im 19 and my mom kicked me out, i feel i have no where to go and no one to turn to, what should i do?

Question

i am my mom's slave. I used to do everything she told me to do, but when i stopped, she raised hell and kicked me out. I feel like i have no where to go because her place does not feel like home and I don't want to take advantage of my boyfriend's parents apartment or my friends house. I have no money, I am in debt, I don't have any family to turn to and I don't know the first thing about moving into an apartment of my own. I am extremely sad. What should I do? Im stuck.

Answer 1

First I would find a job. Go to the local rehabilative services and see about getting medical insurance, food stamps, public housing, etc. (Ask around someone can tell you where you need to go). You can stay with a friend or your boyfriends family until you get that done, HE IS YOUR BF, HE SHOULD BE OFFERING YOU A PLACE!! If after that you feel the need to pay back the family you can give them a little money here and there. Save up as much money as you can, go to a technical school and get an education in a trade (it's not a college education, but for now its better than nothing). And last but not least I would see a psychiatrist or talk to a doctor about getting you into some classes that can teach you the basics on how to pay your bills, balance a checkbook, and work your way out of debt. Dont feel bad about that, my mother is 48 years old and she is just now getting on her own feet (she's always had family to take care of her).

Answer 2

Well, as much as it may sound bad you have to either go home or take some sympathy from your boyfriends or friends. They say it's two sides to every story and sometimes you have to put pride behind you and do what you have to do.

Living on the streets and in a shelter is not good and you don't want that to be one of your alternatives if it doesn't have to be! Apparently living with your mom isn't the thing for you at this point in your life and you don't have good independence. Once you get a roof over your head again and some stability, figure yourself out and take this lesson as a wakeup call in life and start doing things to be securely independent. Get a job and save money, go to school if you aren't doing that already, and learn what things you would need to do to live on your own.

Nothing is guaranteed from anyone and you have to prepare yourself to live without your parents taking care of you or depending on others like your boyfriend and your friends. You have to have your own two feet and it is a process... a long one and right now you unfortunately see where you stand.

Give your mom a call and tell her you don't want to live on the streets because you aren't ready for that life ever. Being in someone else's house puts you in a situation where you have to do things you may not want to do all the time. With daughters and moms there can easily be conflict and your in your in your moms house so you have to bow down and bow out.

Don't let bad decisions right now dictate and possibly ruin the rest of your life. It can be soo much worse. I am not saying that to say you don't have it hard but you don't want things to get so bad and you look back and say I just should have went home!

So, do the right thing and just do what you need to to get to where you need to be.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

You don't say whether or not you have a job. If so, find a room for rent as a roommate to start with. You will have to contribute to rent and utilities, but it is an established situation that you won't have to set up from scratch with the landlord, utility company, etc. Make sure the other person knows you may be there only a short time. You can stand on your own without being abused by your mother or feeling like you are overstaying your welcome with friends/boyfriend and you will feel SO much better about yourself. Good luck and get going... your life awaits you.

With every best wish...

Answer 4

Bite the bullet. You need to make amends with your mother. No matter how hard she makes you work, so long as she isn't abusive, you need to put up with it. Focus your frustration into getting out of the situation. Get a job and get out of debt as fast as you can. Perhaps you could pay your mother rent in exchange for not having to be her "slave." Start saving your money. Whenever the opportunity presents itself, get a better job. Keep looking for a place of your own. I good rule of thumb is: one week's pay should go to rent, one week's pay toward utilities and other bills, and one week's pay for groceries etc. The fourth week would be about half savings and half towards something fun (though it doesn't have to be week by week, that's just an overall guideline). If you don't have a credit card, get one. You want one with no annual or sign up fees. Don't worry about how high the APR or how low the credit limit is. Make sure it has a 30 day grace period. Use it to buy gas and groceries, but pay it off every week. Don't wait for the statement, send them a payment every week. Doing this doesn't improve your credit, but it establishes your credit. Once you save enough money to make a large purchase (hopefully a necessary one) get a loan from a bank with a low APR and set up a savings account with that bank to pay the loan payments automatically. This will help your credit without any risks.
If you didn't graduate high school get your GED asap. It's usually less than $50 and only takes a couple of evenings to take the test. Then start going to a community college to earn an associates. If it takes four years it's still worth it. Now get a better job. Look for one that will pay for continuing education. Get a bachelor's. Once you have a bachelor's degree, lots of money saved up, and decent credit, start looking for a job you'll like.

At this point, you've lived on your own, established good credit, gotten an education, and have a good job that you like. Now you can go back to your mother and rub it in her face.

Answer 5

OK.
How bad is it living with your mom? Is their any physical or mental abuse? Or is she just asking you to do chores around the house?
I'm sure this can be worked out with your mom. I assume you want to do less work around the house, but still have the freedom that you believe your age dictates you should have... after all; you are legally an adult.
However, being an adult calls for certain sacrifices.
If l were you, I would talk to your mom and try to work out a fair deal in which you can be treated less like a slave. You must be willing to make sacrifices on your end too. (take a bigger role in the paying of the rent for example). To be treated like an adult you must be willing to sacrifice like one as well.

If all discussions fail with your mom, move in to your boyfriends, get an education and for GODS sake, don't get pregnant before age 30. Life will be a "snap" after your mid 20's if you act your age (which is still quite young...19.. so have a little fun) responsibly...

I repeat... act your age responsibly.

Good luck

Answer 6

Why don't you just decide to stay with your friend until you can figure out the next thing to do. You'll either end up working things out with your mother or else take steps to be able to find a place on your own.

The main thing right now is to just stay somewhere for a little while until you figure out what to do. You're only 19 years, which may seem grown-up but which really is still pretty young. You need to figure out what to do next, but you won't be able to do that if you don't have a place to stay.

Answer 7

At 19, you are old enough to hold a job and be on your own.

If your Mom treated you that way, you are better off on your own. Look up the United Way, Welfare Department to check into subsidized housing, Job Corp or Homeless shelter in your local region and any of the above can assist you with temporary housing and assistance in finding a job.

Answer 8

Lol sturdy i think we've the respond for overpopulation. If the lady did not make certain upon to coach out to be pregnant then get rid of it. guy with a objective to truly scale back on the transport value. anyhow, particular it could harm. relies upon upon the variety. Do assume some cramping, bleeding ect. i might additionally ingredient out (a super form of the time now not to your case) despite if some women pass by using emotional discomfort afterwards. I comprehend it variety of feels like a rant, yet incredibly some women come out of there emotionally scarred considering the undeniable fact that of the tactic or selection or something.

Answer 9

maybe try getting a job first,getting your own place. Getting things into your place may take some time & work at it. You can save up for your own place your education (or maybe u can apply for a bursery or scholership which may help). Maybe if u ask your boyfriends parents to help you out initially & you will get them rent & so fourth back (if they are wanting rent payments).

I am really sorry for what happened to you. God make it easy.

Good Luck

Answer 10

If you are living in your Mothers home an she is paying the bills then you need to follow her rules. It's her home and you are an adult! Other wise get a job, your own place and then you can make your own rules. You sound like you still need her, so follow her rules(in the meantime) and work on getting a job and becoming independant.