does anybody out there think that long distance relationships work?

Answer 1

It depends

If the two of you have a serious commitment to each other, and there is a compelling reason to be apart for a *limited* period of time, it can work

otherwise, it still can work, but beware that time will pass much faster than your relationship will progress, leading to an imballance and loss of time - for instance, if you see each other 2 weekends a month, then it's like for every 7 1/2 months that go by, it's like you've dated one month - in some ways more, because you can be talking on the phone in between visits, and in some ways less, because it's like you keep starting over when you see them in person

you have to be much harder headed with yourself, being honest about whether it really has a future. Because otherwise, it's easy to settle into a trap of limbo, where the relationship doesnt get the chance to move forward through tests that it either suceeds or fails in, nor does it slip back far enough to end it and move on with your lives.

some relationships that start out long distance end up happily. But it's not uncommon for people to just end up older and nowhere

Just be honest with yourselves

Answer 2

Yes, yes, and yes. Don't let anyone convince you that they never work. Never say never, in life. Anything is possible.

Do face to face relations work all the time? Nope. So u know what I mean now.

A relationship is a 2-way thing. If both like and love each other, and want to stay in touch, and feel emotionally connected, who can separate them? True love scales all distance. This is not a foolish, romantic thought, but it's a very sensible thought. Both just need to have patience, and lots and lots of trust. Honest communication and an expressive nature is invaluable. They shd try to keep planning something, like meeting, so they have that to look forward to.

There are many examples of LDR's working. It depends on the 2 of them and how motivated they are. If both give up even before starting, then naturally LDR's will fall apart in an instant.

Granted, LDR's are tough and painful, but if we keep the right perspective, it teaches us mental and emotional strength. It also really tests the strength of a relationship, which in a way is a good thing.

So go for it and do ur best is my advise. Don't give up even before trying it out. Only time has the answers.

Answer 3

If it's a distance you can drive to spend a weekend, then yes. If it's further than that try just being friends til you live closer to each other. I've done the long distance thing a few times, it can be convenient if you're a very busy and indpendant person, but it an also be a real drag.
What's the point of having a committed, intimate relationship with someone that you never see?

Answer 4

Some do and some do not. Depends sometime on the age of the two in a relationship. Adult long distance ones can last, but takes a lot of work. Teenage is only a maybe. Under 16 is more of a getting bored with it thing and each move on to some one closer to where they are at. This is only my opinion and not necessarily true it all cases. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

I have only known of one, which was a former co-worker residing in the U.S. met man from Austrailia and they IMed and emailed for about 3 years before meeting, met, hit it off so well that he decided to move to the U.S. and got a job a few states away where they could meet every few months. After about 2 years of that, he asked her to marry him and they married and have been together for about 7 years now.

Answer 6

My boyfriend and I live about 2 hours apart. I don't know if that qualifies as "long distance" but it's too long for me. It does work, and we are going to be getting married. If you want to make it work, you will.

Answer 7

YES! distance make the heart grow fonder..

Less quarreling, less headache. And trust is really important.

Like Cupid said to Psyche; "LOVE cannot live without trust.."

Answer 8

No because the chance of both people in the relationship not finding someone who they like and CAN spend their time with is unlikely.

Answer 9

personally i do to a certain extent...me and my boyfriend had a long distance relationship for awhile and now we live together.It just takes alot of TRUST and hard work thats all..and both people have to be willing to do both!

Answer 10

yes l does.when 2 people love each other,doesnt matter what ,lt works.l myself had such experience and believe me,lt was the best relationship l had ever had so far....