by Whateverandeverandamen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lets see, I'm really attracted to girls who are intelligent. I like a girl that gives me a run for my money or who can debate an issue with me and be able to support their side, etc. I like the challenge but then again all guys are not like this and they might be afraid of a girl that is smarter than them, maybe it makes them feel like a loser or something who knows. Maybe it is even the teacher pet thing. I would suggest maybe going out and doing some things you usually don't do on a regular basis. I'm not telling you to go out and break the law but you can't always be the girl that always does the right thing that's all. Show them you have some character and are wiling to do some of the things they are into. Hope this advice helps
don't give up
2007-02-01 20:37:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from personal experiences that maybe on of the reasons, trust me some guys are low confidence they think that by asking a hot, young girl with brains is intimidating and are quite honestly afraid of rejection. They probably think you're too good for them, not every guy but some or atleast the shy ones. Trust me I used to be shy in High School and always had a thing for smart girls, but because I was afraid of rejection didn't even bother to ask them out. But you know hoesntly, don't act desperate, they are the ones missing out, not you.
Also, they might think you're the type of girl who would only date guys who are jocks. I'm just trying to help you out, hope this helps.
2007-02-01 20:37:49 · answer #4 · answered by money mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you and your group of girls are so witty, put your heads together and create a plan to take advantage of these men you are interested in. it is no different than being a good businessman/woman. consider it a challenge...surely you can come up with something. How about setting up a tutoring club. "SexyTutors" or something like that. You gotta outsmart the competition too. You can do it! Serioisly..congratulations on your academic success and keep your eye on the next few years beyond HS. Now is your time to enjoy as first year in college will be a big change for ya.
2007-02-01 20:35:07 · answer #5 · answered by keepingitgoing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the only guys who become intimidated by an intelligent woman are those who are unsure of themselves and are fully aware it is much more difficult to impress a smart lady with their limited intelligence. I believe an intelligent woman is quite exciting and enjoy their company a great deal. You should never attempt to "dumb yourself down" just to make a guy feel good about himself. Tell him to read a book or watch educational t.v. once in a while. If a guy is attempting to make you feel uncomfortable about yourself because of your intelligence then you need to find a better class of people with whom to associate. Stay just as smart as you are.
2016-05-24 04:36:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is because you think your poop does not stink and that your so much better than every one else is why guys are not attracted to you. Smart or dumb has nothing to do with it, is that the only excuse that you could come up with for being rejected by every guy in school. Give us a break here, you are wrong. It is easy enough to see that your in love with yourself, self centered and probably a spoiled brat attitude. Guess you see where your top whatever has gotten you, no where with the guys. lol, guess they are smarter than you are afterall. lol
2007-02-01 20:34:22 · answer #7 · answered by m c 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Possibly they find your attitude supercilious and discomforting. So don't "push" your supposed superiority in their faces. Mental acuity isnt everything! A pleasant personality makes for a more approachable character. Are you only wanting to date the "buff, athletic types"? Why not try the guys of similar disposition to yourself? And this is a new millenium so chicks CAN ask guys out!
2007-02-01 20:34:50 · answer #8 · answered by kanga 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where were you when I was 18? ;-)
Yes, there are some guys that are intimidated by brains. How can they be the big, macho, dominant driver in the relationship, when they're going to be shown up every 15 minutes.
Take heart, there are some bright boys out there who will be more your speed. At this point, they're probably hopelessly geeky, but in just a few years, that should get better.
2007-02-01 20:26:21 · answer #9 · answered by tony1athome 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, I bet it is because they don't truly find your intellect attractive. Don't look down upon men just because you find yourself to be much smarter. That actually makes most men insecure about their knowledge capacity less attracted to you. Overall, to see the splinter in the other's eye, you should really take that plank out of yours.
2007-02-01 20:24:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋